Parixx Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I met a guy when I went back home and we really hit it off. The problem is that I had to move away for studies and he is still back there. Whilst I was still at home, he would txt me all the time, call me all the time, come to see me after work, set dates etc etc. We had an amazing connection and he even told me he really liked me. We were also intimate but he decided not to be in a relationship until he knew how LDR felt. Its been a three days since I have moved back and already he seems distant. He messages me but there are times when I know he is online but isn't replying to me. He ignored my sentimental messages where I told him I missed him. He says that this is really hard for him, but I don't even feel like he is putting in any effort. He is less flirty now and less vibrant on the phone. Am I being paranoid? Should I give it more time or is this a clear indication that he isn't interested?
Author Parixx Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 I instantly reply his messages because I'm so eager to talk to him. Idk what to do. I'm really upset.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I don't think he feels the same way you do, OP. He already warned you he doesn't want a LDR - listen to him. Don't put more effort than he does. If it's only been three days and he's fading, he's not looking for a future with you at this point. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 This was just a whirlwind romance, walk away before it blows up in your face, this guy is not interested in making it work. Keep it a positive memory instead of see it crumble over time. 1
what_a_blonde Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Sorry that you have developed such strong feelings and were also intimate with him, however it sounds like he really wasn't interested in a relationship at all. He knew you would be moving back and it would be a LDR, so why did he continue with all the romancing... hmmm and ultimately it led to you two being intimate, and now he is being distant. Men do this, its quite common. He probably really did/does like you, then when he finally got the grand prize before you left, its now not as exciting for him. I would just stop initiating any messages and see how long it takes for him to contact you. Don't hold your breath or anything, but just know that it sounds like he really isn't interested in a LDR so you probably need to let go, move on, just like he is. Also, don't beat yourself up for this. Like I said above, he probably really did like you an was obviously into you, however for some people they just can't do LDR.. and you cannot force him to either. If he is not willing to do LDR, then he is not worth your time or thoughts. Try to starting meeting new people so you can possibly find someone who you can connect with and who wants to make sacrifices and make it work with you.
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