smuggy95 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I have this friend who annoys a lot of people by not answering her texts and being poor at communication. But she's a good soul, i think. She forgets to pay people back and pouts when she has to pay for dinner, but if you put your foot down she will and she won't hold it against you. I've told her several times she needs to respond to texts (they are important ones too, like What time are we meeting today etc etc). Once we made plans to eat because she didn't reply and she got upset at the restaurant choice. She always blames it on being super stressed. She's in college. But I hold my tongue, we all have different levels of stress to handle. but the other day i find out she's in my town (an uncommon occurrence) and invited my close friend who she just met to go eat. I felt a little left out, but figured she wanted to meet her one on one. Still, they've only known each other for a few hours, and I didn't think I would be that disruptive to them getting to know each other. I texted her (as I've known for for awhile now) "why wasn't I invited to lunch? And what are you doing in town?" She could have easily answered "i just want to eat with this friend, we can hang another time." but she doesn't answer. Typical. I am annoyed but it is her MO. I ask my close friend the next day how did llunch go. She said the non-text-replier said "I don't know why J (me) was so offended I didn't invite her" so...not only did she see my text, but she thought i was offended and instead of replying she ignored it and talked about it. She also proceeded to tell this new girl (along with two other friends who were also there (so I really don't see why I wasn't invited)) things about a mutual friend that weren't true (how she was super drunk and making out with people to hurt someone) and past problems my ex and I had, bashing my ex whom I still respect. I told her that wasn't cool, taht i didn't want to be friends with impolite people. I told the other people there that I didn't appreciate them bashing my ex. I told them Ididn't think the mutual friend would make out with people to hurt others. They said I wasn't there. I understand that, but if i hear these things, and I'm PRETTY damn sure they're true, I'd bet my life on it how else can i let them know what they did was not nice? Another part of me feels i have no right to tell people what they can or cannot say. but do i just ignore it then and let people say things and not let them know what upsets me? I hardly get mad, so the fact I was mad told me they must have crossed some real lines here.
shinealight Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 I agree on the not texting back situation since i have a friend who does the exact same thing i texted him the other day and still no reply. I say and will always say it takes less than a second to reply back to someone's text message, people who take ages or don't reply are just plain rude. The way i see it if she doesn't follow what you want then just ignore her otherwise you are just going to keep having a go at her over and over and getting more annoyed at her.
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