uku383 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I'm frustrated that I can't move forward. I'm absorbed by self-pity and fear. Even though it's almost five months, I think I'm still in shock, but the issue is deeper than that. What I need to do is make myself happy and get some purpose in life (beyond just my son). I need to be motivated somehow, but I find that so difficult when I'm surrounded by this pain. I can't get rid of my boy brain, which wants to fix things between us. There's little point thinking this way as she's made a decision and I can't change that. I need to fix me so that I will be okay without her. It's how to do that which is the problem. What worked for you in moving on? How did you get out of this space?
tlegend Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I'm frustrated that I can't move forward. I'm absorbed by self-pity and fear. Even though it's almost five months, I think I'm still in shock, but the issue is deeper than that. What I need to do is make myself happy and get some purpose in life (beyond just my son). I need to be motivated somehow, but I find that so difficult when I'm surrounded by this pain. I can't get rid of my boy brain, which wants to fix things between us. There's little point thinking this way as she's made a decision and I can't change that. I need to fix me so that I will be okay without her. It's how to do that which is the problem. What worked for you in moving on? How did you get out of this space? You've identified the problem. The problem is that your lack of motivation to do anything has since kept you in pain from being rejected by her. You've identified the solution: Gain motivation Seems like you know what to do. You just need a friend to kick you in the ass and do it. ...*kick*
Itspointless Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Do not be to hard for yourself at the same time try not to drown yourself in your sadness. Instead investigate your fear, what causes your fear, and try to work on that.
L1ght Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 (edited) The worst thing we do is lie to ourselves about how we feel when we experience unrequited love. Be honest with yourself, admit your mistakes, admit that your lover is going through change and most importantly admit to yourself that you still love them. Once you do that all there is left to do is tell them you love them and that your door is always open and then say goodbye. Get on with your life, breathe the air and look for love somewhere else. Your ex might come back before its too late but if not then its just the way it goes. Good luck. Edited February 19, 2014 by L1ght
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