StGeorge22 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Hi guys. Just hoping I can get a bit of perspective on this. Will start by saying that I know NC is the way to go and I don't think I'm one of these people who is delusional about getting back together, but still I find myself thinking about this. My situation is this- had a long term relationship (from mid 20s to late 20s) which ended 18 months ago. Basically, she had some mental health issues which put a massive strain on our relationship. Caused a lot of resentment. I think I supported her the best I could in a difficult situation, but she is still bitter that I didn't support her enough. Was also arguments about why we weren't getting engaged ( we literally had no money due to the fact that she couldn't work for a while but she still says that I didn't take it seriously). Anyway, we spent all of 2013 on and off. A lot of things have changed for both of us, and I think we a lot of issues gone our relationship could be different this time around. A lack of love never really seemed to be the problem. Late last year she told me she couldn't decide and as a result was running away to move states. I accepted this but she kept wanting to hang out to see if we could do long distance. Towards the end of the year she still said she couldn't decide and couldn't trust that I would take our relationship seriously, so she is trying to move on. I suspect she has someone over there, an old friend who she already knew but she denied it before she moved over. Anyway, it's been a month NC. Every other time I went NC last year she would come back. This time it feels a bit different given she is in a new state. I found out a few days ago that I have to go to her state in a few weeks for work. Since then I haven't been able to stop thinking about whether I should contact her or not. I know, I should keep NC. The most likely scenario is that if I reach out to her, there is a strong possibility she will say she is with someone else and I'll be back to square 1. I know all this stuff, but I still can't get the possibility out of my head about contacting her when I'm there. Do I want her back, I know I shouldn't but if you are asking me honestly then yeah I prob do. But I also know I need to respect myself enough to not reach out to someone who had a heap of chances. The main issue is that she is scared to give me another chance and it won't work out again. Anyway, any insights would be really welcomed.
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