How can I approach girls without coming off as horny/thirsty?

[MightyHeracross]

I have the same problem, I just dont know how to start a conversation, Not a man who goes looking for women.

 

Well I'm glad someone is =in the same boat as me! How old are you btw?

[Sivok]

You just need to do it.

 

I was cripplingly shy in high school and college. To this day, when I first enter a bar/club area I still get a bit anxious. The only way to beat that is to just take control and do it anyway. The first - and maybe second - interactions are a little uncomfortable, but then comes the third, and the fourth, and the fifth, and I'm in the moment and completely comfortably with approaching and talking to any girl in the venue.

 

You mentioned earlier to think about a professional athlete... Well, in basketball, no matter how good a player is, he still misses - and he misses alot.

 

Even some of the 'master pickup artist' guys out there will tell you that it's simply a numbers game - they get shut down ALL the time. The difference is they don't let those shut downs affect their confidence at all - because they know it's just part of the process.

 

So to go back to my original point - just do it. And do it alot. Before I started taking action, I read 1000s of pages and seen dozens (if not even 100+) hours of video trying to learn how to interact with new people. Everything from body language to human mating psychology to theatrics to canned pick up lines. In the end, I learned some stuff, but none of that mattered at all until I got my ass off my computer, went where the women are, and started talking the ones that made me 'thirsty'.

 

My strategy is 'ready, fire, aim'.

 

Ready - see a girl I'm 'thirsty' for

Fire - approach her by saying 'hi' and smiling

Aim - think of something to say

 

If you're anything like I was, taking the 'ready, aim, fire' approach would never work out. I'd see a girl, want to approach her, start aiming/thinking about what I wanted to say, get way too in my head, and psych myself out from pulling the trigger. It's much easier having one REAL conversation than standing there running through 100s of imaginary ones in your head.

 

So yeah, just do it

Edited February 19, 2014 by Sivok

[MightyHeracross]

You just need to do it.

 

I was cripplingly shy in high school and college. To this day, when I first enter a bar/club area I still get a bit anxious. The only way to beat that is to just take control and do it anyway. The first - and maybe second - interactions are a little uncomfortable, but then comes the third, and the fourth, and the fifth, and I'm in the moment and completely comfortably with approaching and talking to any girl in the venue.

 

You mentioned earlier to think about a professional athlete... Well, in basketball, no matter how good a player is, he still misses - and he misses alot.

 

Even some of the 'master pickup artist' guys out there will tell you that it's simply a numbers game - they get shut down ALL the time. The difference is they don't let those shut downs affect their confidence at all - because they know it's just part of the process.

 

So to go back to my original point - just do it. And do it alot. Before I started taking action, I read 1000s of pages and seen dozens (if not even 100+) hours of video trying to learn how to interact with new people. Everything from body language to human mating psychology to theatrics to canned pick up lines. In the end, I learned some stuff, but none of that mattered at all until I got my ass off my computer, went where the women are, and started talking the ones that made me 'thirsty'.

 

My strategy is 'ready, fire, aim'.

 

Ready - see a girl I'm 'thirsty' for

Fire - approach her by saying 'hi' and smiling

Aim - think of something to say

 

If you're anything like I was, taking the 'ready, aim, fire' approach would never work out. I'd see a girl, want to approach her, start aiming/thinking about what I wanted to say, get way too in my head, and psych myself out from pulling the trigger. It's much easier having one REAL conversation than standing there running through 100s of imaginary ones in your head.

 

So yeah, just do it

 

Well, when you say to just do it? What exactly am I supposed to do? what am i supposed to start with? There are so many unknowns for me.

 

You really do seem to know what you're talking about, though. So, any help you can offer is much appreciated.

[Eivuwan]

what do you do when you meet new guy friends?

[MightyHeracross]

what do you do when you meet new guy friends?

 

Well, Im usually introduced. I don't tend to meet new people. Its very difficult for me. Im not one of those guys who can just strike up a conversation about anything at anytime. I wish I could, but I can't