monsoon281 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 So I dated this girl for two years. Our relationship was awesome.. best friends deep love etc. It was our plan to run away to Texas together from California. We had not been having sex much or communicating well the last two months since I was stressed about applying for jobs and she was stressed about moving. At the last minute she told me she couldn't move out of the state. I broke down and said ok we'll get a job in LA etc. She then dumped me saying she felt the passion had been lost in the relationship and that she wanted to be single and that I needed to prove I could live a life without her. I was heart broken as we had been seriously talking about marriage, children etc. So I asked her if there was hope in getting together down the road. She said there was but we would have to go back to dating and that it wasn't exclusive ie we could date and sleep with other people... and that she didn't know how long this would last.. a month or several months etc. I found this to be gut wrenching after being so close. It's like she wanted to play with me to see how I sized up to some other options. I wrote her a goodbye note saying she was wonderful, i am at peace, good luck etc. only positives, and went NC to protect myself (she started posting skanky pictures on facebook to solicit male attention). Two weeks into NC she messaged me to say "hi sam. are you there?". Confused.. I waited a day and sent her a message back saying "hi. what is your motive in contacting me?". It has been a week since then and she hasn't replied. WTF? I know shes very afraid of confrontation in general and perhaps I came across as confrontational. I just feel I need to protect myself in this situation and turtle up.. but this last communication is confusing the hell out of me :/.
WantanS4 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 We told ya man... don't do it. I know it's difficult, but here's where you man up.
Author monsoon281 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 Thank you again for the support Wantan you are an amazing supportive person. I really appreciate it. Your posts help me turn my sadness into acceptance and anger which really helps. I hit the crap out of the bags at kickboxing today haha .
notthathard Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 Dont worry man, let it go. We all make mistakes, it's funny how most of the dumpers have the same psychology working where they message the dumpee and when the dumpee messages back they don't reply.
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