markolson Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 last night my girlfriend came over, on her way she called and said she was wanting a milkshake and asked if i wanted one. i had just ate a big dinner so i said no, but told her i would split one and i would go with her. she said nevermind, i only want one if u get one i said sorry and she said whatever. the later she was like "the one time i need a milkshake and it figures you don't need one" she didn't mention it again, should i worry she is upset?
TheNewMe2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 yep - relationship drama. Let it go. It's tough to do that. She wanted to share in something with you or feel less guilty. If there was no 'hidden agenda' on your part..let it go.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Pardon me? She's starting drama because of a freakin' milkshake? Good heavens. No, you shouldn't be worried if she's upset because that indicates a serious lack of maturity on her part. How old is she? Ridiculous.
Author markolson Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Pardon me? She's starting drama because of a freakin' milkshake? Good heavens. No, you shouldn't be worried if she's upset because that indicates a serious lack of maturity on her part. How old is she? Ridiculous. i just didnt want her to think i dont care about her
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Dude just man up and have a milkshake next time. In woman language she called you a punk. She heard, "I just ate a big meal I might get a tummy ache". I would have said something like, "I just destroyed a huge meal. But hell yeah I'll have a shake with you as long as we can figure out how to burn off all these calories later". If she wanted a chocolate milkshake you messed up double. I'm assuming your both pretty young. But some women when they get stressed go to the comfort foods... chocolate... milkshakes etc etc What she might have been really asking for was support and to listen to her problems. When she does this don't solve her problems. Just be a man, drink a milkshake, and tell her you can relate and understand how she feels.
shinealight Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Well if she keeps having drama's/arguments over silly things then really start to think about the relationship before it starts to get worse.
Zahara Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 i just didnt want her to think i dont care about her Good god. Just because you didn't want a whole milkshake and compromised that you would share one with her and even offered to go with her indicates you don't care? You both don't need to be tied at the hip bone. She's a grown woman and if she wants a milkshake, get a milkshake. If her boyfriend doesn't feel like a milkshake, then he doesn't feel like a milkshake. "The one time I need a milkshake it figures you don't need one." I can't imagine the chaos when you both have real, hard pressing relationship problems.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 i just didnt want her to think i dont care about her Because you didn't want a milkshake at the same time that she did? Go find your backbone, man! 1
Keenly Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Dude just man up and have a milkshake next time. In woman language she called you a punk. She heard, "I just ate a big meal I might get a tummy ache". I would have said something like, "I just destroyed a huge meal. But hell yeah I'll have a shake with you as long as we can figure out how to burn off all these calories later". If she wanted a chocolate milkshake you messed up double. I'm assuming your both pretty young. But some women when they get stressed go to the comfort foods... chocolate... milkshakes etc etc What she might have been really asking for was support and to listen to her problems. When she does this don't solve her problems. Just be a man, drink a milkshake, and tell her you can relate and understand how she feels. No... you don't man up by getting a milkshake. You man up by calling her ridiculous mind game guilt trip BULLCRAP. As soon as she starts getting pissy, you say " excuse me? Are you being passive aggressive over a milkshake? " and if her response is anything other than " its stupid I know, I'm sorry " then you say its time for you to go home. And you let her think about how much of a child she is. Giving into her madness is not " manning up " that's being a doormat.
soccerrprp Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I think her response was more than about him not wanting a milkshake. ...i said sorry and she said whatever. the later she was like "the one time i need a milkshake and it figures you don't need one"... This sharp response leads me to believe that there is accusation here. "the ONE time I NEED" and "it FIGURES YOU don't" ....how is your relationship? Do you argue much? I could be over-analyzing this, but her response is too curt simply over a milkshake. She wanted her own milkshake and you offered to split one. Who usually decides when to go out and for what? Anyway, interesting...good luck with that.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 No... you don't man up by getting a milkshake. You man up by calling her ridiculous mind game guilt trip BULLCRAP. As soon as she starts getting pissy, you say " excuse me? Are you being passive aggressive over a milkshake? " and if her response is anything other than " its stupid I know, I'm sorry " then you say its time for you to go home. And you let her think about how much of a child she is. Giving into her madness is not " manning up " that's being a doormat. You have to reread my second paragraph I think. There is something you missed in there. You could scold her and send her on her way. And your right you will have some adversarial control with that move. Or you could make her feel secure and have some rocking sex. I banged a lot of guys girlfriends and wives because they didn't go get a milkshake with them or some such crap. Just saying...
Shepp Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I banged a lot of guys girlfriends and wives because they didn't go get a milkshake with them They should use that as their advertising slogan! 3
Keenly Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 You have to reread my second paragraph I think. There is something you missed in there. You could scold her and send her on her way. And your right you will have some adversarial control with that move. Or you could make her feel secure and have some rocking sex. I banged a lot of guys girlfriends and wives because they didn't go get a milkshake with them or some such crap. Just saying... It works in the short term but not in the long term. It will make her happy in the moment but slowly erode your manhood and her respect for you . If its a cut and run though, sure.
deathandtaxes Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 last night my girlfriend came over, on her way she called and said she was wanting a milkshake and asked if i wanted one. i had just ate a big dinner so i said no, but told her i would split one and i would go with her. she said nevermind, i only want one if u get one i said sorry and she said whatever. the later she was like "the one time i need a milkshake and it figures you don't need one" she didn't mention it again, should i worry she is upset? You should be more worried that she's trying to emotionally blackmail you over some milkshake bs. 1
LostConfused123 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 I'm a woman and I'm completely baffled by her behavior! Idk, not to many men like lemon cupcakes but if I stop to get one, I'll ask if he wants one. Even though I know he'll say no just good manners.
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