Mysterion Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 This girl I like broke up with her boyfriend recently which I believe she did yesterday.She was in a complicated relationship 3 years on and off about 6 times. She was already planning on breaking up with the guy. I've known her for around a month.We both are in the go to the same college. She knows my intentions because I told her if it didn't work out with him we can give it a shot and see where it goes. She told me after she fixes her situation we can.We've skyped a couple of times for an hour to three hours and she always responded to my texts.I texted her last night but she didn't respond. I even sent a good morning text to her today since she responded very well to the first one I sent her about a week and half ago but this time she didn't respond at all. I know there was attraction there it was plain obvious. I'm going to lay low for a week or two to see what happens and then contact her again or see if she contacts me through that time. But what gives?
awkwardturtle Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 She just broke up with her bf yesterday? I would wait and let her contact you. She was with him for a long time and may be going through a lot emotionally. At worst she could be having second thoughts about the break-up, or maybe he didn't want to break up and she feels horrible for hurting him. It's hard to say but you should give her time to process it.
Omei Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I want you to think on this carefully... She left a guy of 3 years she may be hurting, also she skyped with you while she was with him knowing your hopes and intentions that overall means if your in a relationship with her there's a good chance she will be okay with talking to other men also online. If she gets with you at this moment its likely a rebound. Her saying there is a chance after she fixes her situation and then laying low to me, is a good sign it means the relationship ment something to her and she's not quite ready to just jump into a another value this about her, she prob just needs space. 2
Author Mysterion Posted February 21, 2014 Author Posted February 21, 2014 yes she did break up with him.I think she is trying to recover according to her tweets on twitter. She still follows me and has me on skype. So probably does need space.
Syconort Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 yes she did break up with him.I think she is trying to recover according to her tweets on twitter. She still follows me and has me on skype. So probably does need space. According to her tweets on twitter? I wouldn't even read her tweets. Just let her know you're there for support if she needs it, then step back. She will grieve in her own way, and you don't want to be the rebound. If she knows how you feel, she'll come back when she's ready. I'm in a very similar situation except she hasn't split with her boyfriend yet and she doesn't know how I feel and now I realise I'm not actually in a similar situation at all! Anyway, be the rock she needs. Don't push yourself on her, just let her know you're there.
Scales Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 If you ask me you are about to be emotionally used. Don't get your hopes up too high. If they were on or off before, chances they will just get back together later in some way or another. If she wanted to get with you she would be with you already. It doesn't matter how/when/what she texts or tweets. Follow what she does. If shes not putting invest in you, then run. You will get taken for a painful ride. 1
Author Mysterion Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 (edited) Well I waited 9 days and I texted her last night saying how she was doing. That I haven't heard from her hoping everything was ok. She greeted me back and said she has been going through somethings. That she didn't mean not to talk to me. and that she was sorry. I just told her it's alright no harm done. I asked her what's going on she said just some things don't worry she'll be fine. I ended up changing the topic we texted for a bit more not much. I ended the conversation by inviting her along with some om my friends since we might be going to the beach this weekend. she told me to tell her the time and she will see if she can go. sent her a good night text to end the conversation didn't even send a smilely. She sent a goodnight text back with one. Am I doing this right? I don't want to ask her for a one on one activity yet so the only logical thing to do right now was to invite her to a group thing. Edited February 28, 2014 by Mysterion
Noproblem Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I think you did the right thing, just make sure no hot guys are invited to the beach trip
Author Mysterion Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 I think you did the right thing, just make sure no hot guys are invited to the beach trip One of my friends has a gf already. The other one I'm not worried about since I told him about her breaking up with the bf situation. He actually offered to give me a ride if I end up wanting to do something together with her. 1
Noproblem Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 One of my friends has a gf already. The other one I'm not worried about since I told him about her breaking up with the bf situation. He actually offered to give me a ride if I end up wanting to do something together with her. Cool, so I really hope she will come then...
Author Mysterion Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 Cool, so I really hope she will come then... looks like the beach won't happen because my friend gets out late. We are going to the mall and to watch a movie instead. looks like I have to tell her about the plan change. 1
Noproblem Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 looks like the beach won't happen because my friend gets out late. We are going to the mall and to watch a movie instead. looks like I have to tell her about the plan change. Movies and the mall is a good idea too.....
David87 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Op be very careful not to fal in the friend zone or even worse be her rebound. No good can come out of this because she just broke up with her boyfriend.
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