denxnis Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Long story short I was with a girl I met in high school for 5 years. I spent all of my college days with her and we ended up breaking up a little over a year ago. It was a nasty break-up and when I tried to reconcile with her just a day or two shy of the break-up I found out she was already sleeping with her coworker. I begged and pleaded like an idiot for a good month and I finally gave up. Since then I've put on about 30lbs of muscle, got invisalign, graduated college, started a new job, and bought my first house. Now that everything is going great news gets around that she and the guy broke up.. I was happy to hear this for some reason, not because I had been waiting for her... Then a few days later I get a long text about how she is sorry for the way things ended and hopes that I am doing good. A couple days past and I decided to just ignore it however my gut tells me to respond and say something like "water under the bridge, hope you are doing well too" only because I hate being spiteful. I'm over the relationship and have moved on. I'm still single but I'm happy being single and don't have any intention/plans to get back with this woman. What are your thoughts?
Winter blue Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Good on you for moving on and spending time to improve yourself OP. She is sorry but she said nothing about wanting you back. She is just easing her guilt. Stay silent, that is more than a million words you can say to her now, it's not about being spiteful, it's the way to say you have moved on and can't care less about what she thinks anymore. Do not reply. You are winning now, be proud of yourself and just ignore her. 3
Simon Phoenix Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 If you are truly over it and this won't set you back, just send something short such as "Thanks for the apology. Hope things are well." Just something simple, short and close-ended. 2
StGeorge22 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Agree with simon, if you don't want her back you have nothing to gain or lose, do just something sweet. If she wants to engage further, then that is another story
Simon Phoenix Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Agree with simon, if you don't want her back you have nothing to gain or lose, do just something sweet. If she wants to engage further, then that is another story No, he shouldn't do something sweet. Just be polite and short. The last thing he should do is be sweet, or mean.
Arieswoman Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 It's always very sad when people realise too late they have made a big mistake. She's sorry a year later ? Nah. Her life has gone down the tubes and she's lonely and clutching at straws. You can bet your life if she was happy she wouldn't be texting you. Ignore it and don't get sucked into feeling sorry for her. She made her bed so now she must lie in it. 4
StGeorge22 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Sorry simon meant to write short not sweet! 1
David87 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Just keep it short and simple, and only respond if you are 100% over your ex.
No Limit Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Don't respond. She probably heard from buddies or other people how you've been doing without her and now tries to have at least someone. She's proven her real face to you already. Don't fall for this cheap trick.
newmoon Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 she's not sorry to you, she's sorry for herself, that her relationship went bust, which we all knew it would, right? don't play this game. reaching out after 1 year? you should relish the pleasure you'd get from deleting that text and never responding to her. who needs people like this. it's ridiculous. 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Ha! All this good news about you is attracting her like moth to light. You're more desirable now than back then, little did she know she would be sorry. Personally I wouldn't bother sending that text, don't even go back there, to the old times. You're too past that now. Enjoy your new life with friends!
Zahara Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I wouldn't respond. She's feeling blue and alone so she's reaching out hoping you're there to fill a void. It would have been different if she apologized when she was in a better place, but it's suspect now when she's sorry because she's in a crap place. Even worse, she was probably sleeping with the co-worker even before you broke up. I could be wrong but speaks much about her investment in you when she jumped another pole so soon. Your life is going great. Move on to bigger and better. Be involved with people that add to your life. I'm not sure if she has anything to offer you. There's nothing spiteful about leaving the past behind. 2
Author denxnis Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 I really appreciate the responses. After some consideration I've decided to leave her in my past and delete the text. Oddly I sympathize for her and wish her the best, however responding would only complicate things and have me thinking about her more-so than I should be. Thanks again for the responses. 7
newmoon Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I really appreciate the responses. After some consideration I've decided to leave her in my past and delete the text. Oddly I sympathize for her and wish her the best, however responding would only complicate things and have me thinking about her more-so than I should be. Thanks again for the responses. good for you! it gives you all the power :-) that should feel pretty good. I'd love it!
Salvatore85 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I really appreciate the responses. After some consideration I've decided to leave her in my past and delete the text. Oddly I sympathize for her and wish her the best, however responding would only complicate things and have me thinking about her more-so than I should be. Thanks again for the responses. Good call, very smart man.
David87 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 It's better this way. You did good. This means that you're not 100% over her.
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