card Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) My girlfriend and I (15 and 16) met in October and were together for about 3 1/2 months. It was the happiest I've ever been. Things got a little rocky at one point but everything was looking great near the end. We weren't really allowed to date because her mom decided she wasn't ready for another relationship after being hurt and because of her depression, which she gets counselling and that kind of stuff for. All of a sudden her mom just said that we couldn't flirt or see each other at all, which was completely devastating to me. My GF told me that we would just be friends until her mom decided it was a good time for her to date, and I agreed to it. A couple days after the breakup she texted me stuff like "I miss you" and "I took you for granted". I responded in similar ways to her but after a while of crying and feeling bad for ourselves she started feeling guilty that she kept us going when she knew that we were going to be broken up. We went back to being normal friends later but I think about her every second and it really got to me so I blocked her on facebook, since I got really sad whenever she posted something because it reminded me of her. I couldn't keep her blocked and I told her what I did...She got really upset about it even after I explained everything and told her it wasn't because of anything she did. She doesn't seem to want to talk to me now, even though she's forgiven me for that. About a week ago, before I blocked her, I texted her that I missed her a lot and she said "Sorry but stop". I texted her today around noon just to say hi and she ignored it, along with another thing I texted her (Just said something about a minor thing in my life). Hours after she ignored the last one I said something like "It's fine if you don't want to talk but please don't ignore me". She just replied with "sh". She's literally all I think about. I can't seem to get her out of my head and I'm worried that she already doesn't care about me anymore. More than anything I want to text her any tell her how much I love and miss her but I know I wouldn't get the response I want. Can anyone help analyze the situation? ps- last night she tweeted about boys being cruel or something so I asked her what was the matter, and she was hanging out with this guy last night and he was flirting with her and "being so sexual" with her. she says she wasn't okay with him being sexual but she asked if he liked her and he said no, and now she feels used. idk if this is relevant Edited February 15, 2014 by card
Eivuwan Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Hey I was the same when I was your age. Feelings can be really intense and hard to control. Since her mom doesn't let her date I think you should focus on other things in your life and move on. I know it feels like love to you but it probably isn't.
Author card Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 Hey I was the same when I was your age. Feelings can be really intense and hard to control. Since her mom doesn't let her date I think you should focus on other things in your life and move on. I know it feels like love to you but it probably isn't. True, it's probably just infatuation. Though we share a lot of interests and she has a smart and sarcastic personality (Which I'm into). You're right though, I guess I should just move on and try not to think about her.
Author card Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) But why is she being so cold? We're trying to stay friends and she doesn't want to talk at all. When we were together she would talk to me all day. edit: Now she's talking to the guy who used her on facebook... edit #2: she just sent pictures of them hanging out. I don't get her. She didn't stop him when he was feeling her up yesterday so she probably won't stop him today. They're watching a movie together, presumably by themselves...I can't get the image of them making out from my head. This really hurts. Edited February 16, 2014 by card
Author card Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) He orally raped her. I don't know how to feel or what to do. I've been trying to tell her that she needs to tell her parents but she just says "stop" or "don't". I'm completely furious at him and her at the same time. Why did she think it was a good idea to hang out with him? How could he do something like that? And the worst thing is she's pretty much forgiven him. He told her that he didn't know it was wrong. So pissed at everything and scared for her because I have a feeling they're going to hang out again. After not accepting my advice she told me that I make her mad because I keep talking to her which is making it hard for her to get over me. I'm just trying to help, god dammit. I want to call the cops and get this guy locked up but I know she would never talk to me again if I did that. Edited February 16, 2014 by card
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