acn Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) I feel silly for even posting on here, but I'm just a bit flustered. Some disclaimers/context: I'm not really shy at all, I'm just an introvert, so at certain times I don't get out much, plus I have a pretty busy work/school schedule so I don't see a lot of people during the week (not just her, but friends also). We live on campus...she lives in the building next to mine. Also, I'm not very good at telling stories/expressing feelings lol. So, there's this girl... (Classic opener, right?) Anyways, I'm a sophomore student in college and I met this girl during spring semester of last year. We played on the same intramural coed soccer team. Anyways, I only saw her at the time maybe once a week. The games were only an hour so we didn't really talk that much, but when we did on the sidelines, it was always really casual and fun. At this point, I just thought she was really cute (man language: this was one of the sexiest girls I had ever seen), but I didn't really care too much about that. After our championship game, one of the guys on the team threw a party and we both went. We walked to the guy's place together, with some of our other friends, but from walking together up until the end of the party, we were basically together, talking/having fun,etc. I got her # that night and texted her here and there, but we're not in the same major/didn't live in the same dorm so I ended up just getting kinda busy and not talking to her that much. (LOL, actually now I remember coming back to my dorm pretty drunk and complaining to people about how amazing she was and how I wanted to date her) Fast-forward to this year: I see her a little more often and we always chat/played on the same soccer team again. She actually invited me to a concert, but I forget why I couldn't go. Anyways, my friend finds out who she is and is like "DUDE, this is the hottest girl I've ever seen." and I'm just like yeah... she's pretty (cus at this point, I was physically attracted to her, but nothing much more). After some time, he randomly approaches me and is like "dude, I think this girl likes you." I didn't really know what to say, but he basically told me to just get to know her and see if I liked her. (I think he wanted to live vicariously through me) So I did. And I do. I didn't know what it was but at this point it wasn't a physical thing (her being hot or whatever). That's why I wasn't really interested in her before because, yeah she was hot, but I didn't really know her. But I would occasionally text her to see if she wants to go out and eat anywhere, but she was usually too busy to go off campus, so we just eat together at the diner sometimes. And I don't really know what it is...it's just everything about her...her smile, her attitude, her interests, her taste in music, I can't really explain it. But there's a good chance she likes me too, whenever she ran into me at the diner she would ask me to eat with her and before I knew it, 2 hours would pass by and we were just having a really good conversation, talking about our families, college, ourselves, etc. For example, on one of the first days back from winter break, I was coming back from the gym and I heard calling my name from her building. She hugged me, and we went and got something to eat and just talking for 2 hours and it was just great. Also, now that I'm looking back, she used to give me random complements like "I really like your backpack!", then we would start talking about Barcelona and how she would love to go to Spain, and physical contact, i.e. I would say something funny and she would push me, she held my hand at dinner while we were talking ( I know these are random, but it's the small things right? ) I really like this girl. Two days, for some odd reason, I vaguely remember dreaming about her (No it wasn't like a sex dream or anything), we were just hanging out and at the end I kissed her and I remember waking up, just feeling amazing wanting to just run up to her and kiss her. Weirdest thing that's never happened to me before but I had this really weird feeling in my stomach (in a good way). ANYWAYS, I"M RAMBLING NOW. Now to my problem... This girl is really great, she's like a 9.5/10 personality-wise and I feel like we really click. I love seeing her, and I feel like she likes seeing me too (idk you be the judge), but I'm just really busy and I feel like I should be seeing her more than just running into her at the diner ( I see her like once a week or every 2 weeks), but we live in different buildings, have completely different classes, so there's really no other place we would run into each other. I just feel like I should be taking some type of action to make sure she knows I like her (more than just a friend) and make a move, but I feel kind of awkward texting her out of the blue...I haven't talked to her in like 2 weeks. (I did call her one night to set up a "lunch date" randomly, but I was just feeling overwhelmed with emotions at the time lol ). I feel like too much time is passing by, plus she's really hot so I'm sure there are like 10 other guys after her, but probably just for physical reasons. But I do want to emphasize I like her for her, probably the reason I get butterflys when I see her. (Never happened with anyone else, don't mean to sound like a d-bag, but I had quite a few girls interested in me in high-school). I want to be in a relationship with her. LADIES. What do I do? She's probably into me and I'm just being a b*tch, right? Edited February 18, 2014 by acn More info.
Eivuwan Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Ask her out to dates more regularly. What else can you do? If you want a relationship, you have to make time for it.
mr_dave Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 For God's sake man, what are you waiting for!? Tell you how you feel and ask her for a proper date, all the signs are there that she likes you too. If she has lots of guys after her then she'll get snapped up sooner or later! And you'll feel like an idiot! Do it! 2
Author acn Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 (edited) For God's sake man, what are you waiting for!? Tell you how you feel and ask her for a proper date, all the signs are there that she likes you too. If she has lots of guys after her then she'll get snapped up sooner or later! And you'll feel like an idiot! Do it! Lol, I have no idea what I'm waiting for. I just feel weird calling her out of the blue cus I don't see her often, but I guess you gotta do what you gotta do. I just feel like I'm an idiot haha, cus I've never been one to get romantically involved or even interested in relationships so I'm like clueless lol. I think the main thing is that she has a really easygoing, fun personality so I've been trying to be casual about it cus, 1) I don't want to scare her off lol and 2) I don't see her all that often. Edited February 18, 2014 by acn
mr_dave Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Lol, I have no idea what I'm waiting for. I just feel weird calling her out of the blue cus I don't see her often, but I guess you gotta do what you gotta do. I just feel like I'm an idiot haha, cus I've never been one to get romantically involved or even interested in relationships so I'm like clueless lol. Just contact her casually and ask if she'd like to go for a drink/ meet up to play some soccer/hang out etc. If she's held your hand already, if you take the initiative, hold her hand and tell her how much you like spending time with her, she'll get the picture. Then just see how things progress. I promise you'll always kick yourself if you don't do it, I've been where you are before. If I were younger I'd ask you for her number and ask her on a date myself, she sounds great!
Author acn Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 Just contact her casually and ask if she'd like to go for a drink/ meet up to play some soccer/hang out etc. If she's held your hand already, if you take the initiative, hold her hand and tell her how much you like spending time with her, she'll get the picture. Then just see how things progress. I promise you'll always kick yourself if you don't do it, I've been where you are before. If I were younger I'd ask you for her number and ask her on a date myself, she sounds great! She actually asked me, but I don't have a fake ID to get drinks with her.
xxmusical Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Ask her out on a proper date on a weekend: movie, bowling, dinner, anything fun. If you really like her, you'll make time for her. You don't just stand there and let luck run your life and wonder when you'll bump into her. Take control and go find her. She sounds like a nice girl and she's willing to spend time with you (and hold your hand?!). Take the initiative!
Author acn Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 Ask her out on a proper date on a weekend: movie, bowling, dinner, anything fun. If you really like her, you'll make time for her. You don't just stand there and let luck run your life and wonder when you'll bump into her. Take control and go find her. She sounds like a nice girl and she's willing to spend time with you (and hold your hand?!). Take the initiative! Just to clarify, we weren't like holding hands the entire time. It was just for a little bit while we were sitting down, I was just saying she's not afraid of physical contact. Anyways, I'm a college student, so I need to think of what to do for a "real date". I'll probably ask her in person the next time I see her or over the phone within the week.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 In college dating is a little different. Many times I invited girls to meet me at the club or a party in group situations first. Then as the night progressed I would peel them away from the crowd and let things get smooth from there. Much of it depended on the girl and what revved her motor. Sometimes we went to the gym to work out. Or go play a couple games of pool at the local dive pub. It really doesn't matter what your doing. Just make sure to flirt with her big time. Make sexy comments let her know your a man and you want her! Really beautiful girls need some special instructions. Keep in mind every guy says and does the same dumb stuff to them. They know the next word coming out of their mouths 99% of the time. DONT BE THAT GUY! Don't do the you have the most beautiful eyes, hair, legs etc. Lips are okay especially if your working that first kiss. The back is one that is powerful. Caress her back softly, kiss it hungrily, and tell her she is delicious. Somewhere on here I put my "only girl in the world kiss". Try that out. Just got a call from a 21yr old I coach tonight. He used it on his ex-girlfriend he wanted back. Hit her with that and she said, "Where the hell was that all this time?!?!?". They haven't left the bedroom in 3 days now. LOL
ascendotum Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 For God's sake man, what are you waiting for!? Tell you how you feel and ask her for a proper date, all the signs are there that she likes you too. If she has lots of guys after her then she'll get snapped up sooner or later! And you'll feel like an idiot! Do it! Ditto. I can't believe this guy is still in the running and did not run out of time last year. The window of opportunity on cute,sweet, athletic girls is so small. On campus there has to be a train load of guys who would love to get with her. This is weird post. She's a 9.5 for him but she has different classes & lives in a different part of the campus, so its all kind of too hard. lol. You are a major procrastinator. This is great time in your life, but it would be twice as good if you had this girl in your bed and not just your head. Ask her out on a date (not just to hang out in cafeteria) asap. 1
Author acn Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Well then, I guess I"ll just text her to meet up, then try and casually ask her out.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Well then, I guess I"ll just text her to meet up, then try and casually ask her out. Good man tell us how it works out!
Author acn Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Yeah so I did end up kind of asking her out the day after I posted last. We had another game together the next day and when we were done playing I walked back with her. We talked about usual stuff...then we exchanged plans for the weekend. I asked if her she wanted hang out sometime and she said she was busy (which she was) and she said I should text her tomorrow to set up something. Anyways, I texted her but I'm pretty sure she ignored it (I texted her about something else unrelated and she responded). Andddd now I remembered why nothing had happened before. I'm pretty sure this happened at the end of last semester. We got kind of close (lunch together, texting, etc.) but after I asked her out for the second time I think she did the same thing. Either way, I'm not stressing. I definitely don't wanna pressure her into anything and atm it doesn't seem like she's interested in a relationship (not just with me, but I think with guys in general ... like I said, I'm pretty sure she's been approached by lots of guys, but from what I've seen, she's the type of girl to just hang out with her girlfriends and also have guy friends). She's probably just not thinking about relationships (or maybe it's just me haha). Again, either way, it's all good. I'd rather be friends with her than nothing at all. Side note: plus, if I'm in a relationship, I just imagine it happening naturally and mutually (even though I'd have to do some work in the beginning, of course ).
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