blargh Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 here goes... well there's this girl at work i went out with a few times...i think we get along great, we always have a good time together. i'm not sure from those few dates that she knows how i feel, and i would've told her sooner but i didn't have the courage at the time. i'm not sure how she feels about me, she's sort of the shy type and i get a lot of mixed signals.. =/ anyways, she recently moved east to start school and won't be back for a few months - but just before she left another guy i work with had asked her out and she just recently informed me of that over AIM. i know for a fact that she and him are pretty close friends, and he has a very real chance i guess...do you think it's still too soon to tell her how i feel or should i wait until i see her again (4 months) and tell her face to face? clueless what to do...i don't her to think i'm a creep or anything and claim her as mine so soon...
Hund1976 Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Wait until she gets back. You or her could meet another girl or guy in the meantime. Or even if she is into this other guy that asked her out that could fizzle out in a month or two.
Midwest guy Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 Hi. I dont know if you saw my post below in this board. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t55295/ but Im in a similar situation. There was a college chick where I work who is hot but goes away to school. I asked her out and all and she kept giving excuses and was saying I was too pushy with her asking her out everyday I see her. anyways I told her before about my feelings and that I think shes cute and nice and she thought it was cute. Just be upfront with her and tell her what you think of her and just be straight forward and ask her if shes going to go out or not. that way your not worrying over the next several months and getting all worked up when she might not go out with you in the first place. I know I made this mistake with the girl at work cause the last day I talked to her before she went back she said she doesnt like dating at work and that since she goes to Quincy U which is two hours away from Stl she said it doesnt work out and that Im not really her type she said. But she doesnt have a bf thought she said. I told her I still like her and that over the summer if I could take her out and she said she would see. I hope there is still a slim chance. I cant get her out of my head.
MassiveAtom Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 STOOOOPPPPPPPPP!!!!!! Look you knuckleheads, hang back! play it cool and protect yourself! Girls DON'T want to be your mother, or psychiatrist or anything. Do you want to be bogged down with all these deep feelings and responsibilities for someone else. C'mon. Stop it. Just go out there and make her giggle. She'll feel good, and then feel good about you. That's where it all starts. Then after about 4 or 5 dates, she'll probably fall in love with you. BUT GO IN SLOW!!! NOTHING sends a woman screaming from a guy faster than dumping all over her on the first date everything that you "Feel" about her. THINK about her, Watch her, figure out if she is worthy to have YOU in her life. Not the other way 'round. And stop talking about all this feelings crap. that just stuff and nonsense. I can almost hear the egos getting bruised right now. as always, MA
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