freebird31 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I just DONT feel ready. And i am not ready, even after 10 months of being broken up, im still just not interested. is this normal and okay? I just want to make myself happy and fill myself up with happiness i can create on my own. I actually am content with being single right now for the time being. This guy i was crushing on, we ran into each other at the school gym, and ended up working out together and after got something to eat. he was nice and it was nice, but after i just went home feeling like even though it was just a hang out, I am no where near ready to start getting romantic with another again. Is this normal? I am only 21. I want to move on and my friends tell me that i should date again....but i just dont want to. im genuinely not interested in the idea and its not bc of the cliche that I am afraid of getting hurt again, i just dont want to! im content with being alone, so why do i need another right now. im not even over my ex completely! Just please someone tell me this OK. To want to be alone.
StringsAttached Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Trust your instincts. You say you're fine with being single but you don't feel ready to be in a romantic relationship again. That means you're fine with being single but are not ready to be in a romantic relationship. It's been 10 months though, some say the best way to get over your ex is to find someone else. Maybe give this a guy go, show interest so that he asks you out. You'll never 'be ready' if you never date again.
STM206 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I'm far from ready, but you know what? Be fine with being single, but don't purposely pass up golden opportunities. You never know the guy who you tell to buzz off because you're not ready to date, could be a potential life mate. Love can strike at anytime, but just make sure you're open and ready for it whenever that time may come.
Author freebird31 Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 I'm sure he's a nice guy. He's a lot older than I, which is good I want someone more mature than my ex. But I don't feel ready. And I can't bear to string someone along while I'm still trying to figure things out. I'm just not ready. I mean who knows.....another time I might be open to it. We might have a class together next fall since we share the same major....who knows. Right now, I'm going to trust my instincts. That tell me to just give it a bit more time...I guess..
Itspointless Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Its perfectly OK. Just do not wait for a perfect moment, you are never totally ready for something. I never onderstood why people should constantly be on the lookout to find a partner. Focus your energy on other things and let life surprise you. Do not compare yourself too much with other people, you are you. 1
Author freebird31 Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 Its perfectly OK. Just do not wait for a perfect moment, you are never totally ready for something. I never onderstood why people should constantly be on the lookout to find a partner. Focus your energy on other things and let life surprise you. Do not compare yourself too much with other people, you are you. THANK YOU. I seriously don't understand why it either, why all my friends think that healing is in moving on to the next. I don't see it that way! When my ex broke things off I was shattered, and I invested so much of myself I completely lost who I was . And I never want to let that happen again. I want to make sure I'm content with being alone and single before i start dating again. There's so much more I want to do while I still can being single. I just don't want to date yet. And that should be ok.
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