Driftking102 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 So i broke up with my girlfriend today after being with her for 1 year and 9 months. We had known each other for 1 year and then were official for 9 more months. Almost 2 years! There were a lot of ups and downs and roller coaster rides if you guys look at my previous posts. She was not matching me personality wise. The sex was great, and the hangout time was awesome. When it came down to the core personality, she was a very must be outdoor 24/7 type of girl. She never wanted to be inside for more then an hour and she was always outside. Going to the movies, restaurants and shopping was nice but I don't want that to be our only activity. In total with all the trips, hangout time outside, and all the gifts I spent on her it came out to be 20,000 dollars. NO JOKE I know women are expensive but this girl was super expensive. She was the one who took my virginity which is probably why I stayed with her so long. We broke up because I found out we needed to get over a plateau. After being with this chick for almost 2 years and never meeting her mom or brother I figured it was time to split. She was not interested in me ever meeting them and i asked her once a month. She wanted to keep our relationship a secret and not be broadcasted until she felt ready. I finally decided when she blocked my number and did not want to work it out with me that our time was done. She usually always wants to work it out but I figured our relationship was dead. When she noticed the dropped in texts and calls from me then she probably knew something was up. I ended up becoming dissatisfied with our sex life. We only did it once a month. Her last boyfriend cheated on her and it was probably because of this reason. I am going to be the bigger man and split before something bad happens. All she did is wanting to be outside 24/7 with her friends and family. She wanted me there to say she had a boyfriend. She went from part-time to full time and just started working way to much. I visited her at work and always saw her working and making money. But then she would more then rather go hangout with her friends and family then spend time with me. MEN you know your relationship is dead when your women wants to go hangout with her friends and she says no to time with you. At the beginning she always would say yes lets go hangout but after sex, and being together with each other for 2 years our love dwindled to nothing. I hope to find that spark with another women. I also want one that treats me well and actually wants me to hangout with them inside and not outside 24/7. look for these signs when your dating women. If your the type of person who wants to be inside and notices your women is outside 24/7 a lot avoid these women. They can have another guy struggle through that trap. Thanks Why do I not feel sad after dumping her? I dumped her via text today and she hasnt responded.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 You don't feel sad because you knew it wasn't right. Don't be too surprised if the sadness does hit you in a few days/weeks, though. That's natural even if you were the dumper. She probably hasn't replied because you dumped her via text after nearly two years. That is a terrible move, no matter how you feel about somebody at the end. You just weren't compatible with what you enjoyed. I love being on the go and doing stuff and going out etc. but when I'm happy with somebody I love being indoors, snuggling up and watching some crappy movie or a gig DVD is bliss when you are with the right person. Also, $20k? What were you thinking? What were you doing with her? I fail to see how any girlfriend could get that amount spent on her unless you're talking multiple all-expenses paid trips to tropical destinations. How!? 1
Author Driftking102 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 You don't feel sad because you knew it wasn't right. Don't be too surprised if the sadness does hit you in a few days/weeks, though. That's natural even if you were the dumper. She probably hasn't replied because you dumped her via text after nearly two years. That is a terrible move, no matter how you feel about somebody at the end. You just weren't compatible with what you enjoyed. I love being on the go and doing stuff and going out etc. but when I'm happy with somebody I love being indoors, snuggling up and watching some crappy movie or a gig DVD is bliss when you are with the right person. Also, $20k? What were you thinking? What were you doing with her? I fail to see how any girlfriend could get that amount spent on her unless you're talking multiple all-expenses paid trips to tropical destinations. How!? First vacation was to seaside oregon, second vacation was to disneyland, plus when we had sex everytime it was $50 a pop for her to take plan B every time we did it and we had sex often up until the middle of our relationship. I know she didn't have to take the plan B pill but she wanted to just to make sure I didn't get her pregnant. We started her on birth control when we started dating. She did not take birth control because she was not dating anyone for a year before me. Plus we went out to dinners and movies a lot. Dinners were $30 a pop after tax and movies were $40 a pop after tax.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 First vacation was to seaside oregon, second vacation was to disneyland, plus when we had sex everytime it was $50 a pop for her to take plan B every time we did it and we had sex often up until the middle of our relationship. I know she didn't have to take the plan B pill but she wanted to just to make sure I didn't get her pregnant. We started her on birth control when we started dating. She did not take birth control because she was not dating anyone for a year before me. Plus we went out to dinners and movies a lot. Dinners were $30 a pop after tax and movies were $40 a pop after tax. And where was her contribution to all of this? Seriously dude, next time don't splash the cash around so much. It only guarantees that the girl who is not that into you is more likely to stick around and ride the gravy train. 1
Tayken Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 First vacation was to seaside oregon, second vacation was to disneyland, plus when we had sex everytime it was $50 a pop for her to take plan B every time we did it and we had sex often up until the middle of our relationship. I know she didn't have to take the plan B pill but she wanted to just to make sure I didn't get her pregnant. We started her on birth control when we started dating. She did not take birth control because she was not dating anyone for a year before me. Plus we went out to dinners and movies a lot. Dinners were $30 a pop after tax and movies were $40 a pop after tax. Ahahahahah...there is one born every second, do you actually think she was taking that plan B that allegedly cost $50? She managed to pull a wool over your eyes and everytime you did it, it was costing you $50 plus movies and dinner....you would have been better off with a hooker Wow wow wow...she really had you by the goolies that one, and not to insult you, I don't think you are in any position to be giving dating and relationship advice considering this girl was your first shag, and she fed you this sympathy story of how her bf cheated on here....it's the oldest trick in the book to make you feel sorry for her, and you fell for it hook line and sinker 20k for a year's worth of what allegedly was "good sex"? I doubt it and she was probably faking all that time. I guess it is true that you have to "fake it to make it"
Author Driftking102 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Ahahahahah...there is one born every second, do you actually think she was taking that plan B that allegedly cost $50? She managed to pull a wool over your eyes and everytime you did it, it was costing you $50 plus movies and dinner....you would have been better off with a hooker Wow wow wow...she really had you by the goolies that one, and not to insult you, I don't think you are in any position to be giving dating and relationship advice considering this girl was your first shag, and she fed you this sympathy story of how her bf cheated on here....it's the oldest trick in the book to make you feel sorry for her, and you fell for it hook line and sinker 20k for a year's worth of what allegedly was "good sex"? I doubt it and she was probably faking all that time. I guess it is true that you have to "fake it to make it" All i know is I will never fall for those type of girls again. I learned my lesson. We knew each other through out high school to so that's why I started dating her. We have only been out of high school for 6 years ish. She was taking the plan B pill because she would take it in the car once I got the pill.
Author Driftking102 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 And where was her contribution to all of this? Seriously dude, next time don't splash the cash around so much. It only guarantees that the girl who is not that into you is more likely to stick around and ride the gravy train. Mostly love and emotional support (which I got very little of). She didn't pay for anything at all. The only gift she paid for was my 6th month anniversary gift that she gave to me. She did not like cuddling a lot and she hated to be in doors for more then an hour.
Sugarkane Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Mostly love and emotional support (which I got very little of). She didn't pay for anything at all. The only gift she paid for was my 6th month anniversary gift that she gave to me. She did not like cuddling a lot and she hated to be in doors for more then an hour. Why did you put up with this? Didn't she ever work at all? Not even part time?
Author Driftking102 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Why did you put up with this? Didn't she ever work at all? Not even part time? She works part-time and she used to work full time. I put up with it because I thought things would get better but they didn't. So I ended it this weekend because I was done with the I want space crap and being gone for 5 days and then texting me saying she wants to hangout.
BDL Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Almost 2 years is a long time. Even though you two are not compatible, you did love her at one point. You don't feel sad now, but you will in the next several days or weeks. And it will be very painful, especially when she moves on, and you realise she may never be back in your life. It's gonna hurt like a bitch!
crackerjax9 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 You broke up with her through a text? Pretty cowardly.
Author Driftking102 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 You broke up with her through a text? Pretty cowardly. Only way to do it. she would not take my calls or meet me in person. I had to do it three ways just in case she blocked me. Text, facebook, and email. I think i pretty much covered all the basis so she will get the message.
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