Boyfriend has been stressed/depressed. Asked for a break....I think

[Cam116]

I'll keep this short and sweet. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months now. Relationship good, no problems. He's been extremely stressed the past 3 weeks or so due to work. He's physically and emotionally exhausted. He hasn't been wanting to go out at all, just wants to sleep. I spent a few nights with him just hanging out and playing video games as I didn't want to pressure him to go out somewhere with me. But he has been distant, so I asked him point blank of he was still interested in the relationship.

 

He told me he wasn't sure, and didn't know if it was just the stress blurring things. Said he wasn't sure if he could see us going further than where we were at, but doesn't know why and thinks it's just the stress he's feeling. I asked him when he figured this out and he said he hasn't really thought about it until I brought it up. I told him it's not smart to make a rash decision on the spot, and he told me that he wouldn't just throw everything away on a whim but felt as though I pressured him to make a decision right then and there (which wasn't my intention). So he said he's not sure what to do, but that he probably needs some space at least. So I've given it to him. This all happened Sunday night.

 

Just curious if anyone has insight. I know a break generally means breakup, but has anyone experienced a situation when a break really was just a break to sort things out? Any insight is greatly appreciated.

[todreaminblue]

hi carn confronting someone who is depressed/stressed is adding stress so I am not surprised he wasnt sure of what he was feeling......

 

 

To em and i suffer from depression i have never been asked fro a break while in an episode so i dont know how i would react, normally i am already screaming inside my head to have a break from what i feel..... not people....from what i feel and think and i tend to isolate and yep sleep a lot.....

 

 

never had a break or discussed a break when i have either a depressive or manic episode i dont make major decisions or talk about them, i did however split up with my ex during an extremely stressful time in my life as he was having an affair...the break was permanent i dont believe in breaks they are just break ups.....deb

[Cam116]

I forgot to add that he has a history of PTSD, which I'm sure could be a factor in all of this. I haven't known him long enough to know how he deals with stress.

[LLQ1986]

My ex was in depression and wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone...and asked for some time alone- we were in a LDR for 2 years +. So I promised to leave him alone but sent him msges everyday to check on him.

 

He did get better as days went by. He started talking more and more once he got back to work after 2 weeks of exam break. However, 2 weeks later he told me he fell in love with another girl.

 

I hope this doesn't happen to you cuz it suck balls!