894hjk Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 So I stupidly sent a funny comical v day card to my ex after 4 weeks NC. We broke up because I believe we both have bpd traits. We pull/push each other and get suffocated easily re commitments and demands. Plus he used to get too aggressive when play fighting and make verbal threats of violence which concerned me. So he text me asking me to dinner. I said I couldn't make it this time. I do love him but I worry that he's not what I need and won't be able to accommodate me. So why do I want to see him so bad?
peruano99 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 If you want to give it another shot, then go ahead, but only once...if he makes another mistake then leave him.
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Because you're the type of woman that needs to be shoved around several times before getting it. 2
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Getting that aggressive men don't change, bad relationships don't fix themselves miraculously after 4 weeks, that you broke up for reasons that are still there, and if you go back to him you will get the exact same treatment you were getting before. 3
HappyLove Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 So I stupidly sent a funny comical v day card to my ex after 4 weeks NC. We broke up because I believe we both have bpd traits. We pull/push each other and get suffocated easily re commitments and demands. Plus he used to get too aggressive when play fighting and make verbal threats of violence which concerned me. So he text me asking me to dinner. I said I couldn't make it this time. I do love him but I worry that he's not what I need and won't be able to accommodate me. So why do I want to see him so bad? You're a glutton for punishment, that's why. You didn't mention one good thing about this creep. And you want to see him? And no one is buying that you accidentally sent him a card either.
MidwestUSA Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Will it take another black eye? Oh wait, they accelerate. Maybe a broken bone?
Zahara Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Yes, you should go to dinner. Come back and post when he gives you another black eye. It is time you see a professional to fix why you do the things you do.
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