realfriends Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 So whenever I meet a friend of mines girlfriend or just a girl friend of theirs, I never know whether to give them a handshake, just kinda say hey nice to meet you, or what. So my question to ladies is what do you prefer/ feel most comfortable with?
oz-missy Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I'm happy with whatever (as long as it's not a slobbery kiss - eww!). Just feel out the situation and go with whatever feels comfortable for you.
notthathard Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I'm not a female, but I think a handshake is better as it has human touch
d0nnivain Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 It depends & my answer has changed over the years. In college & my early twenties, it used to be a verbal greeting only, no touching. As I began my career in a male dominated field, I got more used to shaking hands because that is the way most men greet each other in business. Now it's almost automatic for me to stick out my hand in greeting when I meet someone new. Men don't blink an eye, most women above late 30s who are in business are OK with it even in a social setting, younger women & those who have never had the business experience often hesitate before shaking my hand. Neither is wrong, even in a social setting. Do what makes you comfortable. What I don't care for is when people I don't know want to greet me with a peck on the cheek. 1
Tayla Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 When residing in europe it is a common greeting to gently kiss upon each cheek. Never in an intrusive manner, rather friendly perhaps. Professionally , even as a lady I give a confident handshake. Learned to not be a wet fish or a demure handshake, never gets ya thru a board meeting. After hours and with friends a hug or a gentle side kiss is also common upon meetups. Now here is where I draw the line- IF a guy I am dating introduces me to any of his friends or relatives, its a gracious hand shake. I respect his relations and make no bones about . If I care about his parents then a gentle hug on holidays is acceptable. My dating men also know the rules, no deep hugging my lady friends/relatives, He regards that line.
xxmusical Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 I think it depends on the situation. On casual level, if the girl is your friend's girlfriend, a wave and a hi would be good enough for an introduction. Not all of my bf's friends give me a hug even after knowing them for years. But on professional level, if the girl is, for example, your manager's girlfriend or something, a handshake would be good. But really, do whatever that makes you comfortable. As long as you don't cross personal boundaries on a first time meeting, a wave or a handshake would suffice.
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