Col1 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) Well, it's Valentine's night and I'm dateless, so I'm here on LS! lol Advice needed in this situation, please: I am a member of OK Cupid website. I took a long break from it while getting over a past relationship. Back in the Fall I started to feel better so I redeveloped my OKC profile essays. I saw a lady's profile I had an interest back in September and October. However, I just wasn't ready to date quite yet, so I didn't send her a message. In mid-November, I finally felt ready to date again. However her last login date was in early November. So I didn't message her inactive profile. I checked back in December, but she had not logged-in again. In the meanwhile, I contacted other ladies with mixed results but nothing past a second date. In mid-January, the aforementioned lady still had not logged in since November. But I initiated contact anyway: I wrote about eight sentences in an intro message to her. In early February, I viewed her profile and she still had not logged in. This evening she did sign in to her OKC account. But no reply to me. (I view profiles anonymously and consequently I cannot see if she viewed my profile). It's been a month since I sent her my initial message. She might assume I'm no longer interested. And she's probably got dozens or hundreds of messages in her inbox. I will wait until she logs in at least one more time in the next week. If she does, then I am thinking of sending her a short "hello" message. This will bump my original paragraph message up higher in her inbox. It will let her know I am still interested. Or, would that not be advisable? Edited February 15, 2014 by Col1
deathandtaxes Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I would say just move along and forget about it. If she was interested when she saw your message, she would have replied? There's too many out there to get hung up just one lady's profile. Put the shoe on the other foot - if a lady e-mailed you and you weren't interested enough to respond, what would a second e-mail from her do for you? 1
Author Col1 Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 I just thought she might have a packed inbox of spam messages while she's been offline: "how r u" and "hey baby wanna hook up?" messages. Might take a while to sift through. And now she's getting more messages now that she's an active profile again. So that's why I was thinking of sending a second hello message. But not until she logs in one more time.
Under The Radar Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I just thought she might have a packed inbox of spam messages while she's been offline: "how r u" and "hey baby wanna hook up?" messages. Might take a while to sift through. And now she's getting more messages now that she's an active profile again. So that's why I was thinking of sending a second hello message. But not until she logs in one more time. If you REALLY want to send ONE more message I don't think it can hurt. Just don't have any expectations and continue to message other women that interest you. In other words, don't wait around for a response. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 If you REALLY want to send ONE more message I don't think it can hurt. Just don't have any expectations and continue to message other women that interest you. In other words, don't wait around for a response. I agree with the above. Who knows, she may not even really be available any more, hence the lack of response and largely inactive profile. 1
Imajerk17 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Yes resend the message. As you sent the last one so long ago who knows what she even did it with it.
BradJacobs Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 You are spending a lot of time on a woman who hasn't even given the first indications of interest towards you. What kind of mixed results have you experienced that compels you to online stalk someone's activity to send a second message when they ignored the first one? 2
SunnySide0418 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Yes, try again. WHy not? You have nothing to lose. But ... I wouldn't just send a hello. I hate getting just hello or how are emails. Be honest amd tell her she caught your eye and you wanted to give it another shot.
SunnySide0418 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 You are spending a lot of time on a woman who hasn't even given the first indications of interest towards you. What kind of mixed results have you experienced that compels you to online stalk someone's activity to send a second message when they ignored the first one? Wow. You're really rude... what does he have to lose by trying one more time? He found her interesting and kept checking to see if she signed on for months ... so what?
BradJacobs Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 He found her interesting and kept checking to see if she signed on for months ... so what? Obsessing over a 64kb jpeg image and maybe 1000 words of associated text for months is not healthy. It does not help to create positive momentum. It's not the answer to turn his "mixed results" (which I imagine means bad results) into good ones. 1
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