Onmymind Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Almost 4 months post BU, NC, no events, literally NOTHING. Realize the secret of moving on and success. IMPROVE YOURSELF in any way, shape, theory or conquest that you can imagine. I've been playing Music so much more and hitting the gym, weights and exercising my brains out. It makes you so much happier and makes you realize how little you actually need or needed them. I am not taking away from love, or companionship, being a team or fulfillment. However, if you've been hurt from someone you fought for, loved and would never have pulled the crap they did, the BEST and PROVEN regiment is to improve yourself in significant ways. I can promise you, it almost makes you upset that you DON'T miss them anymore, and that you come to realize in a lapse that all those emotions running rampant for months were just habitual disconnect from the one you surrounded your life with. You start to think healthy thoughts and think of them less. You start to realize how great of a person you are and how they didn't know it then! You realize about what you NEED in your life, not about what you may want.... The biggest thing is to truly work on yourself, push yourself, and take the word NO or NEVER out of your repertoire. I can promise you it will change your life, it will undo your pain and it will allow you to think rationally, clearly and will allow you to evaluate what you had. Honestly, you will always love that person but in a healthy, slightly nostalgic and NON-romantic way. Everything turns into a memory, until it fades away! 6
Tripz Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Great, positive post! I totally agree. From D-Day until last week, was exactly 2 months. Two months that I stopped eating unless absolutely necessary, 2 months of self pity, 2 months of feeling like I couldn't ever be whole again, 2 months of missing the gym yet paying for the monthly membership...Then, last week, I got pissed at myself while looking in the mirror. My face was becoming gaunt and I'd lost 10 lbs of muscle mass. So I decided to make a change. I decided to start living for me and quit mourning her. I just completed my first week back in the gym. Man am I sore, but I've already gained back 4 lbs. My skin, which had started to feel loose is starting to tighten up again. I look forward to getting up, going to work and kicking out at 12-1pm to throw some iron. Everyone in my gym has missed me and has been wonderfully supportive. Of course, they all knew my wife AND the man she's having the affair with, as we all used to work out together and he was a close friend. So the support has been overwhelming and I feel like I'm with a large family. It's wonderful AND I'm getting healthy physically along with working on my mental health. 1
jennifermariecole Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Almost 4 months post BU, NC, no events, literally NOTHING. Realize the secret of moving on and success. IMPROVE YOURSELF in any way, shape, theory or conquest that you can imagine. I've been playing Music so much more and hitting the gym, weights and exercising my brains out. It makes you so much happier and makes you realize how little you actually need or needed them. I am not taking away from love, or companionship, being a team or fulfillment. However, if you've been hurt from someone you fought for, loved and would never have pulled the crap they did, the BEST and PROVEN regiment is to improve yourself in significant ways. I can promise you, it almost makes you upset that you DON'T miss them anymore, and that you come to realize in a lapse that all those emotions running rampant for months were just habitual disconnect from the one you surrounded your life with. You start to think healthy thoughts and think of them less. You start to realize how great of a person you are and how they didn't know it then! You realize about what you NEED in your life, not about what you may want.... The biggest thing is to truly work on yourself, push yourself, and take the word NO or NEVER out of your repertoire. I can promise you it will change your life, it will undo your pain and it will allow you to think rationally, clearly and will allow you to evaluate what you had. Honestly, you will always love that person but in a healthy, slightly nostalgic and NON-romantic way. Everything turns into a memory, until it fades away! Amen to this! This is so true, and is so key to moving on after a breakup. I found that I had lost a lot of respect for myself, I didn't think I was attractive anymore, I definitely didn't like myself. Joining a gym helped soooooo much (and is a big part of a post I'm writing for my blog, which is sort of a 'getting over a breakup workout plan'). When I joined the gym I go to now, I met new friends, I learned loads about sport science and nutrition and I relaxed mentally. My ex dumped me in April and I joined in November - I think it should have been the first thing I did! I felt IMMENSELY better after I started working out. And of course, my ass looks great - which helps 2
John83 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Great post, and know it to be true from past experiences. Also in my case know it takes a while of putting it into practice before you stop just going though the motions and start to really enjoy it. I love going to gym when i can get there around work and my kids but have a lot of says when i find myself sitting on a bench between sets looking at the floor trying to kerp it together. I know from past those times fade and the enjoyment takes over you just need to keep at it.
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