starla33 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 so we had our 3rd date yesterday. I invited him to an event I was at so he brought a friend that brought some friends. He spent most of the night with those friends pretty much barely talking to me and my friends (which I thought was super weird). He was also constantly checking his phone. He didn't do this on our first 2 dates so I don't know what to think of it (maybe was nervous in such a social situation?) He did apologize for this after. Anyway I'm getting serious friend vibe from him at this point since we have barely even kissed and he doesnt really make any moves. He wants to hang out again. Should I just tell him I'm getting friend vibe from him at this point and get it over with? Hes really nice and my friends thought so as well, but did mention he was a bit awkward.
Iguanna Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 It's pretty obvious there was something in his mind that day. Did he give an excuse about him minding on the phone all the time? What did he apologize for? I'd say go on another date with him and show him some signs that you like him and you want this to go somewhere more. If he doesn't show interest, then you will know he sees you as a friend. 1
Arieswoman Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 so we had our 3rd date yesterday. I invited him to an event I was at so he brought a friend that brought some friends. He spent most of the night with those friends pretty much barely talking to me and my friends (which I thought was super weird). He was also constantly checking his phone. To me that is plain bad manners and it doesn't seem much like a "date" to me. I would tell him you weren't happy about it and see what he says. Next time make sure you have a proper date where you can start to get to know each other. TBH he doesn't seem that into you.
Poppygoodwill Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 so we had our 3rd date yesterday. I invited him to an event I was at so he brought a friend that brought some friends. He spent most of the night with those friends pretty much barely talking to me and my friends (which I thought was super weird). He was also constantly checking his phone. He didn't do this on our first 2 dates so I don't know what to think of it (maybe was nervous in such a social situation?) He did apologize for this after. Anyway I'm getting serious friend vibe from him at this point since we have barely even kissed and he doesnt really make any moves. He wants to hang out again. Should I just tell him I'm getting friend vibe from him at this point and get it over with? Hes really nice and my friends thought so as well, but did mention he was a bit awkward. Is it possible he felt that becuase you invited him to an event, instead of a date with just the two of you, that you were putting him in the friendzone? If not, then I'd say he's definitely doing it to you. If he brought people to this event and spent his time with them, then I'd say he's not interested enough in you to bother with a fourth date. Sorry.
HappyLove Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 This doesn't seem like much of a date to me. It sounds like a case of too much too soon. You're not even sure where you stand with him so you invite him to an event with your friends? That's a weird move. Did you invite him so your friends could see how awkward he is? Did you invite him to see if he'd claim you as his woman at this event? Did you invite him as a friend? It's nerve racking enough just going out one on one on a third date, I think this just confused things. If you like him I think you need to date one on one so you get to know each other and see if your a match or friends. 2
TheNewMe2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 My initial thoughts are wondering if you really have any strong interest in him? It's just an impression I get. Or - are you a bit shy too? If you know that he is shy/awkward and you like him - there is nothing to say you can't show him some affection first. If he truly is awkward/shy - he may not know how to act in these situations. If you do like him, guide him through it. If you think it's 'weird' - then this is a relationship that won't work. He's not going to get better with it overnight. His actions, to me, demonstrate that he's shy and maybe social awkward. So, you need to think about whether he's worth it. I do agree that 3 dates and friends might be a bit much - but if the chemistry was that good, that isn't a big deal.
MidwestUSA Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I would do a retake of date #3. You invited him to an event with your friends. He brought his friends because he felt awkward. Then you went and judged him for not acting right! If he suggested 'hanging out' again, take him up on it. No guy is going to put moves on you in a big group situation like you subjected him to. 1
Author starla33 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Is it possible he felt that becuase you invited him to an event, instead of a date with just the two of you, that you were putting him in the friendzone? If not, then I'd say he's definitely doing it to you. If he brought people to this event and spent his time with them, then I'd say he's not interested enough in you to bother with a fourth date. Sorry. i did say we are going on a 4th date in my post... its very confusing. I'm used to guys at least making out with me by this point. I'm just really starting to feel whatever attraction I had for him die off since hes not making any moves
MidwestUSA Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 i did say we are going on a 4th date in my post... its very confusing. I'm used to guys at least making out with me by this point. I'm just really starting to feel whatever attraction I had for him die off since hes not making any moves Then have some input and make sure date #4 is cozy and intimate. I've heard raw oysters will put him in the mood! Seriously, you may just have to prompt this guy; good luck! 1
PegNosePete Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 He was also constantly checking his phone. Maybe he was checking for messages from you to try to get some personal time away from both of your friend groups??
Emilia Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 so we had our 3rd date yesterday. I invited him to an event I was at so he brought a friend that brought some friends. He spent most of the night with those friends pretty much barely talking to me and my friends (which I thought was super weird). He was also constantly checking his phone. He didn't do this on our first 2 dates so I don't know what to think of it (maybe was nervous in such a social situation?) He did apologize for this after. Anyway I'm getting serious friend vibe from him at this point since we have barely even kissed and he doesnt really make any moves. He wants to hang out again. Should I just tell him I'm getting friend vibe from him at this point and get it over with? Hes really nice and my friends thought so as well, but did mention he was a bit awkward. Did you ask him for the 4th date or did he? If you asked I'd say he isn't interested.
Author starla33 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Did you ask him for the 4th date or did he? If you asked I'd say he isn't interested. He did and planned it. But like I said this is last try before he has a nice little spot in the friend zone. I would love to meet a nice guy, but This is ridiculous
Author starla33 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Maybe he was checking for messages from you to try to get some personal time away from both of your friend groups?? I was not sending him any. This was such a huge turnoff.
ChatroomHero Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 He did and planned it. But like I said this is last try before he has a nice little spot in the friend zone. I would love to meet a nice guy, but This is ridiculous And you found a nice guy but because he doesn't make a move, you can't? Seriously, if you find an awkward guy that is nice and your friends agree, maybe he is shy or nervous... you can initiate the first move. You could hold out for 20 years and you might not meet another nice guy or a guy who moves at the same pace you are used to or hits all the things on your list. If you initiate he might just be an animal and then all your prayers would be answered. 1
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