Driftking102 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Day 1 which was yesterday for me was not as bad as today. I broke up with my girlfriend because she was controlling me and it got to the point where I did not have a life anymore. Day 2 has been miserable. I have not eaten since 10 yesterday (day 1). I can't do homework, i can't stop looking at my phone. I was at a friends house drunk last night trying to make sure i didn't text her. I texted her saying that I wouldnt stray again. No response. Deleted the text. My friends and I watched chuck and they tried to get my mind off it. She was my whole life. Sex was amazing when we had it and she told me it was a very bad thing to say no in any situation to her. I always said yes. I always recieved calls from her, and text messages throughout the day daily. I got a therapy counselor on day 1 and told them my whole relationship in one hour. My counselor says I have been abused emotionally and it will take me awhile to get over it. She used me for money, companionship, and sex. She didn't want the relationship to become public and when i started pushing for it we broke up. I am going back to counseling today and trying to convince myself that I did the right thing. I can't stop thinking about her. Why is it making me so sad? I was in this relationship for almost 2 years. 1 year of getting to know her and then 9 months officially. She said she loved me and now shes just gone!
tlegend Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I got a therapy counselor on day 1 and told them my whole relationship in one hour. My counselor says I have been abused emotionally and it will take me awhile to get over it. She used me for money, companionship, and sex. She didn't want the relationship to become public and when i started pushing for it we broke up. ( Sure you did. A therapist would most certainly NOT diagnose you in an hour that it took to tell you all the intricacies of your relationship and life values/choices. The fact that you are on the complete other side of the spectrum within a day shows you're as messed up as me when it comes to dealing with these emotions. I suggest you hang out in the coping area, and refrain from sending any texts/emails/communication toward your ex in any way.
lvroflife Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 People will always say what we want to hear. The actions of people tell the truth! Seeing a therapist is good, but try not to see them everyday! Space it out. You need to breath! Relax! You are still healthy and alive! Now make a list of all her bad attributes, BAD attributes only. Think to yourself what else you wanted to do for YOU. Read a lot too!!
somecamel Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I would expect day 2 to hurt more than day 1. On day 1, you're still in shock, day 2 comes the realisation that's it's over. Healing is a process, it's not going to happen overnight I'm afraid, might take weeks, months sometimes years if you let it. I did that with my first major breakup of 5 years, broke my heart, I was unavailable for a year. Deep depression and sadness. My most recent breakup after 7 years has surprisingly been a lot easier, maybe because I'm older now, it still hurts though.
BDL Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Day 3 will be even harder. Day 4, harder still. Best advice I can give? Let out the emotions. Feel the pain. Don't hold it back. Let the tears flow. One day, you will heal, and the pain will be a distant memory. 1
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