Cam116 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I'll keep this short and sweet. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months now. Relationship good, no problems. He's been extremely stressed the past 3 weeks or so due to work. He's physically and emotionally exhausted. He hasn't been wanting to go out at all, just wants to sleep. I spent a few nights with him just hanging out and playing video games as I didn't want to pressure him to go out somewhere with me. But he has been distant, so I asked him point blank of he was still interested in the relationship. He told me he wasn't sure, and didn't know if it was just the stress blurring things. Said he wasn't sure if he could see us going further than where we were at, but doesn't know why and thinks it's just the stress he's feeling. I asked him when he figured this out and he said he hasn't really thought about it until I brought it up. I told him it's not smart to make a rash decision on the spot, and he told me that he wouldn't just throw everything away on a whim but felt as though I pressured him to make a decision right then and there (which wasn't my intention). So he said he's not sure what to do, but that he probably needs some space at least. So I've given it to him. This all happened Sunday night. Just curious if anyone has insight. I know a break generally means breakup, but has anyone experienced a situation when a break really was just a break to sort things out? Any insight is greatly appreciated.
Angel luis Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I know exactly how you feel. My ex had a lot of stress going in due to school, job, car payment so she let me know that "she didn't know if she wanted a relationship right now, so as much as I love her I let her go, (we were together about 5 months ) she let me know right away that I was just the perfect man for her and I had all the qualities. I had no contact with her(it's been about 3 weeks of no contact). I was the perfect guy in my opinion cause her past relationship was a wreck, so I used that to my advantage and treated her the opposite ad stuff. That been said, I suggest you give him time, I came to realize that there's a point were you gotta value yourself, and understand that you can only go on with out him, do no contact.
flightplan Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 (edited) The "stress" technique is one of the oldest tactics in the book to start the process of breaking up. EVERY individual in any relationship has periods of stress. What your significant other is probably not telling you is that YOU are the source of the stress. He's been thinking of what life would be like without you or with another. He's "stressing" with figuring out how to tell you. Healthy, mutually satisfying relationships are usually not broken up because of "stress". Odds are, he's already broken up with you and wants to move on. He hasn't made a rash decision. It's been on his mind for several weeks. Edited February 26, 2014 by flightplan 2
Angel luis Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 That's is true I cannot argue that. But if I always told her that if you didn't feel like doing this anymore (being in a relationship ) then you can simy let me know, I let her know that she always had the door open whenever she wants to leave. I guess it's a girl thing because she would let me know that she love me and stuff like that, also call me on my job to let me know she loved me, and then comes a couple hours later and we break up. Idk. I mean I wouldn't want her back in my life anymore. If she thought our relationship was a stress then she would have left Long time ago, when we had a bad argument. Idk I dot care anymore. I @flightplan
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