Driftking102 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 So as many of you know I just broke up with my girlfriend who made me a non-virgin. Our relationship was really messed up and she had personality issues. Is there anyway I can get my virginity back and be a virgin again? I don't really like that she took my virginity. She was not the women I thought she was and totally ruined it for another women who truly deserves to take my virginity. We were together officially for 9 months and ive known her for 1 year and 9 months. I knew her before that through high school, but didnt really start things off since almsost 2 years ago. Is there ANY possible way i can get it back so another women can have it? I am also reflecting a lot today and taking the day to do that. I was not a bad person in this relationship. I did everything I could to make her happy. She just didn't see a future with me in it.
kjackson1 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 If you invented time travel then yes otherwise no 5
pickflicker Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Virginity is a state of mind. If you want to be a virgin again, then be one. 4
HokeyReligions Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Im a little boy with purple hair and my wisdom teeth haven't erupted yet. I clicked the heels of my red shoes together when I typed that so if must be true. Honestly if you dont know the answer to your question you shouldn't be having sex. Don't they teach sex ed in school anymore? The answer is. NO. 1
ja123 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 The problem lies in your phrasing: you say she "took" your virginity. Re-frame this so that you do not feel like a victim: "I felt like having sex, so I did." own it!!! end of story 2
genuinelyloverly7 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 To the OP: look up work on energetic body work and meditative visualizations. You can clear her energy from your body and energy. There are professionals who can do clearings for you, or you can learn to do it yourself. Peace to you.
pteromom Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Is there ANY possible way i can get it back so another women can have it? How would you feel if you met a woman who claimed to be a virgin, but later you found out she actually had slept with someone but decided it didn't count? I don't think many people would be OK with that.
aussietigerwolf Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 you're a male... if you say you're a virgin then no one will be able to prove otherwise... 2
what_a_blonde Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Not sure your upbringing from a religious standpoint... but I'll dive into that in saying that you CAN become a virgin again. You would just have to commit to NEVER doing it again until marriage (by religious standards). On the contrary, as another has also posted, from a non-religious standpoint you can also choose to change your frame of mind and commit yourself to not be with anyone else again until you find someone "worthy" of it. The real question however is .... what makes you think the next girl is going to be truly "worthy" to take it, and that you won't go through this regret all over again? I'm sure at some point you thought this current girl was worth it, but now you're regretting it. Nonetheless, my vote would be to not beat yourself up over it. As others have also said, own it. I'm sure it felt great and you enjoyed it when it was happening- so why regret that? Just learn from this and try not to move so quickly with another next time. And in the meantime if you'd like, you can have your reclaimed virginity... just change your frame of mind if its that important.
Tayken Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 The problem lies in your phrasing: you say she "took" your virginity. Re-frame this so that you do not feel like a victim: "I felt like having sex, so I did." own it!!! end of story However,....It takes two to Tango, hence a shared responsibility?
mario_C Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Maybe in about 20 years. If you want to go that long without sex, have at it.
Els Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 OP, I'm not really sure why the concern, to be honest. There are very few women who have a particular desire to 'take a man's virginity'. Many of us are fine with virgins, but we are also fine with men who have had sex in one committed relationship, as you have. Just let it go and focus on having great sex with your next LTR.
OhThatGirl Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Seriously? No. You can't get back your virginity. By definition it means the first time you had intercourse. You've had intercourse, thus "it" is gone. The good news: No one wants your virginity to claim as theirs. In fact you may be the only 20-something guy in the history of the universe trying to reclaim his own. It seems this is a recurring point of discussion in your threads. What's with your focus on this? Cultural? Religious? Because I assure you it's a much bigger deal to you than it will be to other women your age. Also, I'm not sure non-virgin is the term to use. It's more like virgin as opposed to everyone else. Don't define yourself by what you ARENT. Get me? Like I used to drive a Mitsubishi in college. I'm don't call myself an ex-Mitsubishi owner.
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