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Im 26 my girlfriend is 20, well shes not my girlfriend anymore. we broke up in october because she needed space.

 

Since that time we have continued being involved in each others lives.

 

Finally last week I sat down and said "what is going on between us?". she said "what do you mean?" i said"we aren't together but it sure does feel like it" and she said "i know, it's hard to explain"

 

i said "i need you to explain it so i know" she then said "i love you, i do, and i can see myself marrying you, but i can't fully commit to you" i was confused and asked what she meant, and she said "i just have commitment issues, there's things i need to work on and things you need to work on before we even think about getting serious, especially before we move next year"

 

i don't understand this at all. do you?

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Im 26 my girlfriend is 20, well shes not my girlfriend anymore. we broke up in october because she needed space.

 

Since that time we have continued being involved in each others lives.

 

Finally last week I sat down and said "what is going on between us?". she said "what do you mean?" i said"we aren't together but it sure does feel like it" and she said "i know, it's hard to explain"

 

i said "i need you to explain it so i know" she then said "i love you, i do, and i can see myself marrying you, but i can't fully commit to you" i was confused and asked what she meant, and she said "i just have commitment issues, there's things i need to work on and things you need to work on before we even think about getting serious, especially before we move next year"

 

i don't understand this at all. do you?

 

She is young and either wants to explore life more or have her own problems. I think you are better moving on to someone who is in the same stage of life as you. You need to ask yourself how much longer you are willing to be in this kind of relationship with her.

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if you love her stick with her

 

Loving someone can also be about letting them go.

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She wants to sow her wild oats with other dudes....(sorry to be blunt)

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Clear as day. I understand that she's 20 and she doesn't know what she wants. It may or may not end with you, but you need to let her go on and figure that out on her own.

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