WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 "I HAVE 2 JOBS" Why are they mentioning that in their profile instead of letting some guy know that once they talk on a one on one basis? The whole world has to know she has two jobs which may make it hard for her to date. And it's presented like they are PROUD OF IT LOL
Tayken Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 You can look at that some other way......she is not a career professional, and has to do "these two jobs" to get by? That could be your red flag to run if you are looking for someone on an equal footing Also...how is this going to play into you dating her...i.e. spending time with each other. That is why nurses that do shift always struggle to find dates 3
Lixxy Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 "I HAVE 2 JOBS" Why are they mentioning that in their profile instead of letting some guy know that once they talk on a one on one basis? The whole world has to know she has two jobs which may make it hard for her to date. And it's presented like they are PROUD OF IT LOL Eh..? It's a piece of information about her the same as anything else you might expect to see... Don't people usually put a bit about their jobs on their dating profiles so other members can learn a little about them? What's wrong with being proud of having 2 jobs anyway? O_o
mammasita Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Some people aren't too bright. That's all there is too it.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 It shows that they are a hard worker and do whatever it takes to get by? It warns the guy in advance that she isn't going to have LOTS of free time, or reassures them that she isn't going to be an overly clingy dependent girlfriend? Why don't you just ask her? I have three if you include a full-time placement, 20-25 hour part time job and 4 hour weekly voluntary job (with additional hours on top of that where I am supervising others but not necessarily on-site). So most of the time I'm on 70 hour weeks, I thought it was fair to point that out on OLD to weed out the dudes looking to spend every night with a girl straight from the start.
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 You can look at that some other way......she is not a career professional, and has to do "these two jobs" to get by? That could be your red flag to run if you are looking for someone on an equal footing Also...how is this going to play into you dating her...i.e. spending time with each other. That is why nurses that do shift always struggle to find dates exactly, where is the spare time? Unless it's 2 part-time jobs and she is struggling. Either way it sounds bad
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 Eh..? It's a piece of information about her the same as anything else you might expect to see... Don't people usually put a bit about their jobs on their dating profiles so other members can learn a little about them? What's wrong with being proud of having 2 jobs anyway? O_o Two Jobs means you are struggling and have little spare time
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 It shows that they are a hard worker and do whatever it takes to get by? It warns the guy in advance that she isn't going to have LOTS of free time, or reassures them that she isn't going to be an overly clingy dependent girlfriend? Why don't you just ask her? I have three if you include a full-time placement, 20-25 hour part time job and 4 hour weekly voluntary job (with additional hours on top of that where I am supervising others but not necessarily on-site). So most of the time I'm on 70 hour weeks, I thought it was fair to point that out on OLD to weed out the dudes looking to spend every night with a girl straight from the start. Well that sounds like you only have time for a FWB
Lixxy Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 It shows that they are a hard worker and do whatever it takes to get by? It warns the guy in advance that she isn't going to have LOTS of free time, or reassures them that she isn't going to be an overly clingy dependent girlfriend? Why don't you just ask her? I have three if you include a full-time placement, 20-25 hour part time job and 4 hour weekly voluntary job (with additional hours on top of that where I am supervising others but not necessarily on-site). So most of the time I'm on 70 hour weeks, I thought it was fair to point that out on OLD to weed out the dudes looking to spend every night with a girl straight from the start. ^ Totally this. I don't see anything wrong with it. And true, if anything, it warns guys from the start. OP would it be better if it took getting to date her, possibly paying for her meal for the privilege of finding out information she omitted in her profile that may mean you can't make it work?
Tayken Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I usually go for the professional career women types, a trade up from my ex...why should I go back to the same thing I had? I look at "education" and "job"...another reason being, if you ever split up with someone that has a degree (earning potentials), you are more like to not have to pay them some sort of support as opposed to if they had no skills and were just a barista at Starbucks, walmart greeter or some sales clerk. Whenever I see the "just ask" under the profession, it's a clue that they aren't doing much. Another one is "associate degree" under education
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 ^ Totally this. I don't see anything wrong with it. And true, if anything, it warns guys from the start. OP would it be better if it took getting to date her, possibly paying for her meal for the privilege of finding out information she omitted in her profile that may mean you can't make it work? I wonder is a indirect way of saying she only has time for a FWB
FitChick Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 If you want a woman who has time for you, date one on welfare. As for a professional woman having time, quite often they work 12-hour days. There are plenty of people working at Starbucks who have college degrees these days.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Well that sounds like you only have time for a FWB Funnily enough not really! I had a relationship during my last placement. I worked 9am-11pm three or four weekdays and 9-5 the other one or two... and then on weekends only worked 11-7 or 7-7. So I generally had one or two weeknights free, weekend evenings free, and could have a little bit of a lie in on a weekend usually too. I still saw my then-boyfriend, saw plenty of my friends etc. It's all about cramming things in when you can, maybe grabbing a coffee with friends between the two jobs if I had a spare half hour, having sleepovers with my ex so that we got a couple of hours of intimacy and hanging out as well as sleeping next to each other. I don't get when people act as though 70 hour weeks are an impediment to dating. I still saw my ex 3-4 times a week, never ditched my friends either. You just have to essentially accept that you will be on the go every hour of every day and will rarely have any time to relax to yourself. That's fine, I love difficult than being financially supported by family or a partner imo.
Tayken Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 By working at Starbucks...I don't mean students doing part time work....I am talking about people who dropped out of school and couldn't be bothered to do anything with their lives.....and are just doing any job that comes, whils waiting for a guy to carry them Oh by the way...not all professional women have to work 12hr days, unless of course they are a doctor, lawyer, pharmacist and one of those
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 it shows none of that. what it shows is that her work takes priority over a guy. in reality when the good looking jerk with pumped arms comes along she will make time for him. but never for a good guy. I'm not sure where you got the impression that I don't make time for a guy. Of COURSE my work will take priority over a guy. Relationships can disappear in an instant, I'd rather that happen and be left with a satisfying career, able to support myself, doing something I love. I would lose major respect for any dude that prioritised his relationship with me over working hard, especially in the early days. You obviously have some unresolved issues and a lot of projection going along with it. I still made lots of time with a relationship during my placement, and will be doing so on my next five-month placement. I am a FIRM believer that if you care about somebody and want to see them, you will make time for them. I have experience of long working weeks which is why I have little patience for the kinds of guys and girls you hear about on here who want to meet up but 'I'm just so busy'. If you want to see somebody, and make them feel special, long working days are no object.
HappyLove Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I can't believe I'm the only one who saw this as...'I can be your sugar mama'. Nowadays the roles are so reversed with men and women I see it as her calling card to men who like to be taken care of these days. 1
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 If you want a woman who has time for you, date one on welfare. As for a professional woman having time, quite often they work 12-hour days. There are plenty of people working at Starbucks who have college degrees these days. I believe I said the ladies said they had multiple jobs, not one professional job that demands a lot of their time
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 Funnily enough not really! I had a relationship during my last placement. I worked 9am-11pm three or four weekdays and 9-5 the other one or two... and then on weekends only worked 11-7 or 7-7. So I generally had one or two weeknights free, weekend evenings free, and could have a little bit of a lie in on a weekend usually too. I still saw my then-boyfriend, saw plenty of my friends etc. It's all about cramming things in when you can, maybe grabbing a coffee with friends between the two jobs if I had a spare half hour, having sleepovers with my ex so that we got a couple of hours of intimacy and hanging out as well as sleeping next to each other. I don't get when people act as though 70 hour weeks are an impediment to dating. I still saw my ex 3-4 times a week, never ditched my friends either. You just have to essentially accept that you will be on the go every hour of every day and will rarely have any time to relax to yourself. That's fine, I love difficult than being financially supported by family or a partner imo. well I can't be on the go every hour of the day because I don't operate by battery
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 well I can't be on the go every hour of the day because I don't operate by battery Well I hope for your sake you're never in a position where you have little choice in the matter. It's amazing what you can dredge up when you want something badly enough
TB Rhine Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) it means i don't have time for you' date=' unless you're an abusive good looking jerk.[/quote'] Precisely... it's a pre-emptive excuse for never having time to hang out, not returning your messages in a timely manner (if at all), etc. your included in that. in fact you are a stupid dumb cunt of a woman. no woman is bright. The quality of the discourse here just gets better and better. Edited February 16, 2014 by TB Rhine
BradJacobs Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 "I HAVE 2 JOBS" Why are they mentioning that in their profile instead of letting some guy know that once they talk on a one on one basis? The whole world has to know she has two jobs which may make it hard for her to date. And it's presented like they are PROUD OF IT LOL It's no better or worse than the ones that talk about their children being their primary focus in life a few hundred times in their profile. We men get it. You're a single mother on a dating site. Your children should be a main priority of yours. I don't need to know that you feel you deserve the Mother of the Year Award. I want to know where you believe I would fit in your life. Is it fourth in line? Kids -> Career -> Dog -> Me? Fifth? Are you looking for a partner in life or just someone to distract you from everything else that you've got going on?
TB Rhine Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 It's no better or worse than the ones that talk about their children being their primary focus in life a few hundred times in their profile. We men get it. You're a single mother on a dating site. Your children should be a main priority of yours. Yes indeed... they are 'her world.' [!!!] I'm also getting tired of that damn Marilyn Monroe quote.
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 Well I hope for your sake you're never in a position where you have little choice in the matter. It's amazing what you can dredge up when you want something badly enough Relaxation is mandatory for all humans
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 Yes indeed... they are 'her world.' [!!!] I'm also getting tired of that damn Marilyn Monroe quote. what's the marilyn monroe quote?
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Relaxation is mandatory for all humans I agree entirely. I still relax. I find my part time evening/weekend job pretty relaxing which helps, it's like my downtime. No doubt I'd find it a million times harder bouncing between jobs I hate, I'm lucky. Placement is stressful but also rewarding so it's all good.
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