julesmb606 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I was bothered after the break up and had this gut instinct that something wasn't adding up. i started looking online with the address I remember he told me for his house. I wanted to see what his home number was as I only used his cell to commmunicate. I know that was my first mistake but it was a Ldr and i didn't have the money to spend on calling him so we would text and he would call my cell to make it less expensive for me. i looked it up through the white pages it stated that two people belonged to that house hold. I saw a womans name attached the name was the same as his sister. I tried to look on fb but with no success. I later discovered he blocked me from access to his fb. I had my friend look it up and said wow he is married to this gina he told me what to type in and boom there she was. I sent her a message but he may be intercepting it seeing as it wouldnt tell me on her fb page that she is married to him. i am still struggling with this. I feel like my whole world has been swept right out from under my feet. Help:(
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I'm sorry to hear this, OP. He was a liar and manipulator and of course you're better without him. Allow yourself to feel angry, disappointed, sad. Processing these emotions will eventually help you move on. Don't be surprised if you don't hear back from the wife. He will obviously deny it and probably paint you as the crazy one. I'd also venture that it's not the first time he's done this. The best thing to do will be to cut any and all ties, if you haven't already. Give yourself time to heal.
changedlife Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. He apparently has been lying to both you and his wife. He clearly needs to straighten out his life. This doesn't help you out with healing right now but you'll be able to look for some of the signs you missed in future relationships. Being cheated on and lied to is very hard for anybody to overcome . I would try to contact his wife and let her know what happened. She may or may not know already but she deserves to know about her husbands actions. She may not respond or respond negatively, just remember she's gonna be hurting too if she responds negatively. -- that's just my idea anyway. Keep posting on here. You can't help it he used you and lied to you. You have a lot of worth. Do not confuse the way he treated you with your worth and value. You deserve better and you will find it. May God be with you.
Author julesmb606 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 Thank you I will eventually overcome this but it is still so fresh now.
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