erklat Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Right, I was out in a city 100km away with my best man last night and we had a long discussion driving back home, he was kinda buzzing and something happened there that agitated him. So the background - he met this girl to whom he says he wasn't attracted enough from the first moment to commit to her. I guess he never fell in love as much as he thought he should. They are seeing each other since October and I see the girl is getting hurt. I said to him couple of months back not to waste her time, and his because he could've met someone else in that time, but nothing. I am pushing my own agenda now as I'm kinda fond of her best friend now. So the issue is: -he says that he can't get over her being intimate with one guy from our immediate social circle and she lying to him about it. No one caught them being intimate, but there are indications it is so. He thinks she not telling him is lying. I say she is overly invested and doesn't want to loose him over something so trivial - he shouldn't ask about her past. -her friend, was kinda whoring around with lowlifes before. Should I walk away or give her a chance? Is it shooting love down in favor of pride and ego? Is it immature to do so? I have no issues about her past, since I know from my last ltr that a girl for whom everyone said is going to cheat got so committed to me that I could've married her if I was into her enough. What do u think? Is his way or thinking childish? I know the background since we live in a small town and everyone knows each other. Mostly of all everything is not much relevant because he is looking to relieve his guilt when he dumps her so is just nitpicking here. I feel an insane amount of chemistry with her friend. Thoughts please?
Shepp Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 My girlfriend was with a lot of guys before me, she used to do the whole ONS thing big time. I'll do everything I can to ensure shes the girl that walks down the aisle to me and I spend my life with. I guess that's my answer as to how much I value past. The past is history. 1
HappyLove Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Leave it alone. If their past is bothering you now and she's not even your girl it's only going to get harder. Sounds like you found some fast girls who've been around the block with people you know. I'd pass.
Author erklat Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 It doesn't bother me any longer. I don't ask and don't think about it. I was just wondering are ONS or FWB arrangements your ex had in past bothering you. I'm going to boink her no matter what, and I don't rule the possibility of falling in love regardless of her past. I say I experienced that anyone thought my ex was committed to the last to me. The 'people from the block' claimed we are not going to last a month.
FitChick Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Plenty of men and women have had ONS and FWB. Some young people of either sex need to sow their wild oats before they settle down and often are more committed because they've "been there, done that" and won't feel they are missing anything. Some young people had little sex, so marry the first person who seems okay and then regret it and cheat in their marriage. Some don't. Don't live your life for other people.
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