WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I see several comments on this site saying that they met someone on Facebook. How? Just randomly messaging strangers? or friends of friends?
SmartDude Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 It happened to me once. A lady who went to the same high school as me. 3 years younger. Someone I had never met before. She just started messaging me. We went on a couple dates, got a kiss out of it. But I was kinda meh and left cause she just wanted to be friends first. No passion, no craziness, so I left that situation.
Tayken Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Best advice you are going to get.....GET OFF FACEBOOK. It never ends well, and the whole world gets to hear / know about it.
MidwestUSA Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 That might have been me. I noticed that this guy and I kept liking and commenting on the same posts, mostly to do with music. We had a bunch of mutual friends, and it turned out that we'd grown up near each other, and I had graduated with his older brother. I befriended him. We were married eleven months after our first date. Yea, go figure. Pay attention to who's liking your stuff. Comment on stuff you find interesting. Troll your friends' friends lists. Try not to be too random and creepy, LOL!
AnneT1985 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I've never heard of this. Perhaps a more targeted dating site might be in order instead of Facebook?
mammasita Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I did it once some years ago. My approach was acting like I knew the guy. We ended up going riding (motorcycles) and hanging out a few times. Figure out a non creepy opener and go for it.
Silly_Girl Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 A mate of mine has met a couple of guys like that. They had mutual friend(s) and would often comment on the same things and had a similar sense of humour so became FB friends, then got to know each other. She dated a couple, was with one a year or so. An ex-friend of mine used to Friend blokes that she shared friends with, and then message them, add them on msn etc. She basically flirted non-stop until she got a 'bite'. In fact, that's what my ex used to do - when we were still together. He hooked up with 3 of them I know of, around the time we split up, or after.
MrTurk Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 A guy I know just told me "you need to get on FB more....you can get a date easy" I am also clueless about it, being that I'm 43 and pretty much use FB only to keep track of a few clubs I'm in. I have no pics of myself on FB. Which leads me to another problem....if I was going to use it as a dating tool, I would then have to either post pics that are staged, or post the cheesy pics that are obviously taken by myself. I have browsed through FB profiles a few times a while ago, but everyone from what I see in my area is married. A few of the single women I did see were the elite super model looking women that live at the gym 5 hrs a day, and have 2000 selfies posted on their account.
Author WP4046 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 I guess it can happen if u are part of a group and chatting about certain topics which can lead to a private message or friend request
MrTurk Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I guess it can happen if u are part of a group and chatting about certain topics which can lead to a private message or friend request Same as in real life. If you are part of a large social circle, your chances are greatly increased. I'll post something on FB and maybe 1 or 2 people will reply or like the post. Other people I know post something as simple as "good morning" and 45 will reply to it.
SadNLonley Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I dont get it either. Most people Im friends with I know. As for things i "like", i dont think Ive ever had a conversation with someone on a comment I made. My lil sister (25) says people meet on Instagram too. Another thing I dont get. Maybe Im just too old to meet people this way. Being 43 I seem to be out of the loop on a lot of things.
Author WP4046 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 I dont get it either. Most people Im friends with I know. As for things i "like", i dont think Ive ever had a conversation with someone on a comment I made. My lil sister (25) says people meet on Instagram too. Another thing I dont get. Maybe Im just too old to meet people this way. Being 43 I seem to be out of the loop on a lot of things. I felt it would be creepy for a guy to send a private message to a friend of one of my female facebook friends. Now i will admit, I have been attracted to several of my facebook friends but i never went so far as to send a private message
MissBee Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I went out once with a guy I met on FB through mutual friends. Similarly to what SG described, it was a case that we had a mutual friend who had posted a question about something that turned into a conversation more like forum style, and this person and I happened to agree a lot on the other's point, we added each other as friends after and we'd check in every now and again until it became flirting and we then exchanged numbers and then we went out. I have also been on one date and also become really good friends with people via Twitter, where we followed each other and interacted often and took it off Twitter to exchanging numbers, skyping etc. I have also become friends with one member here and on another forum I post on several of us got together and had a forum meet and greet and I'm still friends with several of those people, one we even send each other birthday cards every year. I think social sites like that, while not dating sites, just like regular life where social interaction leads to attraction and you potentially dating people around you, they can lead to the same. Since it is an avenue where you're exposed to people, it can lead to either friendships or more...heck even LS members I've heard have ended up dating/marrying. I don't think people should troll around on LS, FB, Instagram etc specifically for the purpose of dating, as that can become creepy and annoying. But I do think if one is open to it, one can communicate with people and develop an attraction and then take it offline. 1
MrTurk Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I went out once with a guy I met on FB through mutual friends. Similarly to what SG described, it was a case that we had a mutual friend who had posted a question about something that turned into a conversation more like forum style, and this person and I happened to agree a lot on the other's point, we added each other as friends after and we'd check in every now and again until it became flirting and we then exchanged numbers and then we went out. That will never work for me. Because I have no pics of myself on my FB account. And if I do add pics, it would only be to aid in the chances that a situation like yours would occur. Whether you want to believe it or not.....I guarantee that guy saw you post your comment, checked out your pics thought to himself "wow that woman looks good"....and methodically worked his foot in your door until he got the date. Guys creep on FB all day....everyday. Anyone that tells you different is lying to your face. Some guys purposely comment on posts using it as a perfect ice breaker, and the first step to getting the phone number of some attractive woman that they saw post before them. The whole trick is to not let the woman think you are working on getting a date. Because for some strange reason.....the instant a woman thinks you want to date her....she wants nothing to do with you.
Author WP4046 Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 That will never work for me. Because I have no pics of myself on my FB account. And if I do add pics, it would only be to aid in the chances that a situation like yours would occur. Whether you want to believe it or not.....I guarantee that guy saw you post your comment, checked out your pics thought to himself "wow that woman looks good"....and methodically worked his foot in your door until he got the date. Guys creep on FB all day....everyday. Anyone that tells you different is lying to your face. Some guys purposely comment on posts using it as a perfect ice breaker, and the first step to getting the phone number of some attractive woman that they saw post before them. The whole trick is to not let the woman think you are working on getting a date. Because for some strange reason.....the instant a woman thinks you want to date her....she wants nothing to do with you. So what about if a woman sends you a friend request who you don't know, is she waiting for you to make the 1st move?
NYC-BigKat Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I see several comments on this site saying that they met someone on Facebook. How? Just randomly messaging strangers? or friends of friends? YES YES YES! I met a couple girls off facebook after sending over 100 msgs with $$ offers. I'm not that proud of it right now but I felt so so desperate for affection I went the extra mile u know. My friend met 5 so far u just gotta go at it til girls replies .
Author WP4046 Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 YES YES YES! I met a couple girls off facebook after sending over 100 msgs with $$ offers. I'm not that proud of it right now but I felt so so desperate for affection I went the extra mile u know. My friend met 5 so far u just gotta go at it til girls replies . I hope you are not using your real name on FB sending women money offers
Shaun-Dro Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I see several comments on this site saying that they met someone on Facebook. How? Just randomly messaging strangers? or friends of friends? Honestly, I don't have an answer for this except to maybe try to add mutual friends and take it from there. That's what I did 2 years ago with this chick I met off Facebook, but it was only a physical relationship. Is that what you're looking for?
MissBee Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 (edited) That will never work for me. Because I have no pics of myself on my FB account. And if I do add pics, it would only be to aid in the chances that a situation like yours would occur. Whether you want to believe it or not.....I guarantee that guy saw you post your comment, checked out your pics thought to himself "wow that woman looks good"....and methodically worked his foot in your door until he got the date. Guys creep on FB all day....everyday. Anyone that tells you different is lying to your face. Some guys purposely comment on posts using it as a perfect ice breaker, and the first step to getting the phone number of some attractive woman that they saw post before them. The whole trick is to not let the woman think you are working on getting a date. Because for some strange reason.....the instant a woman thinks you want to date her....she wants nothing to do with you. Well it may never work for you indeed because of what you've described, although back in the day when the internet was all new and people having pictures wasn't as popular people still managed to meet people in chat rooms and such as well as back when chat lines on the phone were popular, apparently some people met people that way too, so not all social media flirting is contingent upon pictures. Of course, if you have a picture it helps, as just like real life, people want to see who they're talking to and that facilitates the attraction and especially nowadays you have no excuse, but it is not unheard of though. On LS most people don't put up their real pictures and I have no clue about if the couple who married off here saw each other's pics first but most likely it was a case of enjoying the conversation/opinion/way of expressing themselves etc, PMing and pictures came later. Of course men (and women) "creep" on FB, although I wouldn't always call it creeping. Creeping for me is those men who are not on my friends list, who we may not even have mutual friends and it's clear they were just looking through our mutual friend's friend list and messaging women. Just messaging me about how you think I'm pretty and you want to get to know me is very odd. However, two people commenting on the same posts and developing an interest in each other that way or being a bit more subtle about it isn't creeping or creepy. That's how dating works. Ice breakers, making some kind of move etc. I don't have a problem with that when it is done in the right way and there is a right way to initiate some kind of FB relationship that turns into more and a wrong way. Commenting on posts isn't "creepy" unless you're saying suggestive things. But simply adding your 2 cents so that I notice you or liking my post and intelligently adding your own points or counterpoint or saying something witty works very well and when you turn around and try to add me later I will most likely add you. It wasn't a one-way street with me and the guy in question neither did he work his foot into the door in the way you're suggesting. He wasn't out trolling or had any specific intention of "hunting" me. Has that happened before? Yes. But in this case, it wasn't like that. I requested him after the conversation on my friends' post and it wasn't because of looks or because I thought I'd date him, but simply because of the banter and the opinions he expressed. We exchanged pleasantries but nothing outlandish neither did he come on very strong or anything. Later on, probably over the course of a month, was when we communicated a lot more, exchanged numbers and it became like any other getting to know you for dating scenario, and of course I'm sure he had to be attracted to me and I him, but it wasn't a case of just randomly trolling around looking at pictures of men who looked good or him looking for women he found attractive then adding them. Long story short: many of the dynamics on social media sites work similarly to how attraction and getting to know someone works in social settings. Edited February 18, 2014 by MissBee
MrTurk Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Well it may never work for you indeed because of what you've described It will never work. At least where I live, it seems most women put a lot of weight into the guys social status. And being that I am more reserved, and not a social butterfly, or life of the party, the odds are very low. Women like to get a snapshot of a guy and his lifestyle....and especially on FB, this can be done easily. They can browse his pics, and his timeline. They can also judge his personality and views to a certain extent by reading his posts. I have less than 40 friends on my Facebook account. I'd say almost 35 I haven't seen or talked to in over five years. 25 of them I probably haven't seen or talked to since high school. I've only personally added three or four people on Facebook, people that I see or talk to on a regular basis. Everybody else has added me on their own, but none of them talk to me or reply if I send them a message saying hello. 1
pickflicker Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 The other way, is via here. You get along with someone, you PM them, exchange email/FB details and go from there...
MrTurk Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 The other way, is via here. You get along with someone, you PM them, exchange email/FB details and go from there... Single women on here dont live anywhere near me. (NE Ohio) Thats great advice telling me to friend them on FB since I have zero pictures and zero information about myself on there.
NYC-BigKat Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I hope you are not using your real name on FB sending women money offers Nope! Um...it was actually my friend's idea at 1st then I just went ahead & did it 'cause so so many girls looked yummy on facebook but I stopped now 'cause some got mad & threatened me .
Easyguy14 Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Well it may never work for you indeed because of what you've described, although back in the day when the internet was all new and people having pictures wasn't as popular people still managed to meet people in chat rooms and such as well as back when chat lines on the phone were popular, apparently some people met people that way too, so not all social media flirting is contingent upon pictures. Of course, if you have a picture it helps, as just like real life, people want to see who they're talking to and that facilitates the attraction and especially nowadays you have no excuse, but it is not unheard of though. On LS most people don't put up their real pictures and I have no clue about if the couple who married off here saw each other's pics first but most likely it was a case of enjoying the conversation/opinion/way of expressing themselves etc, PMing and pictures came later. Of course men (and women) "creep" on FB, although I wouldn't always call it creeping. Creeping for me is those men who are not on my friends list, who we may not even have mutual friends and it's clear they were just looking through our mutual friend's friend list and messaging women. Just messaging me about how you think I'm pretty and you want to get to know me is very odd. However, two people commenting on the same posts and developing an interest in each other that way or being a bit more subtle about it isn't creeping or creepy. This here is what's wrong with American women today. Way too uptight.
pickflicker Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Single women on here dont live anywhere near me. (NE Ohio) Thats great advice telling me to friend them on FB since I have zero pictures and zero information about myself on there. There's no need to be rude. Why not move, if it's such a drought?
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