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NC for a month. He showed up and said he wanted to clear the air and that I deserved an in person breakup. Then he calls me after he left saying he wants to do an ldr with me which is why he dumped me. Wth?

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Looks like he wants an insurance policy for whenever he's back in town and wants a shag. Not cool.

 

Unless you really want the BS that goes with a LDR I would say it's a no deal.

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Exactly, WTH? Who would come to your door to just break up with you 'in person', I mean come on, what does he want. Hurt you and then rub it into your face? selfish.

 

And he changed his mind straight after? Indeed sound like puting you on a back-up plan.

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NC for a month. He showed up and said he wanted to clear the air and that I deserved an in person breakup. Then he calls me after he left saying he wants to do an ldr with me which is why he dumped me. Wth?

 

IMHO, he came to break up with you in person because he still cares a lot for you and may have felt bad about however it went down. He could have been telling the truth - if he moved away he may have seen a LDR as unfair to you and broken up with you. A poor reaction to the situation, but one probably clouded by emotion. He may have even seen this as chivalrous. Put yourself in his shoes and think through his decisions one by one.

 

I don't know your reaction to him showing up - however I am thinking that seeing you again evoked memories and emotions and he realized he does in fact want a relationship with you still. Yes a bit selfish to ask for the LDR at that point in time, however possibly non-intentional selfishness.

 

If you want the LDR, set boundaries to prevent yourself from being used or being a back-up. If you want to heal and move on, I suppose go no contact but not before telling him that you are doing so.

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Looks like he wants an insurance policy for whenever he's back in town and wants a shag. Not cool.

 

Unless you really want the BS that goes with a LDR I would say it's a no deal.

 

Exactly. He doesn't want to completely shut the door for his benefit. It's not for your benefit.

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