lvroflife Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Today is a tough day. Been 2 weeks NC, and I am struggling. I miss her so much, and want to reach out. The urge keeps coming in waves. I try to think about the negatives of our relationship, but the positives just come in! I am strong band won't give in, but they are very strong!
David87 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Stay strong and dont break NC, It will set you back and you'll feel much worse.
Author lvroflife Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Yea I know it will. Just every morning is so tough. Tough going from speaking at least once a day to not speaking at all.
David87 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I went from speaking every hour of the day to nothing in les than 24 hours so I can relate to your situation. 1
Tae Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Keep strong, don't break NC. I did try to reach out, and got nothing in return. It did hurt so much, worse than you think.
Gemini x Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I'm right there with you. The urge is horrible sometimes. All you want is that second of relief after reaching out but it's not worth it. It's like a habit, you gotta get your fix. No matter what, please don't do it. I'm having to force myself not to also. I just can't imagine the pain of my ex telling me he's seeing someone else or isn't in love with me anymore and that stops me dead in my tracks. There's things he could say to me that would push me over the edge so I'd rather not be around for it. I know it's hard, sooooo hard, maybe one of the hardest things you'll ever go through but everyone's right when they say you'll get over it. I think back to all of my relationships, and even though my ex meant more to me than ANY of them and I was truly in love with him, I did get over everybody else eventually. Just think of how you felt happy and alive before your relationship. You will get that back again. *hugs* 2
Author lvroflife Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 (edited) Thank you!! I am trying. I did slip I checked instagram (where she still follows me) as and all our pics are still up. As well on FB too. Edited February 19, 2014 by lvroflife
Gemini x Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Thank you!! I am trying. I did slip I checked instagram (where she still follows me) as and all our pics are still up. As well on FB too. My ex deleted me from fb 2 weeks ago but up until last night I was still peeking and he still has all of our photos up. Very personal/intimate ones and I know if he was seeing someone, they'd not be on there. I know him and when he's really, truly done, she doesn't exist any longer. While that made me feel better it was making it worse in the end. So I've stopped peeking. You should do the same. You know it would hurt if you looked and she'd taken them down. Try to stop looking, please. xx
Annie767 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I know how much it hurts. I looked at his cover photo and he'd changed it (a few weeks back) and it only hurt me and made me read into things that weren't there. I was then obsessing over what it meant etc (since found its back with is other ex- after 4 years with me) but it shouldn't matter! He chose to leave my life and hang me out to dry. I know he's moved on and there are so many things I want answering and I want to fix way of thinking make him realise he was wrong....but this can never happen. Listen to the posters on here, they've really helped me these past few weeks. I've kept a journal aswell of letters to him....it's amazing going through and seeing how the tone has changed! Huge xx
Author lvroflife Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 (edited) Thanks. I am definitely trying to stop the snooping. My ex is the type to delete instantly. She is always removing pictures from her social media. I'm trying not to look at it as false hope, but I know her and she is quick with the delete button. PS.. Please read my original post about my break called "so lost and torn". Edited February 19, 2014 by lvroflife
Annie767 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I've read it and it does look like a very unhealthy relationship, you need a girl who's thinking is compatible with yours. I know it's difficult to admit that you were wrong about her being 'the one'. I was with my man for four years and I'm coming to terms with the fact that I may have been wrong and he's proven he isn't for me, just like this girl with you. First loves are always intense, My ex was my first love at 17 before I moved to university then after years apart we came back together ......seemed like it was meant to be!! You can do this, if I can, you certainly can. Have a look at my first post
Author lvroflife Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Wow Annie!! Clearly he is not ready for anything, and he is a douche! Might I add he seems manipulative!! That is toxic on all levels!! As far as me and my ex well, it was rocky and the arguments stemmed from her fear of being hurt! She wasn't my first love, though. Before her I had two 7 year relationships (one was an engagement which I broke off, the other we lived together). But this was the first girl I could see me with for life. I do know she is overwhelmed with her move and her new job. She has stated she was numerous times and has cried to me a number of times. She stated she feels lonely down there with no friends and before she moved she stated she felt she was losing me because of the move. She finally admitted to being scared... One time when I was there we took a train and when we got back to he rplace she cried and satetd again she is so overwhelmed! Do I sound like I am trying to justify her behavior or making excuses? I just really love her and the break up came out the blue! 1 minute asking me to come see her and telling me she loves me then 5 minutes later yelling and crying!! CONFUSION!!
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