nebulae Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I got talking to a guy on POF a few weeks ago, we skyped for the first time yesterday. I found him really hot (I don't find many guys that attractive), we have the same values/outlook. I knew as soon as I saw him I didn't stand a chance; what does a good looking guy like him want with a plain Jane babyface like me? The next day he was distant, today I text him asking him to be honest and my fears were confirmed, he doesn't see any long-term compatibility. Starting from now, I'm completely giving up on even talking or thinking about a relationship, and start saving to have a child via sperm donor when I'm 25. I'm not waiting for any man that may or may not decide i'm good enough for them. I've always wanted to be a mother, and if I can't do it the tradtional way, I'll do it by myself.
organizedchaos Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I got talking to a guy on POF a few weeks ago, we skyped for the first time yesterday. I found him really hot (I don't find many guys that attractive), we have the same values/outlook. I knew as soon as I saw him I didn't stand a chance; what does a good looking guy like him want with a plain Jane babyface like me? The next day he was distant, today I text him asking him to be honest and my fears were confirmed, he doesn't see any long-term compatibility. Starting from now, I'm completely giving up on even talking or thinking about a relationship, and start saving to have a child via sperm donor when I'm 25. I'm not waiting for any man that may or may not decide i'm good enough for them. I've always wanted to be a mother, and if I can't do it the tradtional way, I'll do it by myself. What's the rush? You on a deadline or something? 1
Teraskas Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I got talking to a guy on POF a few weeks ago, we skyped for the first time yesterday. I found him really hot (I don't find many guys that attractive), we have the same values/outlook. I knew as soon as I saw him I didn't stand a chance; what does a good looking guy like him want with a plain Jane babyface like me? The next day he was distant, today I text him asking him to be honest and my fears were confirmed, he doesn't see any long-term compatibility. Starting from now, I'm completely giving up on even talking or thinking about a relationship, and start saving to have a child via sperm donor when I'm 25. I'm not waiting for any man that may or may not decide i'm good enough for them. I've always wanted to be a mother, and if I can't do it the tradtional way, I'll do it by myself. I hope this is not about me. I won't lie, truth told, you look good from my perspective. It's just that I'm not big on long-distance stuff because I prefer to be close to that significant other. But I'm sure there are plenty of decent likeminded guys in the UK. Just don't give up, despite personal experience.
Author nebulae Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 I hope this is not about me. I won't lie, truth told, you look good from my perspective. It's just that I'm not big on long-distance stuff because I prefer to be close to that significant other. But I'm sure there are plenty of decent likeminded guys in the UK. Just don't give up, despite personal experience. Lol, no:o Thank you
Teraskas Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Lol, no:o Thank you Ah good. ^^ I was feeling bad for a moment for letting you down, lol.
JDPT Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Take this time to focus on YOU, build yourself a solid foundation so you can then develop solid relationships. 1
pickflicker Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Why are you panicking? Look, the vast majority of people you speak to online are going to reject you for one reason or another. That's just how it works. Just because you haven't met the guy yet doesn't mean you won't. But you'll have a hard time meeting him with an attitude like "**** my life." Why the need to be a mother by 25?
mr_dave Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Don't give up nebulae! You'll find someone relationship orientated. There are decent guys out there. I'm a guy in the UK on POF, I have filled out a fairly funny detailed profile, have made it clear I'm looking for a relationship, and sent out carefully crafted, interesting messages to ladies saying they are looking for a relationship too. I get no replies ever! All I can conclude is that women are snowed under by correspondence from decent looking, well intentioned guys. That or I'm a complete train wreck! Don't be disheartened, there really is no rush!
Targetlock Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 like myself you are far too young to give up yet and yes I'm also in the UK and after a serious relationship. you are probably lovely in your own special way and eventually someone will come along who will see you for that always happy to chat. 1
oz-missy Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I'm guessing you're a lot younger than 25, in order to save up by that age. Dating in the late teens/early 20s is a lot different to when you get even a couple of years older. Don't let one idiot spoil a great time of your life when you should be out there meeting new people and just experiencing life. Unless there's something medical that requires you to have a child by 25, there really is no need to rush. I applaud you for thinking into the future but there's no need to go to drastic measures just yet. 1
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