kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I met a guy online and we have been dating. Connected really well. We decided to become exclusive after our third date. We have fooled around but no sex yet. We have been out 4 times after I didn't see him for a bit due to scheduling. Last night we had a very romantic evening together that i planned because he has been having a very stressful time at work. We were not planning on going out tonight because he said he had to babysit his nieces and nephews because when asked to do it he had been single at the time and would be hard to change plans. This morning I got my usual good morning message but no happy valentines. Some things have been seeming off to me recently so i decided to check his profile on OKC to see if he had reactivated and sure enough there it was. I sent him a message letting him know that I was hurt by this and he could have just said things were working out instead of sending me lovey dovey messages all the time and saying how attached he was becoming to me. He said that he was in a meeting but would call me to explain - that it's not what I think. Well, that as 5 hours ago and no call. What else could reactivating your account be? So hurt and disillusioned.
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Just wanted to clarify - we have seen each other a total of 4 times but text and speak on the phone.
GoreSP Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I don't get it. You're hurt he has an OKC profile, yet to see he has one, you would need one too...
Guitarisgood Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 It's only been 4 dates, remember that. Even if you say you'd become exclusive, commitment takes a while to actually set in place. You have to build that trust between eachother and having a genuine like for the SO. He probably knows he has you hook line and sinker wrapped around his fingers now so it's time you play fire with fire. Activate your account or go out and see other people. You have to make him realise you're not that easy.
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 I don't get it. You're hurt he has an OKC profile, yet to see he has one, you would need one too... We had both deactivated our accounts. I reactivated mine because I wanted to see if he was online and he was.
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 It's only been 4 dates, remember that. Even if you say you'd become exclusive, commitment takes a while to actually set in place. You have to build that trust between eachother and having a genuine like for the SO. He probably knows he has you hook line and sinker wrapped around his fingers now so it's time you play fire with fire. Activate your account or go out and see other people. You have to make him realise you're not that easy. I have reactivated my account. We have been talking for about a month. Now I know not to fall for all the cheap words. He's the one that brought up being exclusive, he's the one that was saying he had deep feelings for me, all that stuff and then his profile is back up.
WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well if he reactivated his account then it looks like he is no longer interested 1
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 well if he reactivated his account then it looks like he is no longer interested Why last night when we're together tell me how much he feels for me, send me a text message today saying he had such a wonderful time and how he's thinking about me. Why do people bother playing these games.
WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Why last night when we're together tell me how much he feels for me, send me a text message today saying he had such a wonderful time and how he's thinking about me. Why do people bother playing these games. Maybe he is a smooth talker
GoreSP Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 well if he reactivated his account then it looks like he is no longer interested Or he did the exact same thing she did and reactivated his profile to see if her profile was still active?
ja123 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I'm so sorry, but it sounds like he's a player. Good thing that you didn't yet have sex with him. Check out the baggagereclaim site. It's very good. 1
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Or he did the exact same thing she did and reactivated his profile to see if her profile was still active? He could have just said that. When I went on he was online. It could have been active from before, I just decided to check today. Anyway, I don't care what excuse he comes up with if he responds - I think he is just a player.
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 When I think of all the things he said and did for me though - he really was a smooth talker. It's hard to believe it was all bullsh*t.
WP4046 Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 yes OP just be glad u didnt have sex yet, or did you???
Author kalyanna Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 yes OP just be glad u didnt have sex yet, or did you??? No sex!!! Yes, very happy about that. I think I would be devastated if I did.
HappyLove Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Welcome to the world of OLD. This is exactly what a lot of the men do to get in your pants. Feed you a load of crap and then open their account again. Move on and take this one as a lesson learned. It happens ALL THE TIME with OLD, just read the forums. 2
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