Dazedandconfused_1 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 To make story short, things between my ex-bf and I moved pretty fast from the moment we started talking to the moment we started dating. Two months in, he admitted to have fallen in love with me. He was such a sweetheart, he was very attentive and would cater to me. A few weeks ago, we went our separate ways. He would still reach out to me, the day I was going to see him one last time, I find out he has a girlfriend who he has been in a relationship with for about a year. I couldnt believe what I had discovered. By the way, the girl doesnt live here which is why I never suspected anything. Anyways, I texted him and told him that I had found out about his gf. He never responded back. Now I just wish I had done things differently. That I would have confronted him and questioned him in person. I feel all these anger and sadness building up inside. I'm so tempted to text him and spill everything out. I know theres no point in doing this as theres no way we will be getting back together but somehow I feel that this would help me feel better, though I'm scared he'll ignore me or reply with a nasty text which is why I'm having second thoughts. Suggestions? Please help
Philosoraptor Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Well he sounds like scum. Personally, if I were in her shoes, I would want someone to let me know that the person I trusted was screwing around behind my back. If you can find a way to reach out to her anonymously, with some sort of proof (text screenshots?) of his infidelity, then you can do something positive out of this and let someone know that you've both been wronged.
JDPT Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 It's a crystal clear portrait as obscure as it may appear to be. Start by analyzing and internalizing facts as difficult as it may be. He had a girlfriend on the side, honestly what else is there to know? It will only generate new wounds and leave you with more work to sort out, sometimes ignorance is bliss. Be strong and fight this urge. This will subside, not today, not tomorrow but eventually it will. Focus on you, you are more important than anything else.
Author Dazedandconfused_1 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 I did contact the girl and let her know who I was. She asked to see pictures of us two together so I sent them. She wasn't rude to me at all. She said she felt sorry for both of us. She also connected the dots in the cases where he wouldn't answer her phone calls or texts or when he would say he was going out with so and so and he would mess up in his own lies.
Author Dazedandconfused_1 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 It's a crystal clear portrait as obscure as it may appear to be. Start by analyzing and internalizing facts as difficult as it may be. He had a girlfriend on the side, honestly what else is there to know? It will only generate new wounds and leave you with more work to sort out, sometimes ignorance is bliss. Be strong and fight this urge. This will subside, not today, not tomorrow but eventually it will. Focus on you, you are more important than anything else. It's hard. Trust me I try every single day and every day has it's up and down moments. I'll be fine one moment and tears will be rolling down the other. I don't know how to handle this
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