Liz1978 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) Well, I have been/ I was in long distance relationship for 2 years. Me, living in Greece, he was living in the States. When I met him, his ex wife had left from the house and left to him their 2 kids. They were leaving seperate at that time, not on the same house. We started as friends, online, chatting, emailing, phone calls etc... I started to care for him and he started to feel the same. After 6 months we met , here in Greece, we spend together 2 wonderful weeks in July. I was already in love with him. I felt him so close after so much talking every day. He was really sad the day was leaving me and he continue so to be sad when he went back to the States. We agreed to visit him at February. He wanted me to find a job and move in to the states. I was trying to find a job but I needed to be sure of his feelings for me, I didn't wanted to make a mistake. It was a life desicion for me, I would have changed everything in my life for him. The first 3 months i was applying and applying but nothing...and we decided that I could search for a job when I was going to visit him. His job was very demanding, he was a manager in a big company , working with planes and with 2 kids in his hands his life was hard. I always was trying to support him, engourage him but sometimes I was getting depressed from so much distance. He was trying hard for us, every day was making time so we can talk on the phone/ video call on skype...etc although the time difference. 8 hours difference. Sometimes I was waking up in the middle of the night and texting him at 03.00 or 02.00 in the night. It was 19.00 or 18.00 at the afternoon for him. Sometimes he was doing too the same. Around Christmas I was feeling he was tired with everything was going on there, his 5 old son was getting sick all the time and he was staying home to taking care of him. Of course there was pressure from his work too. As for me, I was trying to have patience but sometimes I did pressure him too ( why he didn't txt me or why he didn't answered the phone when I called..stuff like that), my nerves was a mess.At the beginning of January 2013 he txt me and says that ' I cannot do it anymore, with the kids and the job. Its hard for me..' so I told him that I still love him and if he loves me too everything will be ok. After 2 days he lost his job. He freaked out, he was afraid his ex would try to take the kids from him now he had lost his job, I was doing my best to support him and then after 2 weeks he found a new one and things was going back to normal again. I changed the trip and schedule it for May. But from February till May they were 3 whole months. It was bad, he got sick on March with blood infection, I was worryied so much for him but he got well. I was missing him and the communication was bad too. We did have the phone calls and the txts but no more video calls. And I was the one to call so he can concentrate more on his job. Finally I came in the states at May for 2 weeks. It was so wonderful. We spend 2 marvellous weeks together doing everything and being all the time together. I was crying In houston's airport when I was leaving him and so was he. Oh, he got back his old job!! After a week back in Creece the problems started. His ex wife wanted the custody of the kids. She put a restraining order, accusing him that he pushed her or whatever. They took away from him the kids and he lost the house too. He could only see his kids on Sundays and with someone to watch over them, like grand parent. The whole summer it was bad. Hearing custody, court for the restraining order...she tried to take the kids to another state..etc. He filed for divorce. And all this time I was there for him. Supporting him, giving my love. I was trying to do my best. I schedule to be there at October and so I did. I didn't wanted to leave but I couldn't stay without telling my family what I was planning to do! While I was taking my connecting flight he had txt me ' I love you so much my baby. Please let's discuss for you to move here' and we did. He was going to find me a job to work, he had 2 friends they could help with that. At November he had another hearing custody, it didn't went well either. He wanted me there , he was getting depressed and so was I. I had scedule to come again at February, I couldn't afford it and he knew it. Around Christmas I was feeling that I was alone, that the relationship was slipping from my hands although I was doing my best. He had left everything on me:(! He was waking up from 03.00 in the night to go to the airport. His company had given him a new contract with planes..He had bought a small house and was trying to fix it because it was old. When I asked him a month ago if he was still with me and I was feeling him far away, he said that 'yes I am still with you and yes I am far away because Im trying to fix everything here from the beginning. I used to have 3 cars and a new home and now I don't. Im starting again from the bottom'. He asked me that day if I was still loving him and I told him 'Yes I still love you, but I don't know about you anymore..' and he reply to me that ' You don't have to worry for that, I still love you. It's just that eveything is a mess here'. After a week he got sick with a flu and I had no communication with him. I had freaked out! I was calling him, I txt him, nothing , no reply , nothing. I had no idea it was sick!! for 6 days!! I was thinking the worst, that he didn't wanted contact with me anymore, that he was breaking up with me. I send him an email telling him : "The last couple of weeks , I am feeling you so far away, maybe its because of your work and the bad communication. I don't know. And the cherry to the cake is the problem with your phone this week. From my side , I still love you XX. Nothing has changed, although Im getting angry with you sometimes and frustrated. I don't want lies between us, I want honesty. So far, we have been honest to each other. At least this is what I want to believe. But if you want to leave, for whatever reason, just let me know.'" Anyway I never received a reply, till today for this email. We talked finally and he told me he was sick in the hospital with pneumonia and his parents had his phone... A week passes by everything is ok we talking about my visiting there. He is telling me that he has made some changes in the house and that I will see them.. We making a long conversation about how things are between us. I am telling him that I am really trying here and to help me a little, to trust me more. He starts the usuall thing 'If I was there, things would be different..!" The next week we aren't talking for 2 days and the third day when I am calling him , he txt me "I am ok. Leave me alone right now". So I am trying again to be calm and I asking him 'what has happened again?" I am receiving a txt at midnight and he says ' Do not come. I will be under medical care for a long time. Sorry' That's it!!!!! Nothing else. Of course I got sick from worry for Him! When someone is telling you something like this you going crazy and with so much distance...The next day his skype is offline, the phone is off. NO communication. I called his dad and the poor man had 2 weeks to talk to him! My boyfriend used to talk with his parents every day and now he wasn't even picking up his phone! His dad didn't know anything about a medical care and my boyfriend had lied to me that 10 days ago was with his dad and he couldn't talk to me. He was suprised that I was talking with him, he told me that ' Me and his mom we trying to give him some space, with everything is going on with the divorce and his work. He has a lot of pressure at his work. Has he talked you about it?.' Well No, He didn't talked to me about that either. Also he lied to me that his ex wife was at the hospital with pneumonia and he was with the kids home! Lies! I couldn't believed that this was the man that I loved so much and I still love. I emal me him if he is breaking up with me, To email me a yes or a no. Nothing. No reply. I stopped the communication. No phone call, no txt. NOthing. Im hurting so much. I still love him, I still care for him. I have so many memories still in my mind with me and him. We had made plans for us. I still remembering all of his words, that he loves me, he needs me... Of course I cancelled the trip. I am Missing him. Every day is so difficult for me, without hearing his voice, hearing if he is well. I am feeling depressed, Im trying to fight it but...its So Hard, so hard. He couldn't even txt me a yes or a no. I mean it was so difficult?? After 2 years. I didn't deserved an explanation ? Like ' hey, im sorry, its hard for me now. I need space. Sorry'' I really need some good advise. Sorry for the big letter:) Edited February 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
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