mindykaling Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 Two weeks ago I went out on a date with this guy I met off of OkCupid. The date went really well. I found out we had more in common than I thought. He looked better than he does in his photos. He even hinted that he would take me to a few restaurants I haven't been to before. We didn't kiss or anything after the date. He did text me after he came home from his date, and said he would like to go out again sometime. We've texted back and forth the next few weeks after. We just chat about our day, the weather, etc. He never brought up the second date again. So, I decided to bring it up a few days ago. He said he would like to this coming week. I told him when I was available and that was that. I left the ball in his court. We've only had casual text conversations since. Should I ask him if he's interested in dating or should I stop texting altogether? We both have busy schedules that kind of clash, but if you like someone you should make some time and effort. I'm tired of wondering what his intentions are. I had good vibes on the date, but now I'm not so sure. It sucks because I do like him and I think it could've been a good thing. I don't want to be just his "texting buddy."
Barbarossa Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I would ask him when he's free from work and then ask him out. What's the worst that could happen?
scooby-philly Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 @ Mindy That depends on who he is and what he wants. Try and analyze who he is and what his past is, from what you know. Some guys have been hurt in the past or have had experiences or advice that tell them to go slow or avoid getting hurt. Or, perhaps he's not yet comfortable initiating stuff. I have gone out with someone on two dates after talking online with them for two weeks and we've texted/ talked a number of times since we first went out. I think she's great so far but I know she's divorced and she's also buying a condo so I'm trying to take things slow realizing both of those things are probably weighing on her mind/heart. She's been receptive and open thus far, so I'm trying to let her set the pace of things. It's completely frustrating from a guy's perspective, but I get where she may be coming from. So, to your question - if you feel one way and don't get anything from him, you need to ask.
Author mindykaling Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 Thanks. Honesty is the best policy. He's a great guy. I know he got burned by his ex over a year go. Maybe he does want to take things slow, which I don't mind. Or maybe he's not sure about dating. He admitted he's new to the whole dating thing again. I guess I'll have to feel him out and ask.
Author mindykaling Posted February 21, 2014 Author Posted February 21, 2014 I asked him and no response. We haven't talked since Tuesday. I guess I got my answer.
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