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Emilieya Member

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how old are you?

 

I'm going to be 20

Leigh 87 Established Member

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If a guy is really crazy and smitten with a girl, he shows it through his actions.

 

I don't care how busy he is, but if a guy is really into you, he will make you his girlfriend in good time.

 

If a guy is really into you, they don't respond to the " well you're not my bf" remark in the manner in which your guy did.

 

A guy that was really into you would have used the " but you're not my boyfriend" remark to either say " well I soon hope to be your bf" or a lot of guys that are really into a girl would use your line as an opportunity to ask a girl out!

 

 

This guy can sweet talk all he wants; he is just not that into you. If he was, he wouldn't use the " well that's what friends are for" comment.

He wouldn't have acted indifferent about your " but you're not my boyfriend" remark.

 

He can come over and cuddle you all night. Guys can have sex with a girl and then want to cuddle them.

Girls come on here all the time and say things like: " I am shocked. He held me at night, he stroked my face ever so gently, he whispered that I am beautiful in my ear and yet he STARTED DATING ANOTHER GIRL. WTF happened, wasn't he falling for me? HE HELP MY FACE and whispered in my ear":lmao:

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Look. Guys can tell you they miss you, they wish they were wish you right now, that they really like you and that you're amazing 25 times a day.

 

They can snuggle you after sex, they can spend all their time with you.

Doing all these seemingly "relationshipy" things DOES NOT mean the guy is really into you.

Holding you while you sleep and telling you of how he misses you constantly DOES NOT mean he wants to be your boyfriend.

 

A LOT of men can think a girl is a great girl; a cool girl, a nice girl, a pretty girl or even that she is a beautiful girl. It DOES NOT mean he is "into" her as anything more than a good friend and sex buddy.

 

Trust me, men OFTEN tell women that they are the most amazing women they have met in a long time; yet still not be that into them as more than a nice girl who they want as a friend and fck buddy/booty call.

 

 

A guy who is into you will show though certain actions that he is truly interested in you as a relationship prospect:

- he will introduce you to his friends and family within the first month or two

- he will text and call regularly. Everyone has a phone these days, and the younger generation mostly calls or texts people regularly if they are really into them

- he will arrange to see you at least once a week no matter how busy he is

- he will never pressure you for sex

- he will WANT to be exclusive with you within about a month or two of dating.

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SunnySide0418 Established Member

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Why are you playing mind games like this??

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Appleness Established Member

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A guy who is into you will show though certain actions that he is truly interested in you as a relationship prospect:

- he will introduce you to his friends and family within the first month or two

- he will text and call regularly. Everyone has a phone these days, and the younger generation mostly calls or texts people regularly if they are really into them

- he will arrange to see you at least once a week no matter how busy he is

- he will never pressure you for sex

- he will WANT to be exclusive with you within about a month or two of dating.

 

 

^^^^ Exactly this!

KatZee Established Member

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It's obvious this guy isn't into you.

 

There's a saying that's really helpful for all relationship situations. "Watch what he/she does. Not what he/she says."

 

So that's great that he calls you "babe" or "baby."

 

He completely disregarded Valentine's Day, didn't say a word to you, and is also pretty non-committal about your birthday. He doesn't seem all that concerned about you seeing other people.

 

He hasn't really shown you at all that he's looking for a relationship, or that he's so into you. You're basically just accepting crumbs he's throwing at you.

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Emilieya Member

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If a guy is really crazy and smitten with a girl, he shows it through his actions.

 

I don't care how busy he is, but if a guy is really into you, he will make you his girlfriend in good time.

 

If a guy is really into you, they don't respond to the " well you're not my bf" remark in the manner in which your guy did.

 

A guy that was really into you would have used the " but you're not my boyfriend" remark to either say " well I soon hope to be your bf" or a lot of guys that are really into a girl would use your line as an opportunity to ask a girl out!

 

 

This guy can sweet talk all he wants; he is just not that into you. If he was, he wouldn't use the " well that's what friends are for" comment.

He wouldn't have acted indifferent about your " but you're not my boyfriend" remark.

 

He can come over and cuddle you all night. Guys can have sex with a girl and then want to cuddle them.

Girls come on here all the time and say things like: " I am shocked. He held me at night, he stroked my face ever so gently, he whispered that I am beautiful in my ear and yet he STARTED DATING ANOTHER GIRL. WTF happened, wasn't he falling for me? HE HELP MY FACE and whispered in my ear":lmao:

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Look. Guys can tell you they miss you, they wish they were wish you right now, that they really like you and that you're amazing 25 times a day.

 

They can snuggle you after sex, they can spend all their time with you.

Doing all these seemingly "relationshipy" things DOES NOT mean the guy is really into you.

Holding you while you sleep and telling you of how he misses you constantly DOES NOT mean he wants to be your boyfriend.

 

A LOT of men can think a girl is a great girl; a cool girl, a nice girl, a pretty girl or even that she is a beautiful girl. It DOES NOT mean he is "into" her as anything more than a good friend and sex buddy.

 

Trust me, men OFTEN tell women that they are the most amazing women they have met in a long time; yet still not be that into them as more than a nice girl who they want as a friend and fck buddy/booty call.

 

 

A guy who is into you will show though certain actions that he is truly interested in you as a relationship prospect:

- he will introduce you to his friends and family within the first month or two

- he will text and call regularly. Everyone has a phone these days, and the younger generation mostly calls or texts people regularly if they are really into them

- he will arrange to see you at least once a week no matter how busy he is

- he will never pressure you for sex

- he will WANT to be exclusive with you within about a month or two of dating.

 

Hi there,

 

I agree with everything you're saying and i'm really thankful that you have been answering my posts because you really give some great tips and I really appreciate that.

 

I understand that if he was really into me he would have made me his gf in short time but I haven't been able to see him enough. I have been away for over 1 month so all that we have been doing is texting, it's hard to make the relationship progress when we have not seen each other in so long. I think that it is way to soon for him to make up a decision, we have only seen each other 2-3 times.

 

Also about the "you're not my bf" comment, all he said was "ok" but then when I told him it was an inside joke he said "haha -_- you got me" which I am pretty sure means "i'm happy that you were just messing with me" By him saying this, doesn't it mean that he has feelings or possibly is looking for something more?

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"haha -_- you got me"

 

Doesn't seem "happy" at all to me. It seems like a pretty "bored" response to your mind games. It sounds fairly uninterested to be honest.

 

If you've only seen him 2 or 3 times why are you so worried about where this is going. Just come back to the area first and continue dating the guy. You're jumping the gun on this. His mind frame is obviously not about making you a girlfriend. He didn't even bring up Valentine's Day.

 

I mean damn, I've been talking to this guy and we've only gotten together ONCE and he still sent me this really cute Valentine's image on my phone, said Happy Valentine's Day! at 9AM, and since we couldn't get together that night we talked on the phone for 2 hours.

 

When a guy is interested in you, you're going to KNOW IT.

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"haha -_- you got me"

 

Doesn't seem "happy" at all to me. It seems like a pretty "bored" response to your mind games. It sounds fairly uninterested to be honest.

 

If you've only seen him 2 or 3 times why are you so worried about where this is going. Just come back to the area first and continue dating the guy. You're jumping the gun on this. His mind frame is obviously not about making you a girlfriend. He didn't even bring up Valentine's Day.

 

I mean damn, I've been talking to this guy and we've only gotten together ONCE and he still sent me this really cute Valentine's image on my phone, said Happy Valentine's Day! at 9AM, and since we couldn't get together that night we talked on the phone for 2 hours.

 

When a guy is interested in you, you're going to KNOW IT.

 

 

 

 

I agree with this 100% Ditch that guy!

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Also about the "you're not my bf" comment, all he said was "ok" but then when I told him it was an inside joke he said "haha -_- you got me" which I am pretty sure means "i'm happy that you were just messing with me" By him saying this, doesn't it mean that he has feelings or possibly is looking for something more?

 

I think you were being very passive and he was feeling pestered by your passiveness and likely trying to evade the "boyfriend" talk so he just gave you vague and offbeat responses.

 

When someone is interested in you, they'll show you. They won't confuse you.

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He might have noticed that you were playing games with him and he decided that he didn't want to deal with that.

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TXGuy Established Member

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it sounds like you are trying to run the guy off. You might have succeeded.

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"Ya :) well not if i don't have a bf by then" (again I said this because I was curious if he is really serious about me or not) and all the he replied was "ok"

 

I am so confused right now.

 

Right there, you told him you were dating other guys while you were away. I dont know why you would be confused about him not taking it well.

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you're playing little games in the hopes he'll pay attention or admit feelings he likely doesn't have. don't play games if you want real relationships. tell someone you like them, ask if they like you, be direct and you will know for sure. he probably knows what you're doing and doesn't want to be part of it.

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I can tell he's not ready to make that kind of commitment to "gf/bf" yet. Sounds like a nice guy, though. Just listen to what he's telling you (well actually NOT telling you but you can totally understand him, I know you do) and just enjoy him for now, for what he is. :) If you want to. If you want a BF though, you do need to move on if you want a deeper thing.

 

happy belated VD by the way. Happy birthday, too. :)

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blondiechika New Member

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If a guy is really crazy and smitten with a girl, he shows it through his actions.

 

I don't care how busy he is, but if a guy is really into you, he will make you his girlfriend in good time.

 

If a guy is really into you, they don't respond to the " well you're not my bf" remark in the manner in which your guy did.

 

A guy that was really into you would have used the " but you're not my boyfriend" remark to either say " well I soon hope to be your bf" or a lot of guys that are really into a girl would use your line as an opportunity to ask a girl out!

 

 

This guy can sweet talk all he wants; he is just not that into you. If he was, he wouldn't use the " well that's what friends are for" comment.

He wouldn't have acted indifferent about your " but you're not my boyfriend" remark.

 

He can come over and cuddle you all night. Guys can have sex with a girl and then want to cuddle them.

Girls come on here all the time and say things like: " I am shocked. He held me at night, he stroked my face ever so gently, he whispered that I am beautiful in my ear and yet he STARTED DATING ANOTHER GIRL. WTF happened, wasn't he falling for me? HE HELP MY FACE and whispered in my ear":lmao:

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Look. Guys can tell you they miss you, they wish they were wish you right now, that they really like you and that you're amazing 25 times a day.

 

They can snuggle you after sex, they can spend all their time with you.

Doing all these seemingly "relationshipy" things DOES NOT mean the guy is really into you.

Holding you while you sleep and telling you of how he misses you constantly DOES NOT mean he wants to be your boyfriend.

 

A LOT of men can think a girl is a great girl; a cool girl, a nice girl, a pretty girl or even that she is a beautiful girl. It DOES NOT mean he is "into" her as anything more than a good friend and sex buddy.

 

Trust me, men OFTEN tell women that they are the most amazing women they have met in a long time; yet still not be that into them as more than a nice girl who they want as a friend and fck buddy/booty call.

 

 

A guy who is into you will show though certain actions that he is truly interested in you as a relationship prospect:

- he will introduce you to his friends and family within the first month or two

- he will text and call regularly. Everyone has a phone these days, and the younger generation mostly calls or texts people regularly if they are really into them

- he will arrange to see you at least once a week no matter how busy he is

- he will never pressure you for sex

- he will WANT to be exclusive with you within about a month or two of dating.

 

 

 

Just listen to this girl and stop seeing him. That guy is a doofus thinking your're stupid enough to fall for his crap. Like how could a good friend not say happy Vday or even ask you how yours was? Not to mention he forgot your birthday, and didn't care when you said you might wanna find a BF. Those are all hints he isn't into you. Don't waste your time, it will only hurt you.

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This is your ex, correct?

 

If so, that brings in a whole other can of worms, and it's likely that he's just stringing you along or keeping you as a backup plan. Very common for exes to play games post-breakup, especially if he was the one who ended the relationship.

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