yukikaze203 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Hello everyone! Let me start off with saying my first few posts on this site was about my ex and how I couldn't move on. This site helped me move on. It's been half a year now and I think I've found someone else! Anyways, the current girl is wonderful, but I may have said something today to freak her out a bit. We're still in the discovery phase where we're finding out each other's story. I met her about 4 weeks ago, but only starting talking heavily since last week when she added me on facebook. I asked her for a driving cruise + dessert on Valentines night, to which she happily obliged and she said she enjoyed it afterwards. I also previously arranged to watch a movie this coming Tuesday as well, she said she wanted to as well. However, I don't think she understood it was going to be a date on Tuesday so I decided to make it explicit. I asked if she's still good for Tuesday and if it was ok if I made it into a date instead. She said "ehhm okay! but i'm not sure about turning it into a date : S hehee". I then assured her we'll keep it casual then. She then says "haha ok! going on a date with a guy is a little hard for mee". I ask her why and she says "lets just say I'm being careful? lol". We keep talking about other stuff after that, but now one of her friend and our mutual friend is joining us. My questions are, do you think by me going explicit freaked her out a little and/or scare her? Also, what do u think she meant by saying she's being "careful"? My interpretation is she wants more time to learn about me, but I may simply be delusional haha what do you think?
PegNosePete Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 She doesn't want to date you. No I don't think you "sacred" her. I think she wouldn't have wanted to date you whether you asked her explicitly or not. People are not scared off by communication. You just discovered her true feelings. 2
Author yukikaze203 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Are u then suggesting that the valentines night cruise + dessert thing was just her going with the flow, so to speak?
PegNosePete Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Well she has stated quite explicitly that she does not want to date you. And backed this up by inviting friends along to the movie (which clearly means it is NOT a date). So does it really matter why she did what she did on V day? 1
Poppygoodwill Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Are u then suggesting that the valentines night cruise + dessert thing was just her going with the flow, so to speak? Yes. She was trying it out to see how it felt. For whatever reason, she's decided she's just not that into you. Sorry.
Tetley Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 No. Don't assume she's not into you! She said she enjoyed Vday with you. Take her words at face value. She wants to be careful. Dating a guy is a little hard for her. Be patient. Hang out with her some more, with your mutual friends. Let her get to know you better in person. If you get good vibes ask her out on another date.
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