Wavered Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Okay quick background we met in like 2009 were together broke up and than got back together in 2011 July till 2013 December. Had a few breakups within it all. The last break up was my fault her cousin died of Cancer in November 2013 and her dad had a heart attack in December 2013 he nearly died she messaged me about it and I didn't reply till the next day and didn't even offer to see her or do anything for her and then two days later i told her I was going home to sleep and she ended up seeing me tagged a party with girls all around with a video on Facebook. She then messaged me saying something along the lines of have fun with all your sluts junkies and parties you proved yourself your out of my life. Fast Forward beginning of February after no contact after she broke up with me. I sent her a text message saying are you seeing someone and she said doesn't matter and than I kept pressing her and she called me. Me: Are you Her: None of your business Me: Just tell me Her: I don't have too Me: Just tell me I need to know Her: No I am not, and it doesn't mean anything Me: Okay who you with Her: None of your business Me: Tell me Her: With friends Her: I am going to enjoy my valentines day bye Hangs this is at like 10pm I dont think she was with guys Fast Forward today I try to talk to her, and she starts saying I don't want to talk to you or see you, you weren't there for me when I needed you and I won't be there for you anymore. I said meet up with me say it to my face and I will never bother you again, and she goes I don't want to say it your face I am saying it on message. She than was texting me stuff like I am so happy without you. You just hurt me for so many years etc etc. Now what are the best ways to say sorry to this girl? Can I get her back? Is there a way to say sorry after doing what I did?
organizedchaos Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 You were a real dick to her at the break up and now. Give her space, leave her alone. Maybe try actually saying you're sorry in about a month or more.
Author Wavered Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Just to clarify I did say sorry to her yesterday when we were messaging. I wrote a 5 page letter to give to her and was thinking of buying some flowers and what else could I do??
Gemini x Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) Okay, well she has every right to be pissed off at you and not want anything to do with you. You neglected her during a traumatic time in her life and then lied by saying you were going to sleep, only to be surrounded by girls at a party? Why the hell would you do that in the first place? Second, if I was her I'd not want you back after that, either. However, I'm going through a BU and am hurting so I do slightly understand what you may be going through. This girl is pissed and hurt you weren't there for her. You need to do some serious thinking, before attempting to get back with her, if being with her is what you *truly* want. If so, don't neglect her again and actually try being a good supportive boyfriend this time around. Send her a message telling her that you're sorry for abandoning her and would like another chance. Tell her you wasn't thinking (clearly not) and know that what you did was wrong. That's all you can do right now. Stop asking her who she's with and who she's seeing, that isn't going to help. Believe me. Good luck!! Edited February 15, 2014 by Gemini x
Author Wavered Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 I was at the party for like 15 mins and I was wearing soccer shorts so I wasn't there to really party, just to say Hi to a few friends. I am scared of her rejecting me, and I even wonder if she rejected me would it be with a heavy heart or would it be easy for her. She has had a rough year and I wasn't there for her. I just wrote an 8 page letter to her, I don't know if I should give it to her with some flowers. I just need to figure out a way to make things right, but don't know if I will be able to.
KatZee Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Wait, so let me get this straight. You were dating this girl, her cousin died and then her dad had a heart attack and almost died, and you couldn't even be bothered to call her to find out how he was, yet you find time in your oh so awesome life to go to a party to say hi to friends? And now you think you have the right to come back into her life and ask if she's dating? Get the hell out of here with your noise. I wouldn't have been as nice as she was to you. I would have torn you a whole new a.ss hole. I don't know who you are to think you're so entitled to know about her life and if she's dating but if I were this girl you'd be tossed so far out of my life that no amount of letters or flowers would ever redeem you. 4
organizedchaos Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Wait, so let me get this straight. You were dating this girl, her cousin died and then her dad had a heart attack and almost died, and you couldn't even be bothered to call her to find out how he was, yet you find time in your oh so awesome life to go to a party to say hi to friends? And now you think you have the right to come back into her life and ask if she's dating? Get the hell out of here with your noise. I wouldn't have been as nice as she was to you. I would have torn you a whole new a.ss hole. I don't know who you are to think you're so entitled to know about her life and if she's dating but if I were this girl you'd be tossed so far out of my life that no amount of letters or flowers would ever redeem you. I like you're style 1
fancy feast Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Leave this poor girl alone, and learn some lessons for whenever your next relationship is.
Author Wavered Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 I did contact her, but I didn't go see her when her dad had a heart attack and two days later the party incident occurred. What can I do because I hurt her so much.
KatZee Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 What can I do because I hurt her so much. Do her a favor and get lost.
pickflicker Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Sounds like she's better off without you.
deathandtaxes Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Okay quick background we met in like 2009 were together broke up and than got back together in 2011 July till 2013 December. Had a few breakups within it all. This is all I need to read. Why, OP, why? You two aren't meant to be. Otherwise you'd never break up at all.
Author Wavered Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 I really do not like how everyone is just ripping into me. I know I was wrong, I ****ed up. She was being so psycho at me on phone, telling me off 2 nights ago and telling me she wouldn't meet up with me because I wasn't there for her. I am not sure what to do? I wrote her a 10 page letter could that help?
Gemini x Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I would let it go as she's told you to leave her alone. Learn from this and don't make the same mistake with the next one. I have to say, though, it seems as if all you care about is getting her back and not that you're truly sorry for how you treated her. If you were you'd not chalk it up to her being psycho and shocked she's acting pissed. You did this girl dirty. I'd let it go and maybe she'll contact you one day. In the meantime, do nothing. I believe this is nothing but a case of you want what you can't have.
organizedchaos Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I really do not like how everyone is just ripping into me. I know I was wrong, I ****ed up. She was being so psycho at me on phone, telling me off 2 nights ago and telling me she wouldn't meet up with me because I wasn't there for her. I am not sure what to do? I wrote her a 10 page letter could that help? Nothing you can do. Not all relationships can be saved. You apologized, now its up to her. Let it go. 1
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