When the ex comes back for more....that almost always come back.

[Mr. Gullible]

After some great advice from some great people on this site, I stopped all forms of communication with my ex. We had planned to meet for a drink after no verbal contact for several months. She cancled a few times, even after she asked me out once. So I told her that if she had really wanted to see me, she could have found a couple of hours to make it happen. I said I had lost interest is trying and wished her the best and that I hope she finds whatever it is that she is looking for. It was pretty final...or was it.

 

Now in the past, this has happened a few times and they always call a few months later and want to see me or want to try again. My relationship was good with her, although she had a great fear of comminment. She had been hurt bigtime! Anyway, she left our relationship at its peak...I was surprised.

 

Not to be cocky, but I was the best guy that she has been with EVER...her friends confirmed that fact to me. She had dated losers that **** all over her. I treated her with great respect and love. Maybe too much for her to handle...my fault.

 

My question is why do women always want what they disgard after awhile? I am a fabulous guy, I really am. Is it sport...feeding your ego? And why do we take you back? For revenge...so we can dump you later?

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Mr. Gullible

Not to be cocky, but I was the best guy that she has been with EVER...her friends confirmed that fact to me.

 

you are fooling yourself on this one man

 

She had dated losers that **** all over her.

 

she was attracted to losers who treat her not too good, many women are

 

I treated her with great respect and love. Maybe too much for her to handle...my fault.

 

big mistake

 

My question is why do women always want what they disgard after awhile?

 

many reasons, ego, competition with other women, they did not f***k u up enuf on 1st go around.

 

I am a fabulous guy, I really am.

 

any guys who says this about himself is a "nice guy". regular guy don't say this, they say they are like any other guy, not perfect and with faults. I don't say I am FABULOUS, i say i am average dude.

[daphne]

hey guys,

it isn't just women who take a good person for granted. open your eyes and read the forums. men crap all over nice girls all of the time. it's a tight rope walk. a recovering nice girl myself, i realize that being too nice does cause people, friends and boyfriends to treat me like crap. not all, but enough to get my attenyion.

 

solution? hold back a little and be nice to yourself. if you feel someone's taking you for granted, back off. don't use being nice to elicit the response you need. i.e. love, closeness, adoration. it dsoesn't work that way and that's what nice people are using it for. nice people are people pleasers. please yourself and you'll notice a difference.

[Mr. Gullible]

I did not mean to imply that only women take men for granted. In fact, I think men are much worse...I have done it many times to really sweet women. So, sorry if I offended.

 

As for Alphamale, although I do agree with some of your comments, I disagree with others. I know this girls past well and I can safely say that I am the "best" guy she has been with. Since you don't know me or what I am all about, you can't really make the comment that I am fooling myself. As for treating her with too much respect and love, I try and treat everybody with respect, unless I have reason not to. Respect is never a big mistake, whether you are sleeping with someone or not. And finally, I have many faults and I am far from prefect, but I find nothing average about me or the life that I have led. I will not list all of the reasons that I think I am fabulous, but compared to all of the scrubs that I see everyday, average is not a word I would use to describe myself. If you consider yourself average or just like any other guy, how do you stand out from the rest of the "regular" guys. I have been with some brilliant women in my life, and they have taught me many good things about life. I don't find average that attractive...and I don't assume women do either.

[daphne]

mr g,

no, i can't say that i'm attracted to mediocre, however i've learned that i prefer goodness and simpleness to over inflated ego w/ high intellect. i wish i could find someone a bit more down ot earth about it. but that might e asking too much. sometimes the more intelligent the higher strung they come and i prefer laid back guys. i did find that combination once and it was a match made in heaven but it wasn't meant to be. maybe i can find it again one day.