HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 We see men getting this advice all the time. And women are constantly told men like the chase. So how do you get the guys attention when you see someone you like? What do you say? Do you speak first or just drop hints hoping he'll come over? Men how do you prefer to be approached?
LeeBrice Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 just talk and make it obvious that you like us. We are so rarely used to being approached that the level of difficulty there is very low Only thing I would say is don't come across as extremely forward/desperate or we will think you are a slut.
Keenly Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Just talk. About anything. If we like you we will keep the conversation going, just as you should.
Author HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Talk about what? Like what if your out shopping and you really want this guys attention. Pretend you don't know where a store is? What can she say to let you know she wants more?
Author HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 just talk and make it obvious that you like us. We are so rarely used to being approached that the level of difficulty there is very low Only thing I would say is don't come across as extremely forward/desperate or we will think you are a slut. See this makes it hard for us because if we are straight up like men are told to be we look desperate. A woman is told not to ask a guy out because he loves the chase and it's a turn off.
LeeBrice Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Talk about what? Like what if your out shopping and you really want this guys attention. Pretend you don't know where a store is? What can she say to let you know she wants more? This is an interesting question and I really want to give you a good answer but it's kinda tough to answer I will say this, ANYTHING you say to the majority of men will be effective. Most guys don't really have many options and are terrible with the opposite gender. If you happen to come across a guy who has a lot of options, you will have to be charming and charismatic or he will think you're a weirdo I would just say have natural conversation and make it obvious you like him
Tayken Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Simply by walking up to him and planting one on him I keed I keed.....put yourself in his company and use the old trick of touching while cracking a joke with him...if he is a good message reader, he will lock on and try to reciprocate....bam Bob's your uncle
Author HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Simply by walking up to him and planting one on him I keed I keed.....put yourself in his company and use the old trick of touching while cracking a joke with him...if he is a good message reader, he will lock on and try to reciprocate....bam Bob's your uncle This sounds like he would definitely think your weird. Like why is this stranger touching me?
newmoon Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 most people have something in their hand(s), an article of clothing that is interesting, etc. easy enough to comment on something they are looking at or wearing. super easy to pretend you're lost and need help finding your way around a place/building, etc. there are so many ways to just say hello, including hello, which is the easiest of all and always works
LeeBrice Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 most people have something in their hand(s), an article of clothing that is interesting, etc. easy enough to comment on something they are looking at or wearing. super easy to pretend you're lost and need help finding your way around a place/building, etc. there are so many ways to just say hello, including hello, which is the easiest of all and always works yep be forward is the best option IMO
Tayken Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 This sounds like he would definitely think your weird. Like why is this stranger touching me? Not really...there is a way to do it that is not perverted. I personally inadvertently touch people when joking around with them, I am also a hugger...so I usually warn women upfront, and as it turns out the ones I know and have dated, like hugs ...so it's a win win
Larry56 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 If he likes you, it won't matter what you do...seriously, you have to understand that men are VERY direct, we sometimes don't get subtle hints women put out. Just touch him a lot and smile and get close to his face. Seriously he won't mind if he's into you. Back when I was 18 a girl invited me to sleep over at her house after a date. I was so inexperienced I had no idea we were going to have sex...I thought it was a sleepover - So we are lying in bed and she says... "Is that a mirror in your pants?" Me: Huh? Her: Cause I can see myself in them Me: Ohhhh
Author HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 If he likes you, it won't matter what you do...seriously, you have to understand that men are VERY direct, we sometimes don't get subtle hints women put out. Just touch him a lot and smile and get close to his face. Seriously he won't mind if he's into you. Back when I was 18 a girl invited me to sleep over at her house after a date. I was so inexperienced I had no idea we were going to have sex...I thought it was a sleepover - So we are lying in bed and she says... "Is that a mirror in your pants?" Me: Huh? Her: Cause I can see myself in them Me: Ohhhh Hahaha, that's a funny story! "I thought it was a sleepover"
somedude81 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Be interested in him and friendly. Ask him questions about himself. Find excuses to touch him.
GoreSP Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Talk about what? Like what if your out shopping and you really want this guys attention. Pretend you don't know where a store is? What can she say to let you know she wants more? Buy coffee, 'accidentally' run into him, spill your coffee all over him, offer to buy him a new shirt. Or you could just go and say hi...
Author HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Why are all you men saying we should touch you? Really? Just go feeling up a guy you never met in a cold approach? How is that not desperate but asking for his number is?
Author HappyLove Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Buy coffee, 'accidentally' run into him, spill your coffee all over him, offer to buy him a new shirt. Or you could just go and say hi... So just say hi and hope he takes the lead? Don't they usually just say hi back and that's that?
somedude81 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Why are all you men saying we should touch you? Really? Just go feeling up a guy you never met in a cold approach? How is that not desperate but asking for his number is? I didn't have cold approaches in mind but it is still possible to work a touch in during conversation. Even a light touch can be a clear but subtle indicator of interest.
hasaquestion Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 So just say hi and hope he takes the lead? Don't they usually just say hi back and that's that? Smiling and saying hi to a stranger totally out of the blue is more than enough of a hint. What else are you supposed to do, jump on him? Take your top off in the middle of the store? If you approach someone like that, and they don't make an effort to keep the conversation going, they either aren't interested or are incapable of having a conversation. Both of which are problems.
Kitchen Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 We see men getting this advice all the time. And women are constantly told men like the chase. So how do you get the guys attention when you see someone you like? What do you say? Do you speak first or just drop hints hoping he'll come over? Men how do you prefer to be approached? I'm a man. I think it's a turn on when a girl takes initiative, if she does so with confidence. Honestly, I love it when a girl approaches me and says "Hi, I'm so and so" with a nice smile, and possibly reaches out for a handshake depending on the circumstance. I am always polite, whether or not I am attracted.
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I tend to like being approached from the front, so I can see whether you're looking at me or not. If you approach me from the back, I won't see you looking at me nor would I probably notice you approaching me. I usually walk pretty fast, so if you approach me from behind and I notice you following me...I'll probably start breaking into a panic mode. I may not know of anyone that would want to kill me, but that doesn't mean there's not a possibility that someone out there wants me dead.
StanMusial Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 Talk about what? Like what if your out shopping and you really want this guys attention. Pretend you don't know where a store is? What can she say to let you know she wants more? It depends on the situation. In a social setting, like a bar or club, it would be something situational like "Hey who is the band tonight?" Or "Wanna dance?" Or just smile and linger in his vicinity. In a store, it might be harder but the same concept applies. "Hey I like your watch" or "I like that brand of cereal" or whatever. I agree with the other poster, you can try to get the ball rolling but if he doesn't have much to say then you can take that as a No and you probably don't want him anyway. Otherwise it might get really awkward.
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