LostConfused123 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 My recent break up obviously shattered my self esteem but I have been doing all I can to recover. I'm not sure if anyone else has had this issue but it's getting worse, especially when I'm around my mother. As far as she knows I am totally over it and dating again. I recently joined a dating site but nothing has come of it. Just haven't met anyone I want to date yet. Anyway, my mother constantly nit picks me. My clothes, my hair, my nails, my art work lately (it's been a little dark and depressing, but it's how I feel and it is helping) She even criticizes the kind of peanut butter I buy. I know she loves me and is trying to help but her constantly asking about my dating life or lack there of and "what's wrong with me that I can't get a date" is driving me crazy!!! The reason she thinks I'm over my break up is because frankly I don't think she has ever felt this kind of pain and when I tried to talk to her about it she would cut me off and tell me to stop talking about him. I'm getting to the point that I want to avoid her, at least for a while even though that would hurt her. It's just lately after visiting with her, I leave feeling so much worse and even angry. Btw, I'm 42!!! She STILL treats me like a child. I love her but she is extremely controlling. I mean REALLY controlling! My brother barely.speaks to her because of this. But at least he's in a long term relationship and can kinda blow it off. Just venting, I guess. I just want my self esteem back and it's taking so much more strength than I may have. I keep reminding myself I'm pretty, smart, funny, loyal, I have my own business, I'm very hard worker. . . etc. Anyway, she really wants grandchildren and pressures me constantly I need to meet someone before it's "too late" it's making me feel like I completely failed
WantanS4 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 ??? What's wrong with you?!??! Seriously??!?! No, I'm joking... See, cause the reality of it is that I don't know how you feel or what you're thinking, so it's not possible for you to take me seriously and actually be offended. See how that works?? Afterall, the saying is 'you can only be held accountable for your own actions.' And also, it's not your mother's vagina (can I say that??), it's yours. Smile... You're a woman, and just by being so, you have something (if not dozens) that's alluring to men. 1
Author LostConfused123 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 ??? What's wrong with you?!??! Seriously??!?! No, I'm joking... See, cause the reality of it is that I don't know how you feel or what you're thinking, so it's not possible for you to take me seriously and actually be offended. See how that works?? Afterall, the saying is 'you can only be held accountable for your own actions.' And also, it's not your mother's vagina (can I say that??), it's yours. Smile... You're a woman, and just by being so, you have something (if not dozens) that's alluring to men. LOL!!! yes, you can say vagina Thanks for making me laugh. I needed that!! And I'm sure I'm not the only one with an overbearing parent that likes to remind me what a crushing disappointment I am. just kidding! sort of. I know she's actually trying to help. ((hugs!!))
WantanS4 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 LOL!!! yes, you can say vagina Thanks for making me laugh. I needed that!! And I'm sure I'm not the only one with an overbearing parent that likes to remind me what a crushing disappointment I am. just kidding! sort of. I know she's actually trying to help. ((hugs!!)) Wait... but you're not a crushing disappointment... you've got a pussy (can I say that??) and there are millions of men who will love you for that.... While that's not exactly the sole angle you should take in finding some self esteem, don't forget that's very desirable by men lol.
Author LostConfused123 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 Wait... but you're not a crushing disappointment... you've got a pussy (can I say that??) and there are millions of men who will love you for that.... While that's not exactly the sole angle you should take in finding some self esteem, don't forget that's very desirable by men lol. LOL!! gotcha and also. . . . good point!!
Author LostConfused123 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 Seriously WantanS4, Thank you for making me laugh. I truly believe laughter is the best medicine and I'm beginning to feel silly for getting all worked up over this.
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