Quick question

[justnotsure83]

I know its healthy to have time apart and grow individually but when that starts to outweight the time spent together even when youre both free what does this indicate other than the obvious 'she isnt that into you'?

 

We used to be inseperable and i cannot get my head around how now we make plans for example its monday and she will say 'lets meet friday' now if i say on wednesday 'fancy doing something i miss you' she will say im putting pressure on and not meet till friday ? yet we used to be so close spending so much time together now i feel i cant even ask her out unless its on her terms without me coming across needy. im not needy just like making time to spend with my gf rather than waiting 4/5 days between meets. Wouldnt be as bad if we both had full time jobs but she works part time and i run my own business so have good time to meet. we never do anymore except these planned dates and its killing me, no spontunuity about us anymore, feel xmas came and went and were left seperated.

 

and to add when i then ask how her days going she says 'im bored done nothing all day' :\ makes no sense, she says im the love of her life and soul mate yet never wants to see me. I feel im trapped in an unhappy relationship hoping she will change back to how it was but can already feel the distance between us

Edited February 16, 2014 by justnotsure83

[mammasita]

The first question is have you discussed this with her? You say you bring up seeing her in the middle of the week but have you really had a talk about how you'd like to spend more time together?

 

It does seem weird that she has free time and is often "bored" yet she doesn't want to see you. I'm thinking that's a little bit of a red flag. Has anything else in your relationship changed recently? How long have you been together? How old are you both?

[justnotsure83]

The first question is have you discussed this with her? You say you bring up seeing her in the middle of the week but have you really had a talk about how you'd like to spend more time together?

 

It does seem weird that she has free time and is often "bored" yet she doesn't want to see you. I'm thinking that's a little bit of a red flag. Has anything else in your relationship changed recently? How long have you been together? How old are you both?

 

both late 20's, we used to have sex near on every time we met, used to meet daily, now we hardly meet, sex is litterally non existant, i can send her pictures and get nothing back, and now ive started getting 'phones on charge text later' then silence all night. its pretty obvious signs but i dont want to admit it to myself

[mammasita]

Ok, I just went to look at your other threads. I have to say the signs are there that she's cheating. Why would she not want to spend time with the love of her life? Think about it, not to mention the whole thing with the POF message. It's all there in your face.

[BradJacobs]

I feel im trapped in an unhappy relationship hoping she will change back to how it was but can already feel the distance between us

You're not trapped. You can leave whenever you would like.

[mammasita]

OP, man up and call her out. She's walking all over you and you wanna know why?

 

You're letting her.

 

Everyone who's read your posts know she's untrustworthy and Ill go ahead and say she's cheating. If you want to even try to turn this around TELL HER how things will be. If she doesn't like your offer, then walk.

 

End of story.

 

If I were you, I wouldn't even bother trying to talk to her , but I know you're going to hem and haw over this and not walk away like you should.

[shinealight]

Aye i am on the others here, if you are with someone and they are showing no interest in you what so ever then dump them they are clearly not worth the time or effort. She clearly must either have lost interest in the relationship or is most deff cheating.