JDPT Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Be as objectives as possible, listen to your subconscious and as painful as it may be don't sugar coat how she has not only disrespected you but the relationship simulataneously.
Chi townD Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Sorry dude, but if she was on a 9 month deployment and she came back at 6 was because they discovered she was pregnant. Pregnant women cannot go or BE on military deployments. So, she got flown home. That's why women can't serve on subs. When a sub dives onto a deployment, they stay under the water. It is way too expensive to resurface and port at the closest dock to offload a pregnant woman. That's why they can't serve on subs. But, what I don't get is why didn't they hammer her for adultery? That's against the law under the UCMJ. 1
peruano99 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 I hope this isn't a troll thread. The OP seems to be not listening to advice. 3
Author payton2042 Posted February 18, 2014 Author Posted February 18, 2014 My wife deployed for 9 months well 6 months into it she came *back early all of a sudden she was acting funny but I was back in my hometown with 3 kids. *I later found out she slept with multiple guys on the ship she was deployed on she had a serious relationship with one of the guys and he got her pregnant she tried to cover up everything by lying she even had an abortion all without telling me anythinf I dug through her stuff and found out because I knew something was wrong I confronted her about all the evidence thatvi had a he still lied called me crazy I dont know what to she wants me to act like everything is just fine Even after I found all the proof she told me I had no right to go through her stuff she gets all mad t me for bringing it up she said she never slept with him and he didn't get her pregnant but he emailed her asking he she took care of them issue and he would send money to help we have 3 kids and 13 year marriage I dont know what to do I cant think right now. When I touch her I think of someone else doing it. She says she hates sex but she fot pregnant she is acting really different. Honestly how do you think they were having sex what ways Imean that says alot to me do u think she did all kinds of thinfs with him because with me its just hurry up and get it over with.
peruano99 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I swear, there was a thread exactly like this a few hours ago. 1
Tayken Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Do not hesitate to Unless of course you are waiting for part deux? There is that mutual respect I keep harping on about, obviously it's missing if a person does that to you.
Trep Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 There was. He's started 3 threads about the same topic, 2 of them within the past 24 hours.
samsungxoxo Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Why is the OP make 2 exactly same threads now?
Chi townD Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 Why is the OP make 2 exactly same threads now? One of two reasons.... 1.) He's not wanting to hear what's being said to him on THIS thread or... 2.) There's bunnies hopping around here. I'm leaning on the second. 1
samsungxoxo Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 One of two reasons.... 1.) He's not wanting to hear what's being said to him on THIS thread or... 2.) There's bunnies hopping around here. I'm leaning on the second.I think the same thing. I just find it kind of hard to believe that a man would try to reason through that. Even the kindest man would be totally repulsed by the ''unprotected sex and getting pregnant by another man'' thing and really want nothing to do with the woman at that point. So yeah either OP is beyond the threshold for forgiveness or things don't make sense at all.
Radu Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 A while back i became friends with 2 guys who are captains of ships that move commercial shipping in standard containers [i think they were called TEU's]. They would do 4 months at sea, 4 months at home, and it affected their relationships greatly [half of their gf's cheated on them]. It was normal for men to be in that position and both men at sea would cheat when they pulled into harbour and many of the wives back home while the men were away [they were not ok with cheating OTOH]. Anyway, so they tell me that there are also women on board these ships from time to time, and this is what happens : - no matter how non-model the woman is, if you put her out to sea for months on end with sailors, she will be tested with the princess complex. Men will start doing nice things for her, and if proper boundaries are not reinforced on her end, she starts thinking she is uber-hot. Which in turn means an affair, sometimes even a love triangle. Fights can break up. Which is why even in commercial ships affairs on the job are not tolerated, if found they get dropped in the nearest harbour. - i asked what are the chances for an affair to happen when he sees a new female sailor. In their experiences [10yrs captains, 20yrs between then two of them, their father 20+yrs of being a captain, all their extended family sailors], about 50% chance in their situations [commercial shipping] for her to go into an affair. - i asked what are the odds for a woman who is a sailor, to get involved in an affair on the job in general. Their response, 80% chance for her to have had an affair on a ship [not always discovered]. - i asked what are the worst possible situations ? Female officer [senior is even worse] who knows how to keep it quiet, and changes affair partners on the same voyage. - i asked if this was difficult, managing these ppl. They told me that they felt like police trying to manage a ton of horny teenagers with cold water hoses. - i asked if this put them off on having women on board. They told me that the men share an equal blame, but they can't throw off-board 90% of the crew because they got a hardon. They throw the guys who are caught, most women involved know to hide it better, so guys get the boot more often than not. In their opinion though, the easiest way to solve this is to not hire any women on long voyages [though obviously the most non-PC]. I was asking to figure out if i should date women who work on ships [including cruise ships]. I think the same thing. I just find it kind of hard to believe that a man would try to reason through that. Even the kindest man would be totally repulsed by the ''unprotected sex and getting pregnant by another man'' thing and really want nothing to do with the woman at that point. So yeah either OP is beyond the threshold for forgiveness or things don't make sense at all. I think it's desperate wishfull thinking at it's finest tbh.
Darren Steez Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I hope this isn't a troll thread. The OP seems to be not listening to advice. Oh you think!
William Posted February 19, 2014 Posted February 19, 2014 Thank you to the member who, instead of posting off-topic comments about duplicate threads, actually reported them to moderation! Threads merged, one duplicate left as an update and please continue!
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