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I thought I'd give an update on my situation....

 

For those who don't know my back story, was with a guy for 11 years, we have a 7 year old together. D-Day was 10/18/13 where he admitted to having an affair with a much younger girl for a year prior. He moved out to go live with her. She spent weeks bashing me online like a child, calling me names, telling everything about their relationship and every lie he told her about me. It was pure craziness. She wouldn't leave me alone, constantly texting me or obsessing about me on Twitter. He friended her on FB and she proceeded to act like a dog and pee all over every picture he had on there... making comments on each one, bragging about how "He's mine now". They both treated me like I was worthless. I kept my cool as best I could and just waited.

 

Well, the wait was worth it. He had to go away for work.. the first time was for 3 weeks, this past time he's been gone for 7 weeks. While he was gone... guess what she did? Yep... she cheated on him. He dumped her (for the 4th time since he and I split up) yesterday on Valentine's day.

 

Of course, I think that they'll end up back together when he comes home next week but we'll see.

 

Just thought I'd share the rest of the story...

 

So for those of you who don't believe Karma means what most people say it means... this right here is a prime example of why people do believe in it. Maybe Karma isn't the right word... but "what goes around, comes around" certainly does fit!

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It's always weird to see people destroying their lives over a fantasy.

 

I guess that makes these kind of people inferior to animals who react to their surroundings only and not what they dream about at night. ;)

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How did you find out?

 

Most often it does in one way or another. People here don't like to speak about Karma and other things like that, but I do believe that people always get what they deserve.

 

Many times it takes years, but it always catches up. It always does......

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I thought I'd give an update on my situation....

 

For those who don't know my back story, was with a guy for 11 years, we have a 7 year old together. D-Day was 10/18/13 where he admitted to having an affair with a much younger girl for a year prior. He moved out to go live with her. She spent weeks bashing me online like a child, calling me names, telling everything about their relationship and every lie he told her about me. It was pure craziness. She wouldn't leave me alone, constantly texting me or obsessing about me on Twitter. He friended her on FB and she proceeded to act like a dog and pee all over every picture he had on there... making comments on each one, bragging about how "He's mine now". They both treated me like I was worthless. I kept my cool as best I could and just waited.

 

Well, the wait was worth it. He had to go away for work.. the first time was for 3 weeks, this past time he's been gone for 7 weeks. While he was gone... guess what she did? Yep... she cheated on him. He dumped her (for the 4th time since he and I split up) yesterday on Valentine's day.

 

Of course, I think that they'll end up back together when he comes home next week but we'll see.

 

Just thought I'd share the rest of the story...

 

So for those of you who don't believe Karma means what most people say it means... this right here is a prime example of why people do believe in it. Maybe Karma isn't the right word... but "what goes around, comes around" certainly does fit!

 

If he gets back together with her, it's not karma.

It's just plain 'sucker for punishment' stupidity.

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How did you find out?

 

Most often it does in one way or another. People here don't like to speak about Karma and other things like that, but I do believe that people always get what they deserve.

 

Many times it takes years, but it always catches up. It always does......

 

I found out because he told me about it... and then I saw what they were both whining about on Twitter because neither one of them can seem to keep their problems private. They feel the need to blast it all over the internet.

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What did you see in this fool?

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What did you see in this fool?

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OMG Grumpy.... I've been asking myself that very same question for MONTHS! Looking back on it I just keep shaking my head. What in the world was I thinking? How did I not see what a piece of crap he was?

 

Quite honestly, I have no answer for it. I own my part in it. He could have never done what he did to me if I hadn't allowed it to happen. I should have walked away years ago.

 

But... I can't keep beating myself up for that, I have to let it go.

 

I feel like I walked out of a fog... I couldn't see the truth when it was slapping me in the face. I see it for what it is now and learned a great deal of what to stay away from in the future. That's the best I can do.

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Many times it takes years, but it always catches up. It always does......

 

Decades even...

 

But the longer the delay, the worse the consequence. There is a term in the Bible where it says God is "storing up judgement". People think they're getting away with things--and they kind of are in a way because God is delaying their judgement and giving them opportunity to repent. But when they don't, that is where the judgement comes down after a while and, the longer it's been, the worse it is. Sometimes, as Proverbs says, it can leave a person "beyond repair".

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I found out because he told me about it... and then I saw what they were both whining about on Twitter because neither one of them can seem to keep their problems private. They feel the need to blast it all over the internet.

 

This is the reason why I've stopped reading status updates from people on Facebook and never had a Twitter account. Most of it is either things that they should talk to the people they're ranting about or things that have "I need my daily attention" written all over it.

 

On the other hand, watching an argument is awesome.

Are they commenting on each others Twitter? :D

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This is the reason why I've stopped reading status updates from people on Facebook and never had a Twitter account. Most of it is either things that they should talk to the people they're ranting about or things that have "I need my daily attention" written all over it.

 

On the other hand, watching an argument is awesome.

Are they commenting on each others Twitter? :D

 

This time not so much... just one or two things. Not much worth watching. She makes a big show out of unfollowing him and deleting her fb account every time this happens and then makes some pathetic comments about how horrible it is to get dumped and claiming she didn't do anything wrong. But the last time they broke up all heck broke loose on there. I sat back with my popcorn and enjoyed the show. Can't say I didn't laugh out loud a few times that time. I don't feel good about that though.

 

I mean, I have every right to get enjoyment out of watching them fall apart but it just really doesn't do much for me. I don't feel vindicated, just sad that this is the pathetic situation he chose to be in rather than be with me. Makes me wonder... geez, was I not dramatic enough for him? Maybe that's what he wants... drama. Well... he got it! He's not getting it from me though... I'm done. Phew!

 

The only thing I keep thinking to myself is... all the more explanation for why she should NOT be allowed around my son. In the end, I care more about that than anything else.

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And.... he took her back.

 

And... tried to tell me that he didn't tell me she cheated.

 

I sent him a copy of the text he sent me.

 

Good lord.... sorry for wasting your time. Apparently he likes reveling in the nasty ass mud... pig that he is.

 

Some people!

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Keep us updated about their next Twitter fight. :p

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I thought I'd give an update on my situation....

 

D-Day was 10/18/13 where he admitted to having an affair with a much younger girl for a year prior.

 

She sounds very childish and immature; actually, they both do. They also both sound very dangerous!

 

It sounds like you are in a good place :-). All the best to you and your son

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It's amazing how people ruin their lives over something that isn't even real.

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Keep us updated about their next Twitter fight. :p

 

I give it... oh let's see... 2 weeks or so before the next one happens. Right now they are all lovey dovey... oh I miss you, oh I can't wait to see you. Her saying she is coming to visit, him insisting that she is coming to stay. Even funnier though... she and he and her friends are having this whole conversation on her profile pic which means I can see it all. Her friends are making fun of her... saying stuff like... "oh would you two make up your minds" and "you are making me dizzy" and "this doesn't seem like a healthy relationship at all" I'm pretty sure none of them have any idea how their relationship came to be, it's just because she keeps blasting it all on fb.

 

Thing is, my best friend lives in the same town as her and she is pretty sure she saw her out at dinner tonight with some guy. I told her she should have taken a picture of it. Now that would have been poetic. Her busy chatting him up about how much she loves him while she's out to dinner with someone else.

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Cheaters sure know how to upgrade don't they?

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Cheaters sure know how to upgrade don't they?

 

Oh I could go on about that for hours... she's a real piece of work let me tell you.

 

The thing is... for YEARS he ranted and raved at me about how he has no respect for woman who drop out of school, have children early, don't get married, do drugs and then live off of welfare while not working. He has been so disgusted by it for years. I have a family member who did exactly this and is actually right around the same age as this girl.

 

So he ranted about it for years and then ends up being with exactly who he despised. She doesn't work, doesn't take care of her kids, dropped out after 8th grade, lives off of welfare and her family, does drugs and makes mountains of foolish decisions. THAT'S who he chose to be with.

 

Today he told me that he didn't want to leave me, that he didn't want to be with her but that since I kicked him out... he thought he may as well since she is all about him. He tells me this stuff and then goes online, on a public forum begging her back.

 

It's pure craziness

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And just to add to the drama in case any of you are interested... there was just more written on her fb that I could see. Her family is blasting her for leaving her kids again to be with him.

 

One made a comment about the two of them having some "issue" that needs to be worked out. I'm really curious as to what that issue is. Drugs? The cheating? Trust? The fact that he was physically abusive to her?

 

My bowl of popcorn is getting empty fast while I sit here and watch this drama play out.

 

Well, I will watch until I get bored. I do have other things to do tonight... lol.

 

Just craziness all around. I hate that he's doing all this. I really do. This is the role model my son has in him. This is the worst he's ever been. Up until he left, he was pretty decent as far as my son knew. Now... I'm not so sure. I hope the drama dies down soon and they either get over it and find a way to have a healthy relationship or end it for good.

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I guess I'm old is the problem, but I cannot fathom why people carry on their lives, especially their personal lives, on social media. Why would you go there to get abused by an abuser or why the abuser goes there to abuse you. Does no one see the long term ramifications of such behaviour? I'm glad your staying out of it but I wouldn't take the time to read it.

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I guess I'm old is the problem, but I cannot fathom why people carry on their lives, especially their personal lives, on social media. Why would you go there to get abused by an abuser or why the abuser goes there to abuse you. Does no one see the long term ramifications of such behaviour? I'm glad your staying out of it but I wouldn't take the time to read it.

 

Well, I'm glad I did read it. We had already made plans for me to pick him up from the airport Saturday night and for our son to spend the night and the next day with him. Watching what goes on with them on social media clued me in to the fact that she is coming up here the same day. He agreed with me that she shouldn't meet him, but then lied to me about planning on having her there while our child is there. So now he's getting his own ride from the airport and we'll have to make a different plan for him to see his son. I wouldn't have known anything had I not looked to see what was up.

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