kanga Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 I'm filled with way too many thoughts, and I'm totally doing the girl overthinking thing. I still have not got a phone call from the boy. No email. No IM. I told myself I would not contact him until he contacts me first. And then I'd wait a few days. I'm rethinking this strategy. What if he's not contacting me because I'm not initatiating contact with him? I feel like I'm stuck in some kind of no contact Cold War. Should I just suck it up and send him a quickie email? Seriously, is this some kind of passage from a guy's version of "The Rules"? I read so much advice here from guys that says to wait until the girl makes the contact. But my girlfriends are all telling me to wait for him. What gives?
tattoomytoe Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 so contact him....what is the big deal? and these are not Rules....they are more if guide lines.
Author kanga Posted January 19, 2005 Author Posted January 19, 2005 I guess I don't want to appear all clingy or whatever he may think. And I'm supposed to -- I think -- appear ambivalent about him. That will make him realize he misses me, blah blah, etc. etc. All that stuff that is said in Cosmo and Glamour. I don't know if this is part of some strategy by him -- to not contact me -- or if he's seriously and suddenly no longer interested. So let's take a poll: Who says it's a plan on his part? Who says it's a sudden lack of interest?
tattoomytoe Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 well...the only one that may not know you are in desparate need of his contact is the ex..... and why should you really care what you have to lose anyways? you are already on the outs wit heach other, so why does it matter who says something first. Contrary to popular belief, stubborness is not cute or sexy....it shows the level of pigheadedness one can achieve, and lack of maturation. so do not go there....just be like hey, whats up. just wanted to m,ake sure you were cool/ ok. act like nothing miore than a friend...... i would think that would throw him for a loop, if he were expecting that you may be trying to crawl back.
UCFKevin Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 F*ck no contact. Do what you feel is right. To hell with the rules and "the game."
Naive Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin F*ck no contact. Do what you feel is right. To hell with the rules and "the game." I totally agree!!!!!!!!!!! 100%
savethedrama4allama Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 To me, it would depend. Why did you decide to do no contact, and what was said the last time you talked?
tiki Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Why are you playing this game? I don't get it. If you want him, act like it. If not, move on...definitely!
tiki Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama To me, it would depend. Why did you decide to do no contact, and what was said the last time you talked? Llama's your woman....she's going through this dirt too...
savethedrama4allama Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Llama's your woman....she's going through this dirt too... For real. I'm the "authority" right now. Sorta.
Author kanga Posted January 20, 2005 Author Posted January 20, 2005 right. ok, after a bit of thought and reading ya'lls answers, i said f' it. seriously -- why am i listening to my girlfriends anyway? so dumb. i sent him a very brief and casual email, just to check in and say hi. WELL... happy news ... about two or so hours later, while i was at dinner with people and having a good time, he called me. he almost seemed surprised that i answered. and when i asked what was up, he said he was calling to respond to my email. clearly, he wanted to talk to me. otherwise he would've either ignored my email for a few days or wrote back something quick and curt. instead, he called. kudos to my LS advisors. i got so stressed out over the stupid game and what i thought i should do and what people around me were telling me to do. thanks.
tiki Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 That's awesome...I hope everything works out for the best.
Author kanga Posted January 20, 2005 Author Posted January 20, 2005 Yeah, seriously. I really don't know why I was being so dumb and baby-ish. All it did was totally stress me out. For no reason. Overthinking blows.
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