Stay_Gold Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I am a perfectly straight guy. I have no problem attracting straight women wherever I go. But apparently…I also attract bisexual women too…of which I HATE!!! I see this as a problem because I feel like a “guinea pig/lab rat”. I feel like the bisexual women I am attracted to are in a transitional phase where they don’t know their sexual identity. I have somewhat “bad” gaydar. If/when I do end up dating these girls… I feel like she is just using me for her own gains so she can further determine her own sexual identity because she is still in a confused state about her sexual identity. I feel like an experiment! Some incidences of my bisexual dating experiences/events: 1. I used to date this girl a while back that I “thought” was straight. Obviously…I failed to see the lesbian/bisexual signs (bad gaydar). She never told me she was bisexual. We talked, acted, hung out and had sex like a straight couple. I went over to her place to hang out one night. We were making out and chilling when all of a sudden…I hear a women’s voice call out my partners name from her bedroom window asking for her. I was like …WTF!!! Than and there…she told me she was bisexual and that the girl outside was her girl friend that she used to date/see. I ended the relationship right there. 2. I used to date this stripper that I “think” was straight. I should have asked her but that’s too late. She would always throw out lesbian flags/signs. Like one time when we were hanging out…there was this really HOT girl that happened to sit next to us. She would glance over at that girl. She also asked me if I thought the girl was hot. We hung out and talked like a straight couple. But the sex was more “lesbianish”. She liked kissing and cuddling more than intercourse. She lived with another “girl”/roommate. I only met the roommate 1 time but when I saw them together…it seemed like they both had “something else” going on and I felt it in my gut. After about a month…she decides to end the relationship and texts “I am seeing someone”. I felt used, angry and confused. 3. Just last week…I went to a straight nightclub. I saw this really cute girl on the dance floor that was with a group of friends. I decided to go and chat her up and we ended up dancing and hanging out pretty much the whole night. I probably could have kissed her. I also don’t know if this girl was bisexual because she had a friend in the group that gave me this weird “lesbian/evil eye look” and than looked at her friend with disgust. It was like I just took her love interest and now she’s jealous. We were dancing really close and wild. I should have asked her if she was bi or if her friend was a lesbian. That friend really turned me off and made me uncomfortable. I think the main reason I can attract Bisexual Women is because I am more sensitive, emotional and caring toward women’s needs/feelings vs. your average guy. Also…I am very easy to talk with/get along and I make people feel comfortable. I also have a “soft” look to my facial features and body. I do not have the macho/muscular/intimidating body type that sometimes scares/creeps some women out. HELP!??!!??! I hate attracting Bisexuals and I hate feeling like an experiment/guinea pig. Any advice/input/tips is helpful.
Barbarossa Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I think your being a dumbass to be honest one of my best relationships was with a bisexual girl. You know how many men would be dying to be in your position? 1
hasaquestion Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Perhaps you should stop trying compete with all these girlfriends and consider "cooperating" instead. Seriously I've never heard of something like this. I find it hard to believe that you don't already know the answer to your question. There must be something REALLY unique about you that gets you in these situations.
Lixxy Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Bisexual women can be iffy. omfg.. Do you realize how bigoted that actually sounds? 1
kaylan Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 OP just find and date straight women. Find about it up front. Thats what I do.
Lixxy Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Jeezus.. I spent years being ashamed of my sexuality as a bisexual because I believed we had a dreadful reputation. But I didn't know dudes would actually deliberately scope out straight women, stereotyping bisexual women or seeing warning signs even by the way they "cuddle" and such! I think this "gaydar" or whatever, is a poor cover for trust issues on your part. Fact is: There are loyal bisexual women, and there are disloyal straight women. Not all of us bisexuals are inexperienced, using straight men as "experiments" (nonsense!), or working on "finding out" more about our sexualities. Bisexuality is NOT a "gateway" sexuality! It is a legit sexuality, just like any other. You can date as many straight women you want who will promise loyalty, only to see them screw someone else. The problem isn't with bisexuals. It's finding someone who is compatible with you, who you can trust. 1
PegNosePete Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 The problem isn't with bisexuals. It's finding someone who is compatible with you, who you can trust. +1 to that. Bisexual women may have more "options" but that doesn't mean they will take them. If someone is committed to YOU then they will not have sex with anyone else, male or female. 1
Andy_K Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Personally I prefer the bi ones. They are quite often more open with their sexuality, less afraid of what other people think, and less uptight. Also, we can talk about hot girls together without any jealousy. What's not to like? 1
isisisweeping Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Any advice/input/tips is helpful. You do know bisexual does NOT mean questioning. A girl who has figured it out is not using you as a guinea pig and homo/hetero is not an end goal on a journey. does NOT mean non-monogamous and does NOT mean they want to be with multiple genders at the same time frame. They could be happy with ONE female OR ONE male for the rest of their lives without feeling like they are missing out and if NOT, that is character traits, not bisexuality. Just like a straight girl who wants to be with more than just you forever. The More You Know....
ChessPieceFace Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 (edited) I see it a lot online. In person I can't really say. I'd surmise that bisexual women are far more aggressive and would approach a lot more. Both for reasons of hormones but also simple logic. After all, with 2 lesbians, one would have to approach. So the problem may be that you're sitting back waiting for women to approach you, and this is the result. As far as avoiding bisexual women - I absolutely would. At least if you care about something beyond pleasing your organ. Fidelity, sanity? Ha, good luck. Edited February 19, 2014 by ChessPieceFace 1
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