FrustratedGuy91 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I'll keep this as short as I can. 7 Years ago I started a martial arts class, there I developed a crush for a girl in that same class. Time went by, I stopped practicing and returned many times, but I never found a chance to ask her out until recently. Around November, I had been off practice for a couple of months, and I found her on a dating website. I started talking to her and soon enough she told me she was interested in me, that was great. However there were a few other things going on. I, for one, was about to go away to another country for a few months to work and she was dating someone, except it wasn't serious. Now the reason why she wasn't in a relationship was because the guy didn't want to. Normally this would have been a deal breaker for me, but since they weren't in an actual relationship and both were seeing other people I asked her out. We went on a date and we ended up in my place, we started making out and foreplay then after a while we stopped and talked about how crazy this was and after some small talk she started crying. The problem is that her previous boyfriends were all either jerks, abusive or both. So she has a lot of issues, she then told me about the other guy who doesn't want a relationship and how she's tired of that. I advised her as best I could about it (No, I didn't try to sabotage their chances, quite the contrary I gave her my best honest advice) after that we resumed our foreplay and had sex. We kept in touch almost daily after that, we agreed to meet again but we were both really busy so we actually never managed to before I went away. Even while away we kept in touch. I was supposed to be away for 4 months, but had to return after 15 days due to a family emergency, so we started texting again. Now here's what has me in doubt. Normally I'd think she only wants attention and that I'm her second choice until she gets the other guy. But whenever I distance myself a little she seeks me out, she initiates contact most of the time on a daily basis. I've been playing "not really interested" but showing a few signs of interest here and there... She proposed to meet once, but I had to turn her down because of a family issue and I haven't asked her out myself yet. Also, she spent valentine's alone so things with the other guy aren't going that well. And last but not least, last night during one of our regular after class texts she told me how she felt lonely and needed love. I deflected the situation with humor and now here I am wondering if I should take my chances or if she's just using me. What do you people think? Any advice is welcome.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Honestly I think you probably stole her away. Shes needy and wanted some validation you would be around for her if she slept with you. But one question who the hell stops in the middle to discuss her crazy? Are Dr. Phil or something? Glad it worked for you but damn what a mood killer you must have been super horny to put up with that... Hook it up and keep hitting it. Thats what she wants. Just watch out or you might end up with a stage 5 clinger on your hands.
Barbarossa Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I'm in a similar situation currently and in my opinion she's probably using you for what her boyfriend doesn't give her. I don't really see a problem with this but you need to keep your feelings in check.
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 You think the time's right? Should I make another move?
Barbarossa Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 You think the time's right? Should I make another move? I would what's the worst that could happen?
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 I would what's the worst that could happen? Well you know what they say, you love crazy til' crazy loves you back.
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