lvroflife Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 At 10:00PM My (ex)girlfriend is telling me she loves me and misses me and can't wait to see me.. and that I should come see her right now,at 10:10PM (same phone call) she is yelling and saying she can't do this anymore. She was intoxicated. And she lives 500 miles away. Just moved away for work 2 months ago. She has no one there and started a new very demanding job. I don't know what to do.
Zahara Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 This is what you do. You stay strict NC. I read your past thread. Like a yo-yo back and forth and you don't want to go back to that again. You are not her father, her guardian, her rescuer -- she is a grown woman who chose to move 500 miles away, she chose a demanding job and SHE CHOSE TO LET YOU GO. She doesn't get to use you when she wants to. Don't be her emotional crutch. 5
TaraMaiden Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 What you ALSO do, is block her on your 'phone, delete her number, block her emails, block her on facebook and twitter. You may need to download an app to block text messages, but this is both inexpnsive (FOC even) and worth its weight in gold. The more access you give her, the more she will yank your chain. Drunk? How charming. How perfectly ladylike. Ugh. jeesh, buddy, man up and get it over with!! 1
Author lvroflife Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 I definitely do not want to be her crutch. And I have been NC since the split. I envisioned life with her. We talked marriage the whole bit. Its more I am in shock.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 You let her go. This type of back-and-forth isn't the basis of healthy, lasting relationships. Continue no-contact. She needs to learn that her words have consequences and that she can't use you when she sees fit.
reddragon588 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I definitely do not want to be her crutch. And I have been NC since the split. I envisioned life with her. We talked marriage the whole bit. Its more I am in shock. You can't be in NC if you're talking on the phone. You have to get serious about it. Some of the things might be uncomfortable or even inconvenient but you do need to cut her out of your life if you plan to move on. It sucks, but it's necessary.
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