sadgirly Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I've been in a long distance relationship with my ex for 6 months. We met in an online game. Then in real life we saw eachother every month for 1 week or weekend. And we talked everyday through skype. My issue is that i'm a very clingy and depressive person in the last few months, and he spend time to help me. But at some point he said he was sick of this awkward relationship where i ask for too much attention. And we talked about it and he really seem to understand me and i would work on myself to give him his space, trying to focus on my own life etc. After i told him i would work really hard on myself i made plans to find a doctor to talk with, look even harder to find a better job, quitting the game etc. I made appointments and tried to improve myself. But that same week i had a very bad day, they were about to fire me at work, a family member got depressed so i was online talking to my ex for 4 hours about those stuff. I told him i didn't want to bother him with sadness and he understood. side note:In the game we play he knows a way to earn lots of money, and when i found out i asked for a share. He didn't want it at first but later gave it out of gratitude. Then i found a website for him to sell it for real money, and he gave me the idea that when i sell it i would get 50/50. One day later he tried my website himself and made me an amount of money. I thanked him and told him i wanna go on vacation with him of that money. But i was also curious about his future plans if i can still sell it for him and do 50/50. He said he will do it himself from now on. He also started to realise that he needed the money himself. So i got jealous and needed time to realise that. I still felt affected by the day before and came over very needy. He became angry and deleted me in the game, blocked me from the raid group, blocked my phone number etc. Except on skype where he let me talk but didn't response, and after a while he deleted me there too. I had a friend who tried to talk to him and my ex told him that ive always been very sad for him, that im jealous etc. he gave my some examples as well that happened during the relationship. He didn't know if he wanted to go back to the relation because he would show weakness, and said i didn't deserve it. Then my friend stopped talking to him. In the meantime i tried calling him and send him emails but no response. Then i tried to apologize for my behaviour and i asked if there is a second chance. He responded with ''maybe''. 2 days later i couldn't hold myself any longer and told him i wanna give him as much time as he needs to make a decision, so i actually pushed him. I finally asked if i should move on or wait. He responded by ''you should move on''. I replied by:''thanks for everything, i wish u the best. x''. So yeah, i will start focusing on myself. But is there any chance he will contact me in the future? The day before he broke up he said he want to make things work in this relation. But yeah i pushed him too far now:(
lvroflife Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 You gave him an ultimatum! And when you do that you will 9/10 get the negative answer. When he says give him time to think, that is exactly what you do...GIVE HIM TIME. he already told you it was a 50/50 chance with "maybe" right then you should have left it. But you came back 2 days later and asked again... He was already feeling some kind of way with your behavior and that 2 day thinking period pushed him. All you can do now is just focus on getting your doctor and working on you. Learn from this and take the lesson. He may or may not come back.. GO NO CONTACT. And not in hopes of him coming back, but so you can heal and focus on you!! Build your confidence!! You will get through this!!
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