Gemini x Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 why do they keep your pictures up on their facebook? Not only pics of you, but of the both of you cuddled up in bed together/other intimate moments and pics that's titled "my baby girl" or whatever. Why would a dumper do this if he's walked away and is moving on? Curiosity has gotten the best of me so please just enlighten me. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 why do they keep your pictures up on their facebook? Not only pics of you, but of the both of you cuddled up in bed together/other intimate moments and pics that's titled "my baby girl" or whatever. Why would a dumper do this if he's walked away and is moving on? Curiosity has gotten the best of me so please just enlighten me. Why do you keep looking at this? Why havent you blocked this yet? To answer your question, there could be a number of reasons. They are lazy and havent taken them down to the extreme of they look at them and cry themselves to sleep lol. There are many reasons that ONLY they know, so trying to decipher what that mean is spinning wheels gemini. That doesnt mean ask them. It means dont focus on that and move on.
organizedchaos Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 why do they keep your pictures up on their facebook? Not only pics of you, but of the both of you cuddled up in bed together/other intimate moments and pics that's titled "my baby girl" or whatever. Why would a dumper do this if he's walked away and is moving on? Curiosity has gotten the best of me so please just enlighten me. I don't know. My ex and I have been broken up for 7 months. I took down nearly all of our pics. There might be a few of her, but nothing of us together. She still has all of ours up on her page. We are not connected anymore but I know because I can still see them on my profile (I have hid these from my timeline) these are not just of me but of us together, her kissing me, etc. And she dumped me. 1
David87 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 There are a few reason they do that. It's possibe that your ex isn't that active on Fb, or he isn't dating yet so it doesn't bother him. If it bothers you just block him and some of them will disappear from his FB.
OzHeartache Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I guess its part of your/their history, I've deleted my ex and her friends on FB as soon as she said it was over.... but I have left the photos, I just don't look at them where I can help it Id be quiet hurt if she was to untag/or delete the ones she added of us....The past is what it is, the past, deleting photos of your ex I find to be a little childish/petty but I can see that some people may NEED to do it to move on I suppose....Its a tricky one where you need to do what's best for you
Author Gemini x Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 I don't know. My ex and I have been broken up for 7 months. I took down nearly all of our pics. There might be a few of her, but nothing of us together. She still has all of ours up on her page. We are not connected anymore but I know because I can still see them on my profile (I have hid these from my timeline) these are not just of me but of us together, her kissing me, etc. And she dumped me. I don't really get it either. My ex still has all of our photos on his facebook. And he's not the type to do that. When he's finished with someone he doesn't tend to look back and kind of wipes all of that away. It may not mean anything but it's very very odd for him. 1
pickflicker Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 why do they keep your pictures up on their facebook? Not only pics of you, but of the both of you cuddled up in bed together/other intimate moments and pics that's titled "my baby girl" or whatever. Why would a dumper do this if he's walked away and is moving on? Curiosity has gotten the best of me so please just enlighten me. Probably can't be bothered taking them down.
David87 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Because dumpers have no feelings. Yes, they don't care the way dumpees care. 1
Author Gemini x Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 Because dumpers have no feelings. I guess that could be true.
pickflicker Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I guess that could be true. Not all dumped should be tarred and feathered with the same brush. In any case, you are not in NC if you are checking his social media..
MoooOinkBaaa Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Because dumpers have no feelings. This is what I was going to post too. My ex has them up still too. It won't even cross their minds.
organizedchaos Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 This is what I was going to post too. My ex has them up still too. It won't even cross their minds. I don't know about that. I mean, who wants new partners seeing you cuddling up/kissing your ex even if you dumped them? That's one of the reasons I took them down. Looks like you haven't gotten over them yet. I wouldn't care if a new partner had a few old photos up from her ex. But if she still had a ton of photos up, and some included them kissing or cuddling, etc...I'd be suspect of that. 1
Author Gemini x Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 I don't know about that. I mean, who wants new partners seeing you cuddling up/kissing your ex even if you dumped them? That's one of the reasons I took them down. Looks like you haven't gotten over them yet. I wouldn't care if a new partner had a few old photos up from her ex. But if she still had a ton of photos up, and some included them kissing or cuddling, etc...I'd be suspect of that. My ex is definitely NOT the type to leave photos up. He's a "don't give a f*ck, delete that b!tch" type of dude. He still has one that he edited that talks about him doing something to me sexually. This shows me he isn't with anyone yet, if he was I know they'd no longer be up. I'm an idiot for looking. It's hard, though. I have him blocked on my acct but sometimes my brother lets me use his for different reasons so my curiosity got the best of me. I'm not looking every day, just once in awhile. I need to force myself to stop peeking, just like I have stopped contacting him, before I look and the photos ARE gone. Then I'll feel worse than I do already. Someone stick their foot up my ass, please.
favoritepills Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I'm an idiot for looking. It's hard, though. I have him blocked on my acct but sometimes my brother lets me use his for different reasons so my curiosity got the best of me. I'm not looking every day, just once in awhile. I need to force myself to stop peeking, just like I have stopped contacting him, before I look and the photos ARE gone. Then I'll feel worse than I do already. Someone stick their foot up my ass, please. Remember, every time you check his Facebook or social media, you are breaking NC. You've ripped the stitches out by giving your mind something new to chew on about him, so now you have to start again from Day 1. If you keep on doing this, you will prolong your pain and delay your progress. 2
MoooOinkBaaa Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I do still look but it's gone from ten times a day to once a day to once a a week. I don't mind checking, I choose to feel hurt by doing so and I'm okay with that. I feel hurt and I move on I get over it. I feel okay to check and I feel okay if it hurts me. I would go fully NC but I'm curious and I still kind of care about her just a little bit. I think once they have new partners they might take them down, they might not even realize they are still there. It would make sense to take them down anyways for potential dates, like cleaning a nest. They most likely feel indifferent about the photos, just like they do about us. They won't remove the photos any faster than they would come back to us. If they knew they would be laughing about us even talking about it.
CelticGibson Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Why are the photos not taken down yet? Maybe because they are off having lots of s*x with their new partner that they simply don't have the time and couldn't be arsed about a facebook page.... just a hunch. Look, it doesn't matter why they are there. All that matters is that they are gone out of your life now and it's time to do the same to them. By letting them rent space in your head, it keeps you from moving on. No Contact is the best thing since sliced bread and it WILL get you through this. Any contact, no matter how small, including one sided contact like checking their social media, it resetting the clock...every single time. You have to stop and I mean completely stop, block, delete, wipe from memory, their details so that you can start looking after you and move on... 1
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